Parents demand teenager pay $1,700 after friend's car sunroof breaks while opening it at the driver's request, reject family's offer to split the repair: 'We feel awful about the situation'

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  • Hey Reddit, Looking for some advice and perspective on a situation that's stressing out our family.
  • My teenage daughter was riding in her close friend's car (they've been best friends for over 10 years). While they were driving, her friend pointed to the sunroof and asked my daughter to open it. My daughter, without thinking, opened it manually. Later on, when they tried to close it, the sunroof wouldn't close.
  • Her friend blamed my daughter for breaking it. In the heat of the moment, my daughter verbally agreed to pay for the repair- without thinking about the possible cost.
  • Her friend's parents took the car to the dealer, and the repair estimate came back at $1700 for the sunroof. They are now asking us to pay the full amount.
  • We suggested splitting the cost as a fair compromise, but they refused. They said the car is only two years old, and that my daughter "used too much force" and broke it.
  • We feel awful about the situation and want to do the right thing, but we also feel like paying the entire amount isn't entirely fair, especially since our daughter didn't try to break it and was just following her friend's request.
  • To complicate things, this incident has damaged a decade-long friendship, which makes the whole thing even sadder.
  • Questions: Are we being unreasonable to offer to split the cost rather than pay it all?
  • Is it normal to hold a teenager fully responsible in this kind of situation? How would you handle this without making things worse for the kids' friendship?
  • Teen reaching toward a car sunroof to open it.
  • kcipsirhc How the heck does a teenage girl force an electric moonroof open manually? She literally grab the glass and force it open? Something doesnt add up. here.
  • rahah2023 Your daughter man handled an automatic sun roof and broke it. The lesson is if you don't know how to do something ask... she broke it her friend did not... how is it "fair" the friend and her family pay for your daughter's mistake? Agree, pay and don't destroy the friendship
  • ThisAutisticChick The right thing to do would be to pay the complete amount for the repair, unfortunately.
  • ShesGotaChicken2Ride She broke it. Yes, it was an accident, but like with any accident involving a car, whoever is at fault has to pay. Of If I accidentally hit your car in the parking lot, I have to pay to fix it. If I accidentally spill red wine on a white dress, I might have to pay to replace the dress or pay to have it dry cleaned.
  • Highthere_90 Your daughter did break it so paying for the repairs makes sense, yes she should be held accountable you even pointed out she did it without thinking If you want your kid to stay friends best thing would be not to argue with the parents and drag it out
  • Proper Armadillo6876 Didn't the driver try ti stop her from manually opening it? Why didnt faughter ask if she didnt know how to do it? Get 3 quotes and pay the whole cost.daughter wasn't thinking.
  • Parent talking with a worried teenager at home.
  • Odd Document8274 You are responsible for your daughter's damage. Pay up and repair the friendship.
  • Affectionate Band2709 You break it you pay for it. You're daughter alone caused the problem. Why should they pay half?
  • Wooden_Mode_8757 Half seems fair, but I would also ask for three quotes $1,700 seems insane.

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