‘If I told her first, she would tell everyone’: Gossipy sister steals the spotlight when her sibling announces she's pregnant, crying about how the couple kept the news a secret until they were ready

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  • AITAH for announcing my pregnancy at Thanksgiving My husband and I recently found out we're pregnant.
  • Couple announcing their pregnancy
  • We are really excited about the news, but want to wait until the end of my first trimester to make sure everything is well with the pregnancy. So we decided to announce our pregnancy
  • at Thanksgiving, when the whole family was together, so that we could tell everyone at once. I only told two people in my family, and I knew that they could keep a secret; besides that, no one
  • else knew. As soon as we made the announcement, one of my sisters broke down crying and was very upset. She wanted to know first and was upset that I didn't tell
  • Woman crying in front of family
  • her, since she always told me about all her pregnancies first. But my sister cannot keep a secret; she's a constant gossiper, especially with family. I told her first
  • that I got into graduate school, and she told my parents before I could; she announced my engagement to my mom before I could.
  • So my husband and I decided to keep it a secret, especially until we knew everything was healthy with the baby. I knew if I told her first, she would tell everyone
  • in the family, and it would really upset me if I found out my whole family knew before I wanted them to. After she found out I didn't tell her first at the dinner table, she full- on started crying. After that,
  • she went after other people in my family, my parents, and my other siblings. They were just overall agitated and crying, and made everyone at Thanksgiving upset. And honestly made me feel bad
  • when we made the announcement. So am I the asshole for not telling her first, even though she always told me her pregnancies first?
  • Narwal_Pants NTA, she wanted to spread the news bc she wants to make it about her. She overreacted at thanksgiving to get empathy and attention and make it about her. She's horrible. I'm sorry.
  • SensitiveBean66 Not the asshole. You gave her multiple chances to prove she could be trusted with important news and each time she broke that trust. Trust is earned not given. She is
  • making this beautiful moment about herself rather than being happy with you and allowing the room to celebrate with you. I'm sorry she is making you feel guilty for doing what you wanted to do which was a wonderful idea.
  • NYCStoryteller NTA. I would have called her out for her reaction and told her straight up that I will never tell her anything first, because she's a gossip and always spills the beans to the rest of
  • the family. It doesn't matter that she "told you first". You're under no obligation to reciprocate. You get to share your good news in YOUR way, in YOUR own time.
  • PuzzleheadedData... NTA. Ur life updates are urs to deliver how u see fit. It's ok for her feelings to be hurt. Maybe she needs to work on the dramatics and theatrics tho lol

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