Woman Fuming After Best Friend Wants To Name Her Baby Same Name As Her Ex

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May 16, 2021 10:00 AM EDT

There is usually a lot of thought that goes into naming your child. When you really think about it, it is an unprecedented amount of power that we all have. There are really very few restrictions on what ridiculous names you can give your kid. Just look at Elon Musk and Grimes. Their child's name is an equation for Pete's sake!

One woman wants to name her child the same name as her best friend's ex, and bestie is NOT happy about it. The woman wants to know if this makes her the A-hole, on Reddit's Am I the A-hole page.

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    Font - r/AmltheAsshole u/AITAfriends_ex_baby · 14h + Join O 2 E 1 AITA for giving my baby the same name as my best friend's ex?
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    The title can look kind of confusing at first glance, but Reddit user u/AITAfriends_ex_baby makes sure to clarify exactly what the situation is before asking for a conclusion from the Reddit community.

    Ex boyfriends? Babys? Name giving? Sounds juicy to me.

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    Font - The title sounds confusing so let me explain. I (30F) am pregnant and it's a boy. I already have a son (2M) named Harry (I changed a name a little so it's more appropriate for English) after my uncle. My husband (32M) and I want to name this baby Alan (also changed) for two reasons :
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    So she is en route to having a baby boy with her husband and wants to name him Alan. Now anytime I meet a little baby named Alan I'm going to have to assume it is this one. Unless the best friend is able to convince them to go in another direction of course.

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    Facial expression - that was the name of my husband's teacher who inspired him to also become a teacher
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    Font - •that is the name of the main character in my favorite book (it's not anything weird, pretty normal for our area)
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    Font - The problem is that my best friends ex is also named Alan and she doesn't want her godson to be called that (I already told her she'll be the godmom). I would understand this if they just broke up but they dated 10 years ago. She broke up with him. He didn't cheat. She didn't cheat. She just stopped loving him.
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    Human body - She insisted we pick another name but we love this one. Even Harry agreed he likes that name. My parents like that name. My in laws love that name. Everybody is happy except for her.
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    Font - She stopped talking to me on Wednesday. Some of our friend heard what happened and told me she said I was the asshole for picking that name "to hurt her". Our friends didn't say anything about their opinion since they don't want to get caught up in it.
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    Font - Am I the asshole though? 5.4k 319 Share +B
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    Almost every response we saw deemed her NOT the A-hole

    Rectangle - Daffodilzilla• 14h 9 Awards NTA Change the godmother. Narcissist are not good modèle for kids. G Reply 4 8.8k 3 ...
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    Font - Limp-Muffin3003 · 14h 1 Award She is willing to stop being friends over the name of someone she dumped a decade ago when she was 19/20. Could there be something you are missing - an ominous reason they broke up that she didn't share at the time? If not, then don't worry, you are absolutely NTA. You're friend needs to get over herself - the world does not revolve around what she wants. If she's prepared to dump you over this, better to let the drama queen go. 6 Reply 1 2.5k 3 ...
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    Font - CatteHerder • 14h Partassipant [2] NTA- she has some unresolved issues with that relationship, and it's not your fault, or your responsibility to deal with. While I truly understand not wanting to constantly hear the name of an ex, that is a personal problem which she needs to take care of. It isn't your responsibility to manage her emotions, or her response to them. For context, my EX husband has an extremely common name. He is an incredibly violent man, and I have good reason for not li
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    Font - Teppic5 · 14h Asshole Aficionado [12] NTA, your child's name isn't about your friend! You have valid reasons for choosing that name, and it sounds like you've made your mind up. No one else gets to veto your choice because they once knew someone with the same name! That said, if you're not 100% locked in, maybe you could consider other options for the sake of your friendship? If not, hopefully she'll realise she's being irrational. Congratulations! G Reply 4 124 3 ...
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    Font - MemeHecc • 14h NTA, 10 years is more than enough time to get over a breakup. If she's still really struggling with it she needs therapy, that's not on you or your unborn baby. (Congrats btw!!) G Reply ↑ 73 3 ...
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    Font - likeahike • 14h Certified Proctologist [21] NTA, you are not doing it to hurt her, that is her totally wrong reasoning. Her past doesn't factor into your decision making, as it shouldn't. This is not even remotely about her and if she can't see that, she's not as good a friend and person as you thought. 6 Reply 4 49 3
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    Font - CARISSA504· 13h Partassipant [2] NTA. This is a 'her' problem, not a 'you' problem. Ignore the pouting and the behavior. You've had the conversation, you've both said what you had to say, and it doesn't sound like you are inclined to change your mind. It's been a decade, either we're all aboard the moving-on train or she's going to be left at the station. Choo-CHOO000000000O! G Reply ↑ 42 3
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