Overworked employee calls out boss in a 3:00 AM email after being set up to fail following her returns from medical leave: 'I couldn't take it anymore'

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  • I couldn't take it anymore. The following sequence of events resulted in the most unprofessional resignation I have ever submitted.
  • Monday August 8th: Meeting with Manager, Director, and VP about high visibility project. VP added comments/issues I needed
  • to address before our next meeting (Today). I advised Manager I was having kidney pain. My health concerns were dismissed.
  • Tuesday August 9th: After 6 hours in the ER, I was admitted to the hospital with a 9mm kidney stone and 33% kidney function. Had anxiety about missing any time...even for a hospitalization.
  • Wednesday August 10th: Had emergency surgery. Received text from Manager asking if I was logging on to work.
  • Thursday August 11th: I was discharged from the hospital late in the day...with a stent, a lot of medication, and a scheduled outpatient follow up procedure. Manager asked if I was working the next day.
  • Friday August 12th Twelve hours after discharge, I logged in for work. I already had an IM asking if I logged on yet. Instead of asking how I was, pressure was applied to have all comments
  • addressed but prioritize another project. I advised that I had a follow-up appointment on Monday August 15th but would only take half day.
  • Monday August 15th: Had connectivity issues in the morning. Notified Manager- advised I would login after appointment and work late. At
  • 5:00 pm received a text from Manager to join last minute meeting (in the middle of said meeting so I missed the entire purpose of meeting). At 5:30, I
  • logged out of email/chat and DND my phone so I could focus on project before meeting with VP. After several hours, checked phone. Manger sent a text at 7:34
  • telling my to urgently check email. Manager had sent email at 5:31 saying she received email from VP. ALL outstanding issues needed to be resolved by 9:15am
  • meeting. Some of the questions can only be answered by external stakeholders. It was not a reasonable request. Manager then points out that the last time I
  • worked on project was Friday morning and doesn't understand why it was not complete by now. She is concerned my "excessive absences" are impacting productivity.
  • I have never taken a relaxing day off. Other than 2 trips to the ER, first day of testing positive for C______, and my grandmother's passing, all missed time was medical had been pre-approved.
  • Taking into consideration my hospitalization, her request for prioritization of another project, and pre-approved time off...I had 12-16 hours total to complete a week's worth of follow-up. It
  • should be noted that the project was about something I had never been trained on and involved no less than 8 other stakeholders.
  • I stared at my computer and cried. I knew I was being set up for failure. I knew that this was going to fall on me. The VP and Director have a tendency to issue
  • scathing feedback in these meetings and make you feel really incompetent with passive aggressive statements.
  • A woman stands at her desk in a dark room looking upset.
  • I was having a panic attack when my husband found me at my desk at 3:00am. He said I have changed since joining the company. I was previously ambitious, driven, and confident.
  • I was respected by leadership and the team I led in prior positions. I was assertive and professional. Now, I am submissive and emotional. My
  • confidence is non-existent and I am constantly questioning my potential. My employer doesn't respect me.
  • It was in that moment I decided to resign effective immediately. I left my Manager holding the bag with the 9:15am meeting. I didn't hold back. I explained in excruciating detail why I decided
  • to quit in the midst of a personal health crisis. I am losing my health insurance but I had to choose between my physical and mental health. I cleared out all non-proprietary documents and hit send.
  • No one has attempted to contact me; not even HR. I am waiting for the shipping label to return equipment and termination paperwork.
  • I feel so much relief. A weight has been lifted and the sun is shining brighter. I made a risky decision but as my mom texted earlier -"That job was not for you anyways. Something better is on the horizon."
  • UPDATE: I just had my exit interview (quick, right?) She said "We got your resignation letter at like 6:00am-wow". I didn't go into anymore detail than what was in the letter because I know that they really don't give a shit.
  • Nothing I say at this point will make a difference. Why waste time explaining myself again? It's over. It's final. Time to move on.

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