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It's natural to get excited about somebody, but sometimes you get ahead of yourself and wish you hadn't let the cat out of the bag as quickly as you did. It can end up hurting your feelings even more to suffer the embarrassment of having to recount everything you told your friends. For all those reasons and more, one woman decided to keep her relationship to herself. She wanted to make sure it was worth talking about until she told everything to her friends. Plus, some issues in her past made her especially guarded. But her friends didn't see it that way. The way they saw it, she was keeping important stuff from them, and they felt betrayed by that. Read on to see whose side you're on and what you think about it.
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Am I in the wrong for 'betraying' my friends by having a secret boyfriend?
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Friends say they're 'betrayed' that 24-year-old kept her boyfriend a 'secret,' claim they should have known before 4 months: 'Basically everybody blew up at me, telling me I had lied to them'
You know what they say, "secret secrets are no fun unless you share with everyone." But this is not always a popular opinion. Secrets exist for a reason. If you're keeping something from someone, you likely have a reason to. Unless you're just doing it out of fear, which you should avoid doing, you probably have some sort of material reason for keeping some information to yourself. Maybe you want to spare somebody's feelings, or maybe you want to spare your own. We all have our reasons for keeping some things to ourselves, and that's not a crime. This is especially understandable in the beginning stages of a romantic relationship.
Those things have a way of never going how you expect them to. The beginning of a relationship is delicate. You're still trying to figure out how each other works, and you're probably saving some aspects of your personality for later on. You don't want to offend them and risk scaring them away. You also don't wanna make too much out of something too early and then have to walk it back in front of all your friends. Who hasn't done that?
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