22-year-old bride and friend clash over money, even after the bride offers to pay for all 3 of the friend's children's flights to the wedding and childcare during the ceremony, but refuses to pay her the cost of childcare for the entire week

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  AITA for not paying my friend to have money for a babysitter to come to our wedding?

  
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• The alternatives here are “destination weddings,” where the bride and groom decide that all of their family and friends should pay for flights to and accommodation at expensive tourist destinations for their dream wedding.

  I, frankly, don't understand how these ever caught on and who could afford to attend these weddings, but maybe I'm just thinking in the wrong tax bracket.

  It's not uncommon for families to pitch in for part, or all, of the cost of the wedding, as this couple's family did. It may have even been the norm at some point until some point in recent history. In this case, this couple was fortunate enough to have had a family “gift” that also allowed them to cover the costs of some of their family's attendance.

  But when part of the wedding is paid for, and some of the guests' costs are covered, an invitation can turn into a negotiation. Who pays for what? How much is reasonable to expect? And where is the line in the sand where guests are “close” enough to qualify to have their costs covered?

  There's a line in the sand there somewhere, but it's not immediately clear where it should be, and it became a difficult topic of conversation for these friends when the friend sought to have the bride cover the cost of child care for her young children. It's actually even more complicated than that, as the bride actually offered to cover the costs of the children's flights and childcare on the day of the wedding itself, stopping short only at a refusal to fund an entire week's worth of child care. 

  There's definitely something to be said here about gift horses and looking in their mouth, if I was the friend I would have been overjoyed at the chance to bring my entire family along and still be rid of the kids on the night of the affair. But, hey, some people are never happy.

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  Is the bride wrong for not offering to pay for the ENTIRE cost of childcare?

  
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