Woman Refuses To Let Sister-In-Law Wear Her Wedding Dress To Prom, Family Blames Her For Ruining Prom

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    Vertebrate - r/AmItheAsshole. Posted by u/AITA22223 11 hours ago 456 AITA For Not Letting My Sister in Law Wear My Wedding Dress to Prom?
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    Organism - I (25F) got married to my husband (24M) a year ago. He has a sister (16F). I went a little non traditional with my dress. I got a big light yellow dress, and a beautiful strapy top with lace. The dress was gorgeous, and of course very expensive. This was definitely my dream dress.
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    Font - His family isn't particularly well off, but they're certainly not poor or lower income. So when they told me at a family dinner that they were having trouble finding an affordable dress for her, I was a little surprised, but gave suggestions like looking at ebay, goodwills website, ect. In my younger days I did pageants and we always resold the dress after at a good discount. They told me they looked but didn't find anything they like. I told them I hope 'the dress' would come up soon. Tw
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    Font - We show up and immediately his sister starts moping. I assume she had a bad day at school and sit down to eat. Then my MIL explained to me she was upset because prom was in 3 days and she still had no dress. I expressed my condolences, and told her that I could maybe help her have some last looks around. That's when MIL said "Oh, I have an idea, (my name), why don't you let (SIL) wear your yellow dress. I could probably get it tailored in time."
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    Organism - My SIL immediately perked up - and I felt like I was ambushed. I looked to my husband but he just shrugged. I politely told them I was sorry, but the dress was very special to me, and also SIL and I are quite different sizes. It would fall off her.
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    Font - MIL then told me she knows a "wonderful seamstress" who could make it fit. Which really upset me, I asked her "What if I ever want to try it on again? it wouldn't fit me. Even if I lost weight my bust would never fit in a dress tailored to fit her." SIL ended up busting into tears, I'm not sure if it was because of me saying no - or me talking about our bodies. My husband and I ended up leaving early. He was very upset with me for not sharing the dress, but said ultimately it was my decis
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    Font - They went radio silent until I saw a post of SIL on Facebook in a beautiful blue dress. I commented saying I'm glad she got a dress, she looked great, and I hope she had a good time - and I got a comment back asking me for my portion of the dress. They have now told my husband I am responsible for either reselling the dress and getting them half back since I have experience with that, or help pay for half. I told them that was ridiculous, but my husband told me to just do it. I told him I
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    Font - Edit; tried to talk to MIL after getting some confidence from these comments. Basically she brushed it all off, still demanded I do what she told me to (to either sell it, or help pay for it) because I'm 'family' and thats what family does - but also said she would have looked much better in it than I did, and that I just didnt let her have the dress out of jealousy. I am honestly speechless right now.
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    Rectangle - tosser9212 11 hr. ago S Pooperintendant [61] NTA, and wow. Who asks to wear someone else's wedding dress to a Prom, FFS? Your SIL, MIL, and HB need a ruddy reality check. They not only ambushed you, they're all punishing you for refusing to be ambushed. You're owed apologies from all of them.
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    Font - IHateCamping 9 hr. ago NTA. What would even make them think they could ask you to give them your dress? It would basically be hers at that point because it would be tailored to her, not you. I'm sure you would have been happy to help them sell it after she was done with if if they hadn't gotten so pissy with you, but after the way they acted towards you I wouldn't blame you for not helping them.
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    Rectangle - happylukie 7 hr. ago Partassipant [1] I swear. AITA makes me thankful every day I chose to not get married. Every. Single. Day. ΝΤΑ
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    Font - Jon_Jraper 11 hr. ago $4 Asshole Aficionado [10] NTA at all. Even if it wasn't your wedding dress, it's still your dress and you have no obligation to even loan it out, much less give it away permanently. It makes sense to feel weird because "no one is on your side" but it's only this one-sided because it's entirely his family and they clearly have issues. If his solution to them being upset is 'just give them what they want' and his solution to himself being upset is 'run away to moms fo

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