Groom Cancels Vegan Food Options For Wedding Guests Behind Bride's Back

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Aug 6, 2022 4:00 PM EDT

Everyone has different preferences when it comes to food. Some people are hardcore carnivores, some are passionate vegans, and some are vegetarians that fall somewhere in the middle. Some have intense allergies, whereas some are just picky eaters. For this reason, people are always asked if they have any food preferences or allergies so that the hosts can accommodate them at any event. In today's 'Am I the A$$hole?' post, OP told us about how she and her family are vegan, while her fiance and his family are big meat-eaters. When she wanted to have several vegan options at her wedding, her husband and mother were against the idea. OP thought that she convinced them to get on-board, but then she discovered that her husband went behind her back and cancelled the vegan options without consulting her. WTF dude?! Scroll down to see how the Redditors reacted to the groom's super shady behavior. 

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    Font - r/AmItheAsshole. u/SarahJake2022 3 Posted by 59 minutes ago AITA flipping out on my fiance for cancelling all the vegan food options from our wedding food menu behind my back?
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    We're already on OP's side. Communication is so important, and the groom thinks it's his right to just call the shots. That's not what marriage is about. 

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    Font - My fiance (31 male) and I (25 female) are getting married soon. There wasn't much that disagreed on during the wedding planning except for food. Me and my family are vegans, and there so many reasons why we chose this lifestyle and one of them being that we have a history of health issues. My fiance and his family are the complete opposite. they're hardcore meat eaters which is fine by me obviously.
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    Font - However, When deciding on the wedding food menu, I wanted to add 4-5 vegan options. My fiance and his mom objected saying it was a waste of money over food that 'isn't real food'. They also argued that this would be offensive for 'their' guests and suggested my vegan options just be "the good ol' salads & appetizers" (his mom wanted cupcakes lol). I said no because for one it's me and my family who's paying. and two I want to make my guests feel welcome and not be treated as second class
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    Font - The other day, I found out that he had cancelled all the vegan options and took them off the menu completely and behind my back. I was seething. I called him at work but he kept hanging up on me. I went straight to his workplace and confronted him there and just flipped out on him. He was stunned to see me. He at first said it was his mom's idea then told me to go home because I was making a scene at the office. the fight continued at home and he defended himself by saying that I sort of
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    Font - AITA for putting my foot down on this?
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    Font - Imtypingthisnow 27 min. ago This is the kind of foreshadowing you would find in a Bronte novel. He's not going to become a more loving and supportive partner OP. He's going to escalate, deceive and manipulate this relationship every day you are with him. This is a golden opportunity to change your mind. If you waste it, you will be earning your way out of this marriage every day at the cost of your emotional well being and mental health. Rum, OP. Run quickly. NTA.
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    Font - Knittingfairy09113. Certified Proctologist [21] ΝΤΑ 11 min. ago Time to put the wedding on hold indefinitely and RUN to couples counseling together. if you want to try and stay
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    Rectangle - nkolenic 11 min. ago NTA don't marry this man. He's an asshole and so is his family - why subject yourself to that for life? People who make eating meat a personality are the worst.
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    Font - Kayura85. 20 min. ago NTA- I would ask him if he plans on disrespecting you and your family at every event or just the important ones like your wedding. That you and your family are paying for.
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    Font - Affectionate_Ice_658 42 min. ago Certified Proctologist [26] NTA And I'd hand the bill for the wedding to his stupid mother and him and tell them since they're paying nowthey can have whatever food they want- where do they get off? You gave them options for meat, why would their family be offended by vegan meals? Ugh!!
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    Font - Kilkegard 38 min. ago Partassipant [2] and refusing to accommodate his family. Yes, you are refusing to accommodate his family by not allowing them to inconvenience and disrespect your other guests. Oh the horror. /s ΝΤΑ
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    Font - Kowekie 8 min. ago NTA, and I don't like saying this but honestly evaluate if you want to marry a man who's like this. He ignored your wishes and is making unanimous decisions behind your back about your joint celebration. He's also not willing to make any reasonable compromise, and worst of all you're the one paying for the thing.... Honestly I'd say get back what you can and take out the trash.
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