Am I The A$$hole For Being Pissed About My Boyfriend Commenting On My Best Friend's Looks?

I've been dating Tyler* for about a month. He is super sweet, funny, stable, attractive...he pretty much checks all the boxes. Tyler and I also have a mutual passion for trying the various different cuisines that are available in New York City. One evening we went out for a lovely meal and decided to get some drinks afterward. My best friend - Michelle*- texted me and just so happened to be in the neighborhood. She had yet to meet Tyler, so I thought 'hey, no time like the present.'

Michelle joined us for a quick nightcap then was on her way. Right after she left the bar Tyler so casually said, "Wow, Michelle is stunningly beautiful."

I consider myself a very confident woman and I am in no way threatened by other women, but this comment really shook me for some reason and I just can't seem to forget about it.

I told Tyler I was heading back to my apartment (alone). He apologized, but also told me that it was just a stupid comment and I am being insecure. On one hand, it shouldn't be a big deal. It was just a comment about her looks. On the other hand, this is my best friend who we would spend a lot of time with, and I feel like anytime the three of us are together I will just be thinking that he is more attracted to her than me.

Tyler has told me I look pretty in the past and certainly has complimented me on my looks, but has never quite said I was stunningly beautiful the way he expressed it about Michelle. I also think it is disrespectful. I definitely find some of his friends attractive, but I would never tell him so because I feel that would be super disrespectful to Tyler.

So, my new boyfriend expressed that he thinks my best friend is stunningly beautiful and now I feel disrespected and insecure. Am I the asshole for being so angry?

Drew, 35 - NTA. I don't think she's an asshole for feeling disrespected or insecure. I feel like anyone in her situation regardless of gender would feel that way - especially this early in a relationship.

Stephanie, 27 - NTA, but I do think breaking up with him would be ridiculous if this is the only thing you have to complain about. If you are secure in your relationship then a random compliment he gave a friend shouldn't be an issue.

Grace, 31- NTA. I don't know how I would feel about hanging out with my best friend and my boyfriend together. Despite how confident you are it's more about respect. He may not necessarily be an asshole but he is definitely an idiot for thinking it was OK to say this about your best friend or any other woman for that matter. Keep your opinions to yourself.

Greg, 29 - I don't think YTA, but I do think you just need to get over it. It was a stupid comment. Men are visual people and maybe he thought he was saying something nice by complimenting your friend.

Thoughts?!