Family demands to stay at couple's one-bedroom apartment for Christmas, husband agrees behind wife's back, who refuses to give in: ‘Space is already so limited’

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    Woman orginazing one bedroom apartment
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    AITA for not wanting my husband’s family to stay with us for the holidays?

    We have a 1 bedroom apartment with a 7 month old. Space is already so limited.
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    My husband's sister and her family are flying across the country to spend Christmas with us for 11 days.
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    They insisted they stay with us instead of getting a hotel. Of course my husband agrees to this without talking to me.
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    When he does ask me about it, I explain how it's going to be crowded. The noise has to be kept to a minimum because of the baby.
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    My son already has trouble sleeping so who knows how it'll be by next month. Husband is working some days while they're here so he insists they use my car to go and do stuff while I'm home with the kid.
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    The problem I have the most is when I speak up, he immediately says I'm against his family, even though he's always talking crap against mine.
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    Family celebrating Christmas
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    My family hasn't been over to see my son yet because they know it's going to take hotel and car rental fees.
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    They don't insist on uprooting my entire routine for 11 days. My mom can get me discounts because she works at a hotel.
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    But that's still not good enough for them I just think it's rude to insist on sleeping on an air mattress that will take up half our living room.
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    My son will not have a safe place to play. I'll have to lock myself away to pump every 3-4 hours.
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    Our routines will be shattered. I have a feeling their kid will be loud and wake the baby.
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    Husband said "don't get mad if sisters kid breaks things." He's 5... I'm going to be mad.
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    I'm made to feel like the AH because I have an opinion. The more I think about it, the angrier I get AITAH?
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    cmooneychi26 NTA. Good grief! I would be leaving to visit my own family with the baby for 11 days. He can deal with his sister. Good luck. UpdateMe
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    Extreme_Sector_6689 You should be rethinking this marriage....hes got zero consideration for you
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    3Maltese 11 days! No, 2 days top for someone to sleep on an air- mattress in your living room. This isn't about being against his family. It isn't a family matter at all. You simply cannot hosts in your home for 11 days in a one bedroom apartment, especially for three additional people. I would offer the car but say that they can use it on specific days, but not during the entire time. Or, his sister can take your husband to work and use his car while he is at work. Who is buying all of the food
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    bia834 Take your car and head to a hotel and get a room. Let your husband stay at the apartment with his family and cook and clean for them and Pack away any items of yours they make break. Leave your husbands stuff out who cares if they break his stuff. Make sure your husband stays at the apartment with them. And when they leave, he better have the place cleaned up and ready for you to come home to it. I bet he does not make that mistake again.
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    NahazMadjah 1876 Sounds like you need to plan on being elsewhere for the holidays.
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    Pale_Pumpkin_7073 NTA but since your mom can get a discount on a hotel, book one for you and your son. Stop by when your husband is home so they can see the baby but sleep elsewhere.
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    molgab Contact your mum and either go to her or see if she could get you a discount on a room and take your car with you. Just tell everyone you have no issues with them staying as long as they clean up after themselves as you'll be busy caring for the baby. Let them be under each others feet and that way any arguments that happen you're not there and you didn't cause them. You can't get the blame if it's nothing to do with you then. Hopefully your son will settle in the hotel and you can have a
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    RJack151 NTA. Tell your husband that you and your son will be at a hotel until they leave.

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