27-year-old cat lover kicks her brother's girlfriend out after she maliciously scares her cats, brother demands an apology but gets refused: 'My home, my cats, my rules'

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  • Scared calico cat hiding under the couch.
  • Some context: I (27F) live alone and have two cats, Miso and Fig, who I've had for five and three years respectively. They're friendly with people they know but skittish around strangers,
  • which is completely normal. My brother (25M) has been dating someone ― I'll call her Rae - for about seven months. I've met her three times and
  • each time she's made comments about not liking cats and finding them "creepy," which I noted but didn't make a big deal out of because
  • plenty of people aren't cat people. Two weeks ago my brother asked if they could come over for dinner. I said yes and made a point of telling
  • Regal calico cat looking at their humans.
  • him in advance that the cats would be out and that Rae should just ignore them if she was uncomfortable and they'd eventually go to another
  • room on their own. During dinner Miso came into the kitchen, which he does constantly because he's nosy and food motivated.
  • Rae made a loud noise to startle him not a clap exactly, more like a sharp hiss and then laughed about it when he ran. I
  • said pretty directly that I'd prefer she didn't do that in my home. She said she was "just playing." Twenty minutes later she did it again when Fig wandered
  • in. I asked my brother and Rae to leave. My brother has since texted me saying I overreacted and that she was "just messing around" and
  • asking me to appologize to her. I have not and I don't intend to. My home, my cats, my rules. AITJ?
  • Woman coercing a scared cat out into the open.
  • WideWorldliness7587 Nah I'd be done too. You warned her, she did it anyway, then laughed? That's not "just playing," that's stressing out animals in someone else's house for fun
  • Positive_Scallion237 Your brother asking YOU to apologize is wild. She was a guest. The bare minimum as a guest is don't antagonize the living creatures that actually live there. Protecting Miso and Fig isn't dramatic, it's responsible.
  • Princess Bella1 NTJ. Tell your brother that torturing cats is a symptom of psychopathy and you don't need to have anyone like that in your house.
  • Fair_Custard_9179 Hiss at her every time you see her. NTJ. You were more tolerant and polite than I would have been
  • aniikenobi NTJ. I wouldn't want someone bu ying and scaring my cats in their own home either.
  • Lavender Twine_ The fact she did it again after you asked her not to says everything. That's disrespectful, period.
  • Still-Song-2258 I'm not a cat person. I am slightly allergic and got attacked on the face by one at a slumber party once while I was sleeping. BUT, if I don't want to be around a cat | stay away from where they live or ignore them if I'm at a friend's house that has indoor cats... that's so ride and nasty of her.
  • khendr352 Your brother's girlfriend has problems. She is r de, has no empathy and is unable to comply with anyone else's needs or requests even when minimum. He needs to dump this one. You did the right thing. No need to have idiots in your life like her!
  • DC_Empress NTJ, but how's about that cat tax of Miso and Fig, eh? ;-)

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