Parents let their 8-year-old daughter get excluded in class because the 3rd grader forgot to ask them to buy craft supplies, mom gets roasted: 'She's a child'

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  • Dad taking a little girl to school with a backpack on.
  • "[I'm] not getting craft supplies for my daughter"

    I(37F) and my husband (37M) have a daughter (8F) and a son. This post is only about my daughter. She is in 3rd grade now, this happened recently. When we were getting ready for school, she told me in the morning in a panic that she needed craft supplies for a project at school. I
  • asked what she wanted and that we probably have it at home. She brought her bag and pulled out a crumpled circular from her school which gave a long list of
  • supplies to bring on that day. It had a lot of stuff including but not only- 1 chart paper, photographs printouts, markers etc. We only had a few things already with us.
  • They were things we couldn't get at the moment as any shops that could have those nearby don't open until 8:30 (her school starts at 8:30). Then I told her it's simply not possible for us to get them this late. I checked the date
  • of the circular and it was sent well before the holidays and she had plenty of time to tell us. I asked her why she didn't tell us, she said that she completely forgot. I told her we can't get them today. She cried and begged to at least stay home but I said no. She begged me to bring them to school, I told her I couldn't.
  • After I sent her to school, at around 10, I got a call from her teacher asking when I would be bringing the supplies (she told her teacher I would bring them). I told her that I wasn't bringing them. Her teacher said that all the other kids are working on
  • their project while she is sitting out. I told her to let her sit out, actions (or the lack thereof) had consequences and if she hadn't told us this late, we could have gotten them. Maybe next time, she will tell us if she needs something in advance.
  • After her teacher told her that I wouldn't be bringing them, she broke down crying. The teacher consoled her by telling her to help her classmates and that she would check if she can arrange for another chart for her. Her
  • Little girls working on a craft project together with paint.
  • teacher asked the others if they had extras but they didn't. She said she would check the art room if there were extras she could use and went to check, but there weren't. The teacher just told my daughter to continue helping her classmates.
  • After school, she went crying to my husband that I didn't bring them. After I came home, he asked me why I couldn't just bring them to her. I told him that it was a long list of things and that I didn't have time last minute. I showed him the list and
  • he agreed with me and told her that it was too late to ask for these things. She said she was forced to sit out and and her classmates had fun and I should have let her skip school- I'm not setting a bad example for her.
  • Her teacher called me later and asked me how I could do this to her? She's a child and had to sit out because of me and that I should have checked her bag before and not blamed her. She told me I was wrong to not pay more attention to her and should have at least brought a chart paper.
  • Boring_Animator6638 Girl. She's 8. You need to be on her asking if she has notes, homework, parent approval signatures etc that you should see. Every day. You need to look in her bag every day. Do it with her and show her what must be done so as she grows she can start. If she was 13 I could get it but common. YTA.
  • Level_Fox104 YTA. She's 8 and yes there are consequences to our actions, but at 8, why are you not checking her bag and folders or at least asking her if she has anything to give you. It was a daily routine for our daughter when she was that age.
  • Numerous-Bet3575 "Her teacher called me later and asked me how I could do this to her?" I don't believe this for a second.
  • heidismiles INFO: What's your usual way of keeping on top of your daughter's school work and supplies? Do you go through her stuff together or what? You didn't say anything about that.
  • NaniRomanoff I do think 8 is a bit young to not be checking your child's bag for important information from her teacher. Like she's a child. They're literally brand new to the planet with very little understanding of the passage of time or the logistics involved in making things happen. And I do think it's a bit unfair for you to effectively punish her for a predictable age appropriate mistake when if you'd been checking up on your child's schoolwork appropriately you would have already known ab
  • Competitive_Test6697 Theres no way on earth that teach called again, way after school to have a go at you.
  • FarlerFive YTA She's a child. She is 8 years old! This is your job as a parent. I hate that people expect kids to be what they are not. I still forget things. It's life. Don't expect more from a child than you are capable of. I am sure that you forget things. At that age, I asked my children if they had paperwork for me & checked their backpacks. No way a flyer from before the holidays would not have been seen.
  • Imaginary-Fly-2160 I don't know about your school, but in mine all communications are also sent to the parents' email. Do you not receive those? They'd never just send an 8 year old home with a paper in their backpack for something important.
  • Overall-Lynx917 Am I to assume that as an 8 year old child you were utter perfection? It must have been such a blessing for your parents to have a child that never got anything wrong. Your daughter will remember this for the rest of her life. YTA
  • Anxious_Reporter_601 At 8 YTA for not checking her bag, if she was 10+ I'd expect her to bring the note to you or face consequences for forgetting, but 8 is a bit too young.

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