Unlikeable team lead insists all colleagues join mandatory monthly happy hour, gets humbled by state laws: 'People were terrified they would lose their jobs'

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  • Dressed down so I stood up

    I worked in an office where they promoted a very new, unexperienced, unqualified, suckup from an entry level guy to a team lead. One of three under the manager. There were roughly 30 people on the team. HR rules stated that he
  • a businessman sits at the desk in his office looking at his laptop
  • wasn't allowed to apply due to having been at the company < 1 year, had zero leadership experience, etc, etc. Grievances were filed with HR and dropped despite multiple, fully qualified individuals with spotless records being in the running.
  • He was known to be a suckup, and wasn't really liked prior to his promotion. After the promotion he was wildly hate.. Apart from a couple sycophants. Quite entertaining, in retrospect, how people will degrade themselves for the barest scraps of power...
  • Anyways, middle management knew he was reviled and told him he had to find a way to get people to like him. His solution was "not required but you should think of them as required" happy hours every month. For the first one, most everyone felt like they had to go and started figuring out how to fit it into their schedule. Some of these people had an hour
  • drive each way and were finding sitters for their kids. These people were terrified they would lose their jobs if they missed drinking a few beers with the boss. (I should note that he has roped in everyone under the manager, I'm not even technically under this guy)
  • a barman serves two beers to two men waiting at the bar
  • I knew my rights and declined the invite. He comes by my cube a few times and the day of to try to pressure me into being there. Dude, there is no way I'm spending my free time with work people. You can either keep me on the clock or you can't ask me to be there, I know
  • my rights. (I liked my team members well enough, had been to parties at their houses, etc, but I'm not going out with the Team Lead under any circumstances) Team Lead did not like that, and walked away in a huff.
  • Next day everyone comes in and everyone is pretending like they had fun when it's very clear they're just trying to get away from Team Lead's attempts at chumming with them. Around 10 we have a standup and he talks about how great it was to have everyone at the thing. Then he singles me out, talks about how anti-social I am, and how management notices when people aren't team players. Don't skip required events, etc.
  • LOL, okay dude. About 20 minutes later I email the entire team "Hey all, <team member> asked me about required after work events that are unpaid so I figured i'd share with everyone. State statute <blah says that for hourly employees like us that we can't be required to go to these sorts of things without being on the clock. So if you can't find a sitter and can't make it, you don't need to worry at all"
  • Totally friendly, totally non-confrontational. Totally effective. Team Lead sat by himself at the bar for the next two "required but not required" happy hours and had to find another way to force people to like him.
  • a man sitting at the desk in his office talking on a cell phone
  • Weird Object8752 Meow! he handed you that axe, didn't he? -
  • Zadojla It's much easier for people to like you if you're not an asshole. When I was a manager, I never scheduled social events, because my folks worked 24x7 in four locations, and there was no way to be fair (plus I don't like those kinds of events anyway).
  • Malibucat48 Was he buying the drinks at the bar? If not, that makes it even worse. But if he wanted people to like him, he could have had once a week pizzas for lunch. Pizzas are cheap and would probably be paid out of petty cash. Fridays are fun but Mondays would give the blah back to work day some pizazz.
  • Imguran It's not too hard to get people at work to like you, simply increase their pay to something reasonable - or even better - their worth. Also, don't pull crap like what happened here.
  • DarthBacon8or This is exactly the way to handle this. Don't forget the federal Fair Labor Standards Act. It is illegal for your boss to ask you to pick up a pencil for your job outside of being clocked in, let alone being required to drive somehwere and spend your time with those people.
  • Nervous_Ad_5583 Was this business some sort of a start-up by a twenty-something? Is there no formal policy and procedure manual? It sound as if there will be more chaos down the road. Why do people insist on starting businesses for which they have neither talent nor skills? Sad.
  • PoolExtension5517 The first rule of getting your team to like you is to not ask them to like you. Second rule is to not be a dick.
  • xboxgamer2... Petty revenged served in a solitary fashion.
  • KaeOss 12 I always tell my coworkers "Love and appreciate you all, but my off time is for the people I don't get paid 40 hours a week to hang out with."

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