Vegan Fiancé Blames Cook For Not Knowing Her Secret Dietary Restrictions

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Eric Lund
Oct 19, 2021 1:00 PM EDT

We do our best to accommodate our loved ones, but when the baselines shift and the things we make are rejected like yesterday's trash, it doesn't feel so good. Under most circumstances, making a fully vegan meal would be more than enough to please a vegan guest. But that's most circumstances. For some more dietary shenanigans, here's the vegan employee who suggested a coworker eat their burger outside.

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    Font - r/AmItheAssl.le - Posted by u/itriedokay123 3 days ago 20 14 3 20 8 23 2 AITA for not accommodating my brother's vegan fiancee? Not the A-hle Full disclosure, I do eat meat, eggs, and dairy. That being said I'm lazy and prepping and cooking meat takes more work than I'm willing to do a lot of the time, so I've built up a pretty okay repertoire of vegetarian and vegan meals. That's why I volunteered to cook last night for a small family dinner even though I would normally never. Love my mo
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    Font - This is all a thing because my brother has recently gotten engaged to a vegan woman. None of us have really spent a lot of time with her due to pandemics and generally having our own lives. The time I have spent with her has been perfectly nice. I'd thought this would also be perfectly nice. So I did my best. I put together a dijon vinaigrette salad, pasta tossed with roasted asparagus and cherry tomatoes, and because this is America where carb on carb doesn't have to be just a dream, som
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    Font - At least I thought so. We sit down, plates are dished, she has questions. Whatever, fair enough. I can imagine that she's been in situations where things seemed safe to eat but surprise, there's honey in the salad dressing or something. Reassurances are made, I did my homework but...she has other complaints. You roasted the veggies in olive oil? There's olive oil in the salad dressing? The pasta isn't whole wheat? This is white bread? Yes. Vegan, all of it, but not stripped down to as few
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    Font - My brother texted me later that night about how f:ked up it was that she had to go home hungry, and this is where I may be the asshole. I replied something in the effect of saying I thought I had to cook to accommodate veganism, not an eating disorder. He told me to go f..k myself, which again, fair. Now I imagine a cold war is brewing and mom is inevitably going to get sucked in. I also could have tried to make something healthier, though I don't think what was served was that bad. AITA?
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    Font - EvasiveFriend - 3d e |Certified Proctologist [20] NTA. It's seems rude that you cooked a vegan dinner and she didn't eat any of it. What is the problem with olive oil? 29.3k Reply Share ... itriedokay123 OP - 3d Not sure but I assume that she's....very conscious of what she eats and anything that has fat in it is a no go. That or she just thought sh t looked gross. I'm not going to push it.
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    Font - Maximum_System_7819 · 3d Colo-rectal Surgeon [45] You're NTA. His gf is out of line for going to a dinner without bringing her own food or explaining her dietary preferences ahead of time. They obviously should have hosted. Your brother is way way way out of line for not reaching out to apologize to you for how the dinner went down. Sure, your quip was irreverent but it was right and you didn't say it until your brother came at your like you did something wrong by cooking an entire vegan
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    Font - ryencool · 3d Exactly what I was thinking. If you KNOW your diet is pretty abstract compared to most people? You either call ahead and discuss what food is going to be there, or bring something you can heat up. If you're neurotic with your food and counting calories you can't goto a dinner with people who eat "normally" and expect a buffet of your personalized favorites.
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    Font - 2 S2 & 2 More Apprehensive_Sand_77 - 3d Certified Proctologist [24] NTA You DID accommodate her, you knew she had ONE dietary restriction (i.e. veganism) and you cooked everything vegan. Not just vegan options, EVERYTHING was vegan friendly. That's next level accommodation if you ask me. For the record, I'm a vegetarian and I'm used to bringing my own food or sticking to the salads available, I've never been to a non-vegetarian household where they make only vegetarian food to accommodate
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    Font - Now, she has some other dietary restrictions that she didn't tell you about, and then apparently you're the AH for not reading minds and just knowing without nobody telling you that she has some other "requirements" for food. Like how does that even make sense to your brother? If I were you I'd be super passive aggressive and say something along the lines of "I'm so sorry I haven't upgraded my seer abilities yet and thus was unable to just guess your gf's food restrictions. I will let you
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    Font - PriorLongjumping825 · 3d Partassipant [2] NTA. God, does she act that entitled everywhere she goes? You cooked a vegan meal, how were you to know the specifics of what she eats outside of veganism (because she's clearly just being picky). Shame on you for not using your crystal ball that day. Granted your response wasn't polite (but still great IMO), but there was no need for their dramatics. She didn't HAVE to go home hungry. She CHOSE to.
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