Entitled mother points out that her teen daughter’s “Gucci” birthday purse from her 15-year-old boyfriend is a fake, only for her husband to defend the boy and accuse her of being materialistic, sparking family tension: 'I felt like it was tacky'

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  • Woman comforting her teenage daughter
  • AITA for telling my daughter that the purse her boyfriend got her was actually fake?

    I (42F) have a 15- year-old daughter, Sophie with my husband (42M). And she's been dating this boy from school for about five months.
  • He's her first real boyfriend-he's so sweet, polite, kind of shy, an absolute gentleman and I'm happy he's the first boyfriend she ever has.
  • Anyway, Sophie's birthday was last week, me and my husband arranged for her and her friends (and boyfriend) to be able to celebrate her birthday at a restaurant, her boyfriend gave her a purse as a present-a Gucci purse, and the next morning she was so excited to show it to me.
  • Now, let me set the scene. It was morning, the curtains were open, sunlight was pouring into the kitchen, and the overhead lights were still on.
  • The whole room was bright. But even with all that light, the bag just didn't shine.
  • The gold hardware looked dull, the leather had that flat, plasticky look, and when she handed it to me, it didn't even have that smooth, supple feel real leather should have.
  • Woman taking a photograph of a handbag
  • The bag looked tired. And this was the morning after she got it. At first, I just smiled and said it was lovely because I wasn't about to downplay a gift, but then I noticed the logo.
  • You know how Gucci bags usually have that interlocking double G? Well, this one had OG.
  • Literally. Not stylized, not subtle -just one G and one O, linked together like it was trying really hard to be convincing.
  • So I gently told her how I didn't think that it was an actual Gucci purse.
  • And then she took a closer look with me and she entirely flipped, now I didn't undermine the gift or anything, I told her while it might be a fake it's the thought behind it that counts- and that maybe he himself didn't know it was a fake.
  • But Sophie, being my daughter just said "yeah, but like.. no." Whatever that would mean. Later that evening, I told my husband about the whole thing, expecting him to agree that the fake bag was a little tacky since he's usually annoyed if someone got me a fake item or something, or something he didn't find "worth value".
  • But no-he immediately got defensive. He said told me I was being too harsh on a fifteen year old like he was supposed to whip out 50 grand and throw it on our daughter.
  • So I told him it wasn't like that, while it was sweet he tried giving her something expensive, to me i felt like it was tacky-while I didn't admit this to our daughter but it was weird to me 5, 15, 25.
  • Buy something from shein, target, etc in your price range! Not something that's fake! It takes away the entire meaning of things.
  • My husband seems to disagree though. And since then he's been not talking to me about how materialistic I am, my daughter hasn't fully rejected the purse-she's still wearing it and still likes it, just not as much.
  • Teenage boy and girl
  • But now I feel bad, so charlotte's potato's am I the ahole?
  • SnooJokes7657 I really hope this isn't real, because this is ridiculous. Depending on where he bought it he may not have known and at the end of the day, who cares? She's a teenager. Most aren't carrying bags worth thousands of dollars.
  • cultoftwinkies If this is real, I'd say that you're awful. No way in hell I would disparage a gift like that. Why destroy your own child's joy of a gift from someone important to her, who by your own admission treats her well? Her boyfriend is 15. Of course it's a fake. Who the hell cares?
  • Haunting-Plantain870 I assume you've never been for a walk along Canal Street here in NYC. It's a knockoff world, and I have the fake Rolexes to prove it. Tell her to have fun with the purse. It's literally not a big deal.
  • Valuable Island_8556 I think I'd be upset if it HAD been an actual Gucci purse unless his last name is Besos or something. A gift that expensive is a totally inappropriate gift for most 15 year olds. You may not have realized the impact of your words, but now is a good time to discuss gratitude and politeness with your kid. Teenagers are brutal, and I'd hate for him to get shamed by their friends over a silly purse.
  • Accomplished Jump3866 Yeaaaah, as a Mom/GMom of 5 Sons/2Grands, you shoulda let that go. I've seen how they agonized over getting a great gift for a girl. It indeed was the thought that counts, and you tarnished that from your big age.
  • wowagressive Yta kinda teaching your daughter to be materialistic
  • tinytinyfoxpaws YTA and giving me MAJOR ick. Who tf writes a sonnet like that to disparage a 15 year old boy's gift? He probably didn't even realize and you've probably fractured their relationship. Your husband is right: you're in the wrong here I hope that in real life you aren't as mean and vapid as you come across here
  • Lazy-Sussie21 Why didn't you just keep your opinion to yourself. As they always say, it's the thought that counts, especially at their age. Agree with your husband! MO, YTAH

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