Sisters-in-law who also work together create a family dispute after one blames the other for losing her job, the other admits: ‘I spoke to our boss’

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    Rival female coworkers, depicted by two models.
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    AITAH for “getting my SIL fired” according to her, a year later she still blames me?

    I'm 31F and my fiancé's sister who I'll call my future SIL is 35F - she briefly worked at the same office as me - for about 3 months.
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    For context I did not hire her and I was not the one who told her about the job. Once she started she was given training and support including sitting
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    with someone for around two weeks and receiving step-by- step guides for certain tasks.
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    The issue was that she repeatedly made mistakes and became defensive when anyone tried to correct them. This included sending out incorrectly
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    formatted documents, not checking her work properly, missing information, sending emails with issues and generally creating extra work for other people who then had to fix things.
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    There were also uncomfortable interpersonal moments. She often pushed back when given feedback and there were times where her tone came across as dismissive or argumentative.
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    One incident happened when our boss asked her to correct wording in a document. She argued that she "didn't make it up" and suggested someone
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    else could fix it later. Our boss told her that wasn't the point and that things needed to go out correctly the first time. The situation escalated and she stormed out for a few minutes.
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    Another incident happened when she asked me for help on a task she had already asked about several times. I tried to explain where she could look and what she should check but
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    at one point she asked if something on her screen was correct. I couldn't see her screen so I said I didn't know. She then said something like "So you don't know" in a tone that felt
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    really patronising - she was saying I don't know what I was helping her do.
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    By that point I was stressed and felt like I could not keep working directly with her. I spoke to our boss and said I was okay with her being there but I couldn't keep helping her or fixing the
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    same types of issues. I specifically said I would rather. just do my own admin and I cannot work directly with her.
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    Women standing at the kitchen table in a family gathering, depicted by models.
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    The next day my boss let her go. I was not present for that conversation and I did not tell him to fire her.
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    Since then she has blamed me for losing the job. She has told people that I got her fired, that I had an issue with her and didn't like her, sabotaged her and that I spoke to her badly (like an
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    idiot). A year later she still says things like people "don't know what went on in that office" and that I am "not the person I portray myself to be."
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    From my side I feel like her work issues and behaviour were already visible to management and I only raised how it was affecting me. But I also
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    understand that my conversation with our boss may have contributed to the final decision even if I didn't directly ask for her to be fired.
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    This has now caused ongoing drama in my fiancé's family because she still seems to believe I had some kind of agenda against her.
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    So AITAH for speaking to my boss about not wanting to work directly with my future SIL anymore if she still blames me a year later for getting her fired?
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    WearifulSole If she's bringing it up in front of other people, just would correct her with the truth. "You weren't fired because of me, I don't have that power. You were fired because you were bad at your job."
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    Small-Improvement984 NTA Where is your finance in all this madness? They should really tell sis to stop bad mouthing you. She sounds horrible.
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    JennaLS Girl, stand up for yourself. For her to be holding onto this grudge for a three month position where she didn't work under you, she's just driving a wedge. Tell her she and her sh attitude are the cause of her own misery.
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