Mom who cut contact with her kid for over 6 months, breaks the silence to complain they didn’t text on Mother’s Day

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Etai Eshet • Editor
May 17, 2026 1:15 PM EDT

Some people have a gift for making their own choices everyone else's problem, and this mother has clearly been practicing.

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  • My mom who abandoned me for her new family is mad i didn’t reach out for Mother’s Day.

    So I've been having a really rough week with my family, but i thought this was kinda funny in a kind of messed up way. So my parents are. divorced and i live with my
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  • dad and step mom and sis and that's a whole other story. Im not sure if the custody stuff was ever legal or if my mom and dad just kinda agreed id live with
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  • him,idk. But i have not seen or heard from my mom in over six months maybe more, haven't live with her in over a year. We have no relationship in my opinion.
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  • And today i get a text from her saying (i edited out stuff that would be too identifying)
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  • "hey (my name) i just want to be open and honest with you, im not trying to hurt your feelings or attack you but i was really hurt you didn't contact me for
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  • Mother's Day, i wasn't going to say anything because i didn't want to cause issues but it's been really bothering me and ( step dads name) and i both. agreed i should say
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  • something. I love you so so much and i know things are really complicated right now but im always going to be your mother and nothing will ever change
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  • that. Mimi( grandma) isn't doing well so id like you to write her a poem and have it ready but sunday, we are all going to get together for brunch. This might be
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  • our last one with her so please let's make it civil. (Step brother) will be there and I would just love it if the two of you wouldn't make this uncomfortable for Mimi. (Half siblings
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  • names) miss you and I know things are hard right now and that you are struggling but I love you so much baby and i promise
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  • Not reaching out for Mother's Day when you have had zero contact for over six months is not an oversight. It is just math. A relationship requires two people to actually show up, and a holiday card does not retroactively build one. The bar for a Mother's Day text is usually somewhere around having a mother who is present, reachable, or at minimum aware that silence goes both ways.

  • things are going to get better. Just give me some time okay? Love you so much -mama
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  • The text itself is a masterclass in selective framing. It leads with hurt feelings, pivots to reassurance, then smoothly transitions into a to-do list that includes writing a poem for grandma by Sunday and promising to keep brunch civil. All of this delivered with love you so much baby energy, as if the previous six months of nothing simply did not happen. The stepfather co-signing the decision to send it is a nice touch.

  • Now that might sound sweet but here is the backstory. She gave me up for her new family. I have to live with my dad and his new family because she
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  • What the text does not mention is worth more than what it does. No acknowledgment of the silence. No explanation for the distance. No recognition that being asked to write a poem and attend a family brunch for the people who replaced you requires a certain amount of audacity to request. Just a gentle reminder that she is always going to be your mother, which is biologically true and emotionally beside the point.

  • had a baby and had a toddler and her stepson is au tic and requires a lot of care and they just couldn't handle me being there.
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  • The part that makes this genuinely funny in the most exhausting way possible is the framing of just give me some time. Time for what, exactly, is left completely open. Time to sort out the situation she created. Time to figure out how to have a relationship with a kid she has not contacted in half a year. The request for patience is being made to the person who has the least reason to offer it.

  • Was i a bad kid? Nope, my stepson brother was being creepy to me and they chose him over me. So i have to live with my awful
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  • dad and his awful family because i don't want to share a room with a creepy grown man, buttttt shes hurt i didn't contact her for
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  • Being hurt that your kid did not call on Mother's Day is a feeling anyone can have. Sending that hurt to a kid you have not spoken to in six months and then including a homework assignment is a different thing entirely.

  • Mother's Day. Again we have had zero contact for at least six months, not a text or email or anything.
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  • SafeWord9999 I'd write back and say 'when you start acting like a mother, I'll start celebrating you as one'
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  • SuggestionPretty8132 You're a child. It is not you responsibility to maintain a relationship with your parent. Feel no guilt about this. You are
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  • not a play thing she can pick up and flaunt like a perfect family only when it's convenient for her, you are allowed to hold
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  • grudges, have hard feelings and be angry and resentful of her choices as an adult and how they affected you as her child.
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  • Sounds like she's asking you to do a lot, play the part, swallow your resentment, perform for her side of the family while doing nothing in terms of making you feel supported wanted and loved. That's not fair on you.
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  • You do not owe respect just because you were given birth to. Respect is earned not given, and it goes both ways, for adults and parents too. Hang in there
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