Woman refuses to let date talk for 2 hours, then decides she's "bored": 'We weren't compatible'

When a date feels too one-sided, you're going to decline another date with that person. 

Modern dating is tough, isn't it? It kind of feels like the concept of going on a date with a random person just won't work out. You have to date someone you meet in a social setting. So often, when you agree to a date with someone you met from an app, the conversation is just uncomfortable, endlessly awkward, and ultimately unproductive. 

I've now been on so many dates where the person across the table from me spent the entire 90-minute first date talking about themselves. And I do mean the entire date. I've left dates where we had a few drinks and shared a cheese plate and I know everything about this dude… and yet, I will never see him again, because he didn't ask me a thing about myself. On to the next, obviously. 

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  • A lot of people think they're the main character in any given situation, and they're just not going to get far in life while acting on that assumption. Sometimes, you're sharing a space with someone — perhaps having a first date at a restaurant on a balmy spring night — and instead of getting to know that person, you're monologuing. You've got to be curious about the world around you, not just navel-gazing while your date listens to your one-sided stories. 

    This person had an experience just like that, and I really do feel for them. She sounds particularly loathsome! Check out what they said…

  • I went on a date where she talked non stop about herself for 2 hours, before finally letting me speak and interrupting me within 30 seconds to say, “I’m bored”

    The timeline of events. We met at a bar. I asked her initially how her day had been and she spent about 45 mins non stop talking about it.
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  • I asked questions and listened. After about 45 mins she eventually asked me how my day was, and within a minute was interrupting me to bring it back to her.
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  • This kind of thing proceeded for the next hour and a bit. A few times I tried to segue it to a conversation where we could both chip in.
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  • On one of the few occasions she let me talk she interrupted me to tell me she was bored and tired.
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  • I had already figured we weren't compatible but at this point decided it was time to go home.
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  • Shoutout to the point where she spent however many minutes telling me that the Olympics wasn't that impressive cause she couldn't tell if it was hard or not to be good at the sport.
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  • Edit: TIL that it is segue and not segway
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  • This person had a positive mindset!

    ExpBalSat That was as successful date. With no need whatsoever for a followup date, you determined you weren't a match. That's efficiency. Well done. it takes some people multiple dates, a relationship, or even a marriage to figure that out.
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    So much of dating is just realizing what you don't want in a partner. They're basically going to be your very best friend, so if you can't even stand a single night with them, why bother trying any harder to get to know them? 

  • Coorawatha Original Poster's Reply Well that's a nice positive spin on it!
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  • CodGroundbreaking933 Did she go quiet when the bill arrived?
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  • Coorawatha Original Poster's Reply Surprisingly no, she did offer to split however it honestly wasn't much so I just paid.
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  • This is good advice, but some people don't even respond to this...

    ShowmasterQMTHH The key in that situation is to interrupt and ask about something she is talking about, so she doesn't feel the need to ramble on autopilot. She probably went home thinking "he's a good listener, but i really wish he would have asked me about the stuff i was talking about" Its a great negotiating skill, i use all the time, if people are blathering on, i will interrupt and say "thats really interesting what you said about X, i feel Y way about it." or "that sounds really annoying,
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  • Coorawatha Original Poster's Reply Appreciate your advice but I was doing that for the first hour and then gave up. I think you'll agree but people you date aren't your therapist so once it gets to a certain point and I realise you just want to vent at me and don't care about what I'm thinking it's not worth the effort.
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  • Careless-Two2215 I have a friendly neighbor like that. I call these incessant talkers "radios". They just go on and on. I think she thinks she needs to fill in every empty moment of silence. I also think she talks more around polite people who won't interrupt her.
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    A lot of people seem to think that everyone around them wants to hear them talk, at all times, about anything. They can't handle any silence, or give the conversation room to breathe and change subjects a few times. But when one person is just monologuing for ages, it just makes the other person think that they're not even needed in the conversation at all. Instead of convincing that person that the talker is a good friend, they're just exhausted from hearing all that chatter without a second to share any of their own thoughts and feelings. 

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