30-year-old ex-boyfriend contacts same age ex-girlfriend through LinkedIn right before her wedding after years of silence: ‘Then things got even weirder.’

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Olivia Arocena • Writer and Editor
Jun 12, 2026 8:00 PM EDT

If your long-ago ex, who had been completely absent from your life for years, suddenly started interacting with you: Would you see it as simple curiosity? Nostalgia?

At this point, the theory that exes have a radar that alerts them of when we're doing fine should be studied. The thing that gets me the most about this Redditor's story is the timing: It's never when we're single, it's never when we are missing them, it's always right before our wedding (with somebody else).

Not to get all cuckoo with you here, but how is it that they can feel it? How can they sense that we forgot them and are happy with our lives? We definitely don't know everything about human senses and the subtle ways in which information travels. Maybe this guy had been keeping tabs on her through LinkedIn, though, and that's how he knew. Some people don't want us, but also don't want the best for us, and they WILL break no-contact right before our wedding with someone else who really does love us. Be prepared.

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  • A photo of a wedding aisle
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    The aisle representing what our protagonist should walk through instead of answering her ex's connection request

  • Ex 30M blocked me 30F for years, then contacted me right before my wedding. Thoughts?

    1 30F am married now, but something happened shortly before my wedding that still occasionally crosses my mind, and I'm curious what outsiders would think.
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  • For context, my ex 30M and I had a very intense, complicated relationship/situationship from around 2013-2017. We were never officially boyfriend and girlfriend, but we were emotionally involved for years.
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  • The relationship was unstable, full of mixed signals, and ultimately ended badly. I cut contact in 2017. We had one brief closure conversation in 2018 and that was it.
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  • He later got married in 2022 and became a father in 2023. I eventually moved on and became engaged to my now husband 28M. By the time all of this happened, we were only a few weeks away from our wedding.
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  • Over the years, my ex had blocked me on basically every social media platform. We had no communication whatsoever. The only place we technically still had visibility of each other was LinkedIn.
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  • Then, a few weeks before my wedding, several things happened in a short span of time:
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  • -He followed me on LinkedIn. -He liked one of my recent posts. -Around the same time, he posted a cryptic photo from a convenience store near my family's old neighborhood.
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  • What made that last part stand out was that I had already been living abroad. for a couple of years by then, and that area had personal significance because it's where my family lived when he knew me.
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  • Then things got even weirder. Within a short time: He removed the like. He unfollowed me. But shortly after that, he sent me a Linkedln connection request.
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  • I never responded. Instead, I talked it through with my parents and my fiancé (now husband).
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  • She did the right thing with him, no drama, no mysterious follow-back, no nothing, but if we lived inside a romantic period film, she would have probably gone and have a final discussion with him [under the rain, with a passionate, angry, uncalled-for kiss] and rode into the sunset.

  • This is probably just a case of him using the same confusion tactics he used back when they were involved in a situationship. The sad part is that he is married and has a kid now, so there is more at stake. But let’s pay attention to the fact that he added her first and liked one of her posts, and only after she did nothing, like in a tantrum caused by rejection, he deleted everything and sent the connection request. All of that is a telltale sign of manipulation.

  • | ultimately declined the request and updated my LinkedIn profile photo to one that included my fiancé and me in a professional setting. No conversation ever happened.
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  • To this day, I genuinely don't know what to make of it. The things that stand out to me are:
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  • The timing (right before my wedding). The fact that he had blocked me everywhere else for years. The sequence of actions that seemed hesitant or conflicted.
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  • The lack of any direct message explaining what he wanted.
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  • a phone with the linkedin app open
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    A picture representing the moment her ex opened linkedin for his final act

  • Our protagonist seems to be stronger now and practically immune to her ex’s maneuvers, but she did wonder, so he sadly managed to cause some curiosity. All in all, if she only shares that curiosity with us and keeps on acting right with him, things are probably going to be all right. Basically, if he really did have something important to say to her, shouldn't the approach be different?

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