25-year-old boyfriend accuses girlfriend of "making stories in her head" after he calls her another name: 'I don’t even know any Olivias. I’m exhausted from the move, it’s hot out, and I was carrying a heavy piece of furniture.'

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Olivia Arocena • Writer and Editor
Jun 28, 2026 10:30 AM EDT

Some excuses don't make sense

I've lived every possible failed romantic story, and I've heard countless ridiculous excuses for bad behaviour, trust me, but blaming a heavy piece of furniture because you said another person's name is one I've never heard of before. I think it's clear that something is off about this situation. The problem is, what can you do about it when YOU JUST FINISHED MOVING IN TOGETHER? How does one proceed?

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  • man with a box in his head surrounded by moving supplies
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    A visual representation of the boyfriend using the moving in excuse

  • Boyfriend (25M) who I (23F) just moved in with called me another woman’s name, details keep getting weirder

    My boyfriend and I just moved to DC after being long distance for a year (Boston and Los Angeles). I went back home for a year postgrad because my mom had cancer, while he stayed in Boston for his
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  • career. We both recently got jobs in DC and finally moved in together about three weeks ago. A few days after moving in, we went to pick up a desk from Facebook Marketplace. While we
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  • were loading it into the car, he said, "Open the door for me, Olivia." My name is not Olivia. It's not even remotely close to my name. I was caught off guard, but the seller was standing
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  • right there and we still needed to finish the transaction, so I didn't say anything immediately. On the drive home, I asked, "Who's Olivia?" He immediately got defensive and said, "I don't
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  • even know any Olivias. I'm exhausted from the move, it's hot out, and I was carrying a heavy piece of furniture." That explanation didn't really make sense to me. I looked through his
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  • a room filled with lots of boxes and plants
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    A photo depicting all the recently moved-in stuff when the new name came up

  • Instagram following and pointed out that he follows a bunch of women named Olivia. He said they were just people he knew from college. It seemed odd, but we had just completed a stressful cross-country move, so I let it go.
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  • That night, though, I couldn't stop thinking about it. Then I remembered something from a few months earlier. I had borrowed his phone for something and noticed. he had been looking at a random girl's VSCO profile.
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  • It struck me as strange at the time, but I didn't make a big deal of it. Then I remembered that girl's name was Olivia. I asked him if he recognized the name "Olivia [Last Name].” He
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  • said no and claimed he'd never heard that name before. That seemed strange because when I looked her up, I discovered they work at the same relatively small company (around 100
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  • Ok, we all know that he not remembering her is a lie. What makes the lie alarming is that he got so caught up in trying to hide it. He could’ve just said: ‘It’s a girl from work’, and it would’ve been fine, but clearly he feels guilty enough to try to hide it. I’m not saying he has been unfaithful; it’s just that maybe this girl is kind of important to him in a way, and he made it worse by pretending he didn’t remember anyone by that name. My theory is that this might be an honest mistake, somebody trying to elude having to explain something minimal, maybe a mild attraction to a colleague from work, that’s it. Plus, you can’t immediately move out if you just moved in, only having this piece of information. I don’t know, I think my stances regarding this kind of stuff are always kind of controversial. People are allowed to have intimate, platonic, mild work crushes while in a relationship, and they’re also not obligated to communicate them to their partners. I know people sometimes think you have to communicate EVERYTHING to the one you love, but if this were the case, what for? To create an insecurity where there should be none? To erase any privacy and sense of self you might have while in a relationship?

  • employees). Based on social media photos, they had even attended the same company Christmas party. I asked if I could look through his phone. He reluctantly agreed. In his
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  • email, I found well over 100 emails from her. They appeared to be work- related, but I still found it hard to believe that someone could receive that many emails from a person and then genuinely claim to have no idea who
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  • they are. At that point, I was feeling anxious and admittedly not thinking very clearly. I requested to follow her on Instagram. Two weeks later (tonight), she accepted my follow
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  • request. About 30 seconds later, she blocked me. When I brought that up to my boyfriend, he became extremely defensive again. He says I'm creating stories in my head,
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  • connecting unrelated things, and looking for problems that don't exist. I genuinely don't know what to think. Am I reading too much into a weird coincidence, or do these things together seem
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  • suspicious? Is it possible he's cheating, or am I letting my anxiety get the best of me?
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  • a mailbox that has a bunch of mail in it
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    A visual representation of the amount of e-mails the boyfriend got from Olivia

  • You might already know my verdict: to me, she let her anxiety get the best of her, and this is the case regardless of whether he is cheating or not; that’s how radical my stance is. Now that she has all this useless, distressing information, she can choose to bring it up again and try to recover from there. He can lie, he can tell the truth, he can do anything, but whatever the case may be, she should see if she feels something’s off with the relationship they have in itself and act accordingly to that.

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