17-year-old refuses to sell her 2 concert tickets so her friend can attend their girlfriend's high school graduation the same night as the concert: 'My mom was the one who paid over $200 for these tickets.'

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Emmy Pratt • Writer and Editor
Feb 7, 2026 8:00 PM EST

Her friend has a lot of nerve asking her to sell the tickets when she hasn't even paid her back for hers. 

There's nothing worse than making plans with someone who can't keep them. When I'm making plans with my closest friends, it's the easiest thing in the world. I text them and ask if they want to do X on Y date at Z time, and they either say yes or no. I don't have to remind them of the plans in the days leading up to the day; finally, on the day, I confirm with them that we're still on for tonight, and 99% of the time, they say yes. If they need to cancel the plans, they usually have the decency to do so a couple of days in advance, so I can plan something else for that night. 

Planning a trip or a concert is a bit more stressful than planning a casual hangout on a Tuesday night. You should check your calendar before making any definitive plans that cost a lot of money. Bailing on an expensive get-together makes the whole experience much more stressful for everyone, especially the person paying with their credit card. If you're the one causing all of the problems with planning, and you don't even have skin in the game financially, you're not going to get invited back for the next girls' trip or to the next Lorde concert. You can't expect all of your friends to accommodate your chaotic choices.

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  • The teen in this story knows the value of the dollar. Her mom bought her and her friend tickets to the Lorde concert, and she knows they weren't cheap. But now her friend wants her to sell these tickets so she can attend her girlfriend's high school graduation, which is the same night as the concert.

  • Am I wrong for refusing to sell my concert tickets?

    I, 17 F had plans to attend a Lorde concert in May alongside my friend Denise 17 F.
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  • I purchased the tickets in November and I didn't make her pay me back as I know she's been recently struggling financially.
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  • For background, Lorde is my all time. favorite artist, and I already took this friend to one of her concerts before last year.
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  • Around a month and a half ago, Denise informed me that her friend and her girlfriend had purchased tickets for the same show in seats directly behind us.
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  • When I first found out about this, I was a little put off as me and the girlfriend do not get along very well, and I am not close with the friend.
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  • Not to mention I am supposed to be driving all three of them to and from the concert which is an hour and a half away.
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  • Today I was woken up from my sleep by Denise spam calling me with claims of an emergency.
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  • When I was able to call her back she informed me that their Graduation Night is happening the same night as our concert.
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  • I was then added into a group chat including Denise and the other 2 girls. Denise had sent a screenshot of tickets for the show the day before our original show and claimed we should sell our tickets and buy those ones so they can attend and not miss Graduation Night.
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  • I don't agree with this at all since my mom was the one who paid over 200 dollars for this ticket and I know she definitely wouldn't want to pay for that again and who knows if Denise would even pay me back.
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  • I just don't feel that it is fair that Denise thinks she can make the decisions with what to do with the ticket even though she didn't put any money into the tickets.
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  • AITAH?? UPDATE!!!! After I posted this we got into a small argument about it. She claimed over and over again that I wouldn't be loosing money if we sold the tickets after I explained to her multiple times that we will NOT be guaranteed getting the money back if we choose to resell them.
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  • Every time I mentioned the fact that my mom wouldn't resell the tickets and that this decision isn't up to me she wouldn't even acknowledge it and would bring up another one of her idiotic points of why I should sell my ticket to accommodate to HER needs.
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  • She stopped replying so this morning i texted her letting her know i need that ticket back asap and she said she'll send it later today when she can.
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  • Hopefully she actually does!!! Thank you guys for all your kind words and advice
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  • hollowl0g1c Girl if you don't take your damn ticket back and take someone else. NTA, but that is not a friend.
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  • Key_Yogurt1295 Original Poster's Reply Thank you girl I'm trying to get the ticket back but I'm fucking stupid and decided to send her the ticket when I purchased them
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  • HungrySomewhere651 If it was in Ticketmaster, you may be able to rescind the sending of the ticket. But yes, you should get the ticket back since she hasn't paid for it, then tell your friend that she and her friends can go ahead and purchase tickets themselves for the other show, and you will stick to the original night and either bring another friend or sell your second ticket.
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  • Key_Yogurt1295 Original Poster's Reply I did purchase it through Ticketmaster and was hoping there was someway I could get it back or just cancel the ticket so she doesn't get the money from it. This is good to know I will definitely look into that!
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  • Independent_Put8671 They're 17, they're kids, op is only generous because it's her mom's money. Neither of them are financially struggling because neither of them are capable of being financially independent. OP is stupid for giving the ticket to Denise
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  • Key_Yogurt1295 Original Poster's Reply Exactly I'm a 'kid' I'm going to make mistakes, this is only my 2nd concert I have attended without my parents and I didn't think the girl who I had brought to a concert prior to this would pull something like this. I fucked up, I owned it, and I know not to make the same mistake again. Calling me stupid isn't gonna change anything or make anything better
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  • Kanebyll NTA - your tickets, you can do what you want with them. If she can't go then she can't go, find someone else. I get tickets for a re-occurring festival every year, I have 2-3 friends that are pretty much understood the ticket is theirs, unless they tell me otherwise they can't go and then they pay me back slowly with the ticket, or if they have financial issues we can work out like a long term plan. But I never transfer the tickets in their name. I always keep them on my phone for situa
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  • Key_Yogurt1295 Original Poster's Reply Noted lol I definitely won't be making the mistake of sending the ticket next time haha. horrible decision on my part
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  • IHaveBoxerDogs NTA. But since she has the ticket, she can probably just sell it. That's a real bummer. If you still had it you could just take someone else. Hopefully she'll do the nice thing and return it to you.
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  • Key_Yogurt1295 Original Poster's Reply I've been best friends with this girl since elementary school, I can't imagine she would just fuck me over like that but at the same time I also didn't think she would get this mad and be so rude to me. We don't EVER fight so this is really out of the ordinary
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  • Decent_Front4647 Is it graduation night for the three of them and not you? Denise might have to sit this one out and you can find somebody else to go with. You paid for the tickets, but they didn't figure out how close to graduation they were ahead of time?
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  • Key_Yogurt1295 Original Poster's Reply Yes it's just graduation night for them since I'm enrolled in an online program for school. I can't comprehend how they didn't know the date for it until now but I don't go to that school so what do I know
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  • Only-Breadfruit-6108 NTA but you did miss a step. You haven't told Nancy that she needs to pay you for the ticket before the concert happens, or she isn't going. At the moment, you've got two tickets and some plans. You don't have to drive her friends or anything that you don't want to do. You just need to stand up for yourself
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  • chrestomancy "Oh, sorry to hear that. That night doesn't work for me, so I'll be going using my existing ticket. I can probably find someone to take my spare, so don't worry Denise, I get you want to go with your other friends. Good luck, hope you find three tickets together." I'm sure there is some other person you know who'd want a free concert ticket complete with lift etc. Maybe they'll turn out to be a better friend than Denise. NTA
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  • lodav22 Take your mom and have a great night.
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  • Slow_Boat_848 NTA, I've learned it's better to do things alone sometimes. Especially when it comes to any type of travel or something. important to you. Your friend isn't being considerate of you right now.
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