29-year-old mother of 6 demands her 34-year-old sister house, feed, and financially support her, her kids, and her husband: 'I cannot handle 8 children and 3 adults in my home. I cannot feed all those mouths.'

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Emmy Pratt • Writer and Editor
Nov 21, 2025 8:00 PM EST

She has a partner and a kid of her own; she can't be responsible for all of this craziness.

It's easy to feel pressured to help in a dysfunctional situation where there are kids involved. You probably wouldn't house the most irresponsible members of your family if they were bachelors and bachelorettes. Still, if they had a couple of ragamuffins with nowhere else to go, you might feel more inclined to help them out. 

Manipulative people know that normal people have a soft spot for kids, so they will use their kids to get their way. They'll leave their kids with family members without prior warning to go off and do God knows what, because they know their family members are better people than they are and will take care of those kids because they have a moral duty to do so. You'd be surprised how many people get through parenthood by just offloading their kids to the nearest adult until that adult gets fed up dealing with them, then quickly moves on to the next adult who will tolerate their baloney. It takes longer than you'd think for certain adults to get fed up with their family members' consistently irresponsible behavior.

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  • The older sister in this story has dealt with her younger sister and her six kids too many times to count, and now she's finally finished. After demanding that she give them a place to stay, she stood her ground and told her sister to find somewhere else to go.

  • Am I the bad guy for not letting my sister and her 6 kids stay with me?

    First time poster, hopefully I'm doing this right. Probably gonna be long. I (34f) have taken care of my sister (29) her entire life. I've cared for her when she was a baby (POS mom), all throughout her adolescent years, and have taken her kids in her adult years so she could "figure life out" while she went off to different states. Leaving me to care for her
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  • children with no extra support for months (on top of my own family) and then she'll randomly show up and yank them away as soon as they settle in and stop crying for her. We also have different religious beliefs, while I'm more lax she is very rigid and condemning. Meanwhile she can cheat on her husband and all is fine. I'm always left off of
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  • everything that's important to her. She only contacts me when she needs me to fix her life. So in September I deleted her off social media. A week ago she text me out of the blue saying she needed my address immediately because she and her kids are in my town and are living in her truck. She lives 20+ hours away. She had all that time to ASK. I didn't answer,
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  • then she said she just realized I deleted her off everything. It took her 2 months to notice I wasn't around. 2 months. I didn't respond to her for 3 days because I didn't want to be mean with my words. I told her I have finally found peace and happiness in my life and that I cannot compromise that for her chaos. That she'll have to fix it herself this time.
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  • She's a tornado. She just comes in, destroys everything, then leaves like it's no big deal. I'm stuck fixing my life after fixing hers. I'm tired. I cannot handle 8 children and 3 adults in my home. I cannot feed all those mouths. I rent and it specifically says no more than 6 people in this unit. She never responded so I'm assuming she found a place. A
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  • bridge she hasn't burned yet. AITAH?
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  • -----him----- She has six frickin' kids and is too irresponsible to take care of them herself, plus she's cheating on her husband. I would have cut her ass off a looong time ago.
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  • Slurpees ts Yeahh it's crazy cuz OP wasn't even being petty. She literally sat on the text for days just so she wouldn't snap. That's someone who's exhausted but still trying to be decent. Sis is living on chaos mode and expects everyone else to catch the fallout
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  • youknowimright25 Ntq. 29 with 6 kids? Go to the fathers. Does she know any of the fathers? And get those tubes tied, damn.
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  • Dranask I'd do the same, just because you're linked by blood to hurricane doesn't mean you have to allow it in to your life especially if it's got 6 tornadoes running around it. ΝΤΑ
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  • InsaneClownMom NTA - sometimes people need to be given a hard boundary given in order to hit their rock bottom and either work their way out of it or not... You and your kids deserve peace!
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  • Regular_Boot_3540 NTA. Stop listing off the reasons why you can't. You don't want to, and that's enough. It boggles my mind she would have six kids and then try to foist them off on other people.
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  • Agitated_Limit_6365 You don't have the right to house them under your lease. It's not up to you.
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  • everyothenamegone69 Good god, the sad thing is you didn't learn your lesson earlier. Better late than never.
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  • Technical-Habit-5114 Codependency is so hard for everyone You are doing the right thing. Its only after they burn through everyone and they are left with their own choices that their is any hope of change. I'm sorry for her kids. But none of this is on you.
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