Frustrated Dog Owner Refuses To Share Doggo Custody With Ex, Turns To Internet For Advice

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    Font - Posted by u/neely4153 3 days ago AITA for not wanting to share "custody" of my dog with my ex-fiancée?
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    Human body - My (22F) father specializes in the Border Collie breed. As he did with all his children, he gave me a Border Collie, Sand, puppy, when I turned 21.
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    Font - In case you didn't know, Border Colies are a little hard to have, they have a lot of energy to spend and training has to be careful, as they learn very quickly (including bad things). But I've always helped my dad raise his breed of border collie, so ok. All that said...
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    Font - My ex-fiancée (24F), Beca (different name) and I have been together for almost 7 years and two years ago I proposed to her. She came to live with me at home. When Sand came home, Beca was already living with me and even though I'm his favorite human, he also loves Beca.
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    Font - I was always responsible for walking (running) 2x a day with Sand and I assumed his financial costs, in addition to his training (he is currently 15 months old). Beca hardly went out with him for walks.
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    Font - It was always a constant fight between Beca and I during his training, as she constantly encouraged bad behavior towards him (she once played chasing him for having grabbed a pillow and he associated that every time he caught it, someone would play with it - it took me a while to "fix" this).
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    Font - Well, it's been 2 months since Beca and I broke up, I won't mention the reasons. The only thing that was in doubt would be the Sand. In the beginning, he always spent 3 days a week with her and everything, but I started to feel that he came back with bad behaviors and a little anxious, which I discovered later on that Beca doesn't go out with him for walks (keep in mind that from an early age he always came out to run with me 2x a day).
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    Font - After a month like that, I cut it, because he came back a lot with "saved energy" and really complicated behaviors. And I explained to Beca that I wouldn't do it anymore, because she didn't know how to deal with a new Border Collie and wasn't meeting his needs, even though I always let him know what he needed his toys to use with him. and gave
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    Font - She didn't react well, saying that she was his mother too and that it wasn't fair what I was doing and that she would go after her rights. And I said fine, but Sand would stay only with me until this is resolved. But that she could meet us at the park (I go every day) to hang out with him for a while, with me around.
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    Font - She refused and ever since it's been a little complicated, she's been pressuring me to let her stay with Sand. AITA? Extra? Sand lived most of his life with me and Beca, the first week we broke up, he didn't eat properly because he missed her, so I tried that, because he was bad for the situation. It didn't work, so I had to reset it. And even now, he still gets anxious on the days of the week she picks him up, so yeah, initially I shared custody, because Sand was pretty bad.
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    Font - Open-Possibility-723 · 3 days ago Asshole Aficionado [12] NTA. Cut off contact with your ex. She can get her own dog. 3.8k Reply Share •.•
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    Font - throwaway20698059 · 3 days ago Asshole Enthusiast [5] NTA. I had two border collies and know about their special needs. The dog is better off with you. In addition, the dog was a gift from your father to you. If your ex wants to sue you for joint custody (yes, that's a thing), let them hire a lawyer and do it. You will have no problem winning because you will have testimony from your father that the dog was yours, you will have receipts for vet bills, you will already have physical custod
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    Font - shadow-foxe 3 days ago Supreme Court Just-ass [120] Your Dad gave the dog to YOU not her. NTA. You're named on the vet bills I'm sure. IF he is microchipped, then that would be in your name too. Rabies vax etc. If she thinks she is going to win going to court over this, well she will be shocked. Just playing with a puppy doesnt make you the owner. No training, no exercise etc. Thats what they look for to choose in custody things.

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