Man's Fiancée Loses Two Rings, Breaks Third, Freaks Out When Confronted

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    Rectangle - r/relationship_advice u/throwraswoopingisbad · 353d + Join 15 My (27M) fiancée (24F) has 'accidentally' lost/broken three engagement rings now... I'm starting to suspect she's doing it on purpose I've (27M) been with my fiancée/girlfriend (24F) for three years now. I proposed a year ago, but it definitely wasn't out of the blue - she'd been not-so-subtly hinting at getting engaged for months at that point. Although we're both somewhat hot-headed, we generally have a good relationship
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    Font - I know NOTHING about jewellery, but I spent a lot of time looking for the right ring to propose with. I talked to two of her closest friends to get their input, and in the end I spent around $4000 on the ring. When my fiancée saw it, she told me she loved it and l'm pretty sure she was telling the truth. This January, my fiancée called me up in tears. She'd somehow lost the ring on her way home from work and she had no clue where it might be. I left work early to come help her search, but
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    Font - My fiancée was clearly distraught, so a few weeks later I dipped into my savings and bought her a different ring. It wasn't quite as expensive as the last, but it was from the same jeweller and still a good make. Around June, I noticed one day that it had been a while since I saw my fiancée actually wear her engagement ring. She went pale and confessed to me that she thought she'd taken it off before bed one night and now it was lost somewhere in our flat. This time we searched for days a
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    Organism - At this point, buying another ring was out of the question (too expensive) so I asked her if she'd rather either a) have a cheap replacement ring (under $50) until after we're married, or b) go without a ring for now. She chose option b. One day we were visiting my grandmother, who asked my fiancée where her ring was. When we told her it was lost, my grandmother was kind enough to give my fiancée one of her rings instead.
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    Font - My fiancée seemed delighted and everything was working out perfectly until this week. I came home to find my grandmother's ring on the table, looking almost unrecognisable. My fiancée cried and told me that she'd managed to step on the ring that morning hard enough to break it. I took the ring to a jewellery repair service right away. Sadly they told me that since a few small stones are missing and the original fitting is warped, the ring will never really be the same. They also told me t
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    Font - When I got home, I brought this up to my fiancée and asked her if she was 100% sure she'd only stepped on the ring. She completely flipped and yelled at me asking if I was calling her a liar. I mentioned what the jewellery store said, and she started screaming about me only caring about money and the 'cost' of the rings. It's been two days and we've barely spoken, especially as she's only coming out of our bedroom for meals. TL;DR: my fiancée has lost two of her engagement rings and now s
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    Rectangle - Jen5872 · 353d * A 2 16 Awards Start checking pawn shops for the first two rings. Edit: Thanks for the award! 22.3k ...
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    Font - Angel777Angel · 353d 3 Awards Do you think she sold the previous rings?? 12.4k ... SpiderSilk666•353d This seems highly likely to me 4.3k
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    Font - CoronaFunTime · 353d This is not an accident. I was terrified of losing my ring when I first got it but that's not really possible unless you take it off. So, I always put it straight in my pocket. For being on the ground and stepping on it... no. She would have to run it over. I'm betting she has an addiction (gambling, shopping, maybe drugs) or high debt and has been selling the rings. The ring in mangled because she used pliers to get the rocks out. The small stones are gone because sh
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    Rectangle - EarthWormJim18164 · 353d & A 2 10 Awards A jeweler has just told you that damage didn't happen from it being stepped on They have no incentive to lie to you Don't let her gaslight you 10.4k
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    Font - ThatSlothDuke · 353d 1 Award Yeah, as you know by know - They probably weren't accidents. An engagement ring isn't just any piece of jewelry and it's value isn't it's cost - it's something that represents the bond you share and the strength of the relationship. And she has "lost" it 3 times. You should look into it more - no matter her reaction. And her reacting that way is also a bad sign. It looks as if she doesn't want people to know that she's engaged. I advice you to clear this up be
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    Rectangle - SmallerKitten · 353d 8 Awards Buy her several copies of a cheap but nice looking ring and when she loses one, you bring her one of the copies and say "Honey, I found your ring" and see if she is shocked or happy about it. 2.2k ...
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    Font - Crickaboo • 353d If you really want to give her another ring make it a tattoo instead. Put it on her finger and if she accidentally amputates her finger then don't get married. 3.4k ...
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    Rectangle - Fatt3stAveng3r · 353d Early 30s Female I wouldn't give her any more rings, she clearly doesn't value them. 3.7k ...
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    Font - Smiley-Canadian · 353d She's 100% lying. You can't do that much damage to a ring by stepping on it. Even if she jumped on it, it wouldn't cause that kind of damage. She's likely: 1. Selling the rings. 2. Greedy and wants a more expensive ring. 3. Careless and doesn't value the money and effort you put into getting these rings. 4. All of the above. She has lost or damage 4 rings in under a year. Something isn't right. She has repeatedly lied to you and I doubt you'll get a straight answer
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    Human body - RebaRocket · 353d Let her pay for the next one - bet she doesn't lose/ damage THAT one!
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    Font - veronica_3 • 353d Yeah this is very odd. Were the rings not sized properly? I just find it weird that she lost not one but two rings. And then managed to damage the third in such a serious way. This raises doubts for me too. I agree with the others. No more rings. Accident or not, she clearly doesn't value them as she should. 企 169 ...
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    Font - Sicily1922 · 353d In most places ID is required to pawn things and then in some the info is sent to the local PD and so if something is reported lost or stolen they can follow up. Also many diamonds these days have something like a VIN number etched into them w lasers. It might be worth it to go to your local police station and have the word put out to pawn and jewelry stores. It's a long shot. + 13 ...
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    Font - Chipjack · 353d 1 Award It's possible that she lost two rings, especially if she's been losing weight over the past year and they don't fit as snugly as they used to. It's possible that she bent up the third by stepping on it. It's even possible that she's beaten herself up so badly about this that she'd flip her shit when you confronted her. There is room here to give her the benefit of the doubt if you want to. It's entirely possible that she really is this bad at taking care of importa
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    Rectangle - letmetellyou1234 · 352d I'm honestly surprised you bought a second ring after spending $4000. Let her buy her own ring if she needs one. It's impossible to destroy a proper gold ring by stepping on it, that's a blatant lie. Try it yourself. She probably took a hammer to it. 7 ... +

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