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A model depicting the man having a big realization at the cinema
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watching Obsession made me realize that im a classic "nice guy"
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A representative picture of the man dating before he turns 'nasty'
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I haven’t seen Obsession yet; I’m planning to go see it on Sunday with my friends, but reading this has made me even more intrigued about the film. Although I love that he is self-aware and willing to change, I still think struggling with rejection like that is a major character flaw. Sometimes, when we get rejected, it feels like it’s a very personal thing directly tied to our biggest insecurities, and, for some, that feeling is too hard to process, so they take it out on the person who’s forcing them into that position. The thing, to me, is that nobody is really putting you in that position when they reject you. The problem starts when we make rejection a personal attack. We should try to understand rejection as something that happens to everyone, even if they’re beautiful, successful, talented, etcétera.
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A depiction of the man going to therapy to work through his newfound issues
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We should all collectively realize that nobody owes us anything when they are dating us. Someone can date you for five years and one day decide they don’t want to date you anymore; it’s simply how life works. That doesn’t mean they wasted your time or that they are disrespecting you; it just means things change. We are not entitled to somebody else’s love and affection. To get over the nice guy syndrome, I think this guy has to dig deep into his insecurities and his sense of entitlement, and if he does that correctly, he will be free to love more openly. Do you think he is going to achieve that?
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