Dating Advice: Woman Asks Reddit Why Literally Every Man She Matches With Only Talks About Himself

Ben Weiss • Writer and Editor

Aug 27, 2022 2:00 PM EDT

A good date takes a genuine interest in the other person's life. For this woman, that means most men are not good dates.

This thread was posted on Reddit's r/datingoverthirty subreddit by u/Capable_Okra, who expressed having a "conversational issue" on the apps. What happens is after an introductory exchange, the men she chats with tend to only answer her questions about their lives without returning any questions about her interests, career, friends, etc. As Liz Lemon on 30 Rock would say, "that's a dealbreaker, ladies."

If he doesn't take an interest in who you are on Hinge or Tinder, he is unlikely to take that same interest in person. If he's unable to recognize your social cues when you try to sneak in information about yourself, then he has no interest in dating you, but rather he has an interest in dating somebody (or some body). Most of the discourse online seems to be in agreement that this is unfortunately a common symptom of being a single "available" male in a metropolitan city. Let's put "available" in quotation marks as the emotional availability here is clearly up for debate.

It's important to acknowledge that self-involved behavior can be corrected, but let's be real. That takes a lot of work for the other person. It's better to just swipe left, raise those standards, and stop blaming yourself for the fact that some people have zero self-awareness.

We've seen other instances of dating fails online. Check out these top Tinder moments of the week for more!

Keep scrolling for the original post and the dating advice that u/Capable_Okra received!

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