“AITA for yelling at my husband for making my daughter feel bad?” Posted by u/throwaway_Son8272
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“That's something I don't think is truly highlighted: he's literally making her feel guilty for existing in their lives. She's 16, you should be paying for her meals and things she needs for school and life! He's definitely a ‘You can stay here and pay rent and utilities at 18 or you can find a new place to live’ kind of man and that's just unacceptable." said u/Extreme-Sherbert.
“I reckon she's saving up to GTFO the day she turns 18 - sounds like her homelife is awful. OP doesn't seem to realise that her daughter will go low or no contact with her as soon as she can to get away from that appalling man.” said u/BuzzyLightyear100.
“OP's daughter not only is financially responsible in a way her AH stepdad refuses to give her credit for, she loves OP so much. Truly, how many teenage girls on a school trip would take time to call their mother just to say hi, share their feelings. She missed her mom. I believe her when she says she wasn't trying to ask for money, and so does OP. And OP's husband is so unhinged that he just... refused to see that love. Isn't capable of it. Used it as yet another launchpad to berate this child. Made this child ashamed of having a connection to her mother, of expressing her love. You know what it reminds me of? The darkest corners of MRA forums — people who are so completely obsessed with their paranoia that women in particular are using them for their money that they just... cannot conceive of love. Have let their obsessive resentment crowd every good thing out of their lives.” said u/yet_another_sock.
“As someone who grew up with a financially abusive parent, this is absolutely financial abuse. It’ll lead to life long financial anxiety. I haven’t live with my financially abusive parent in over 15 years yet I still cannot spend money on things without feeling like I’m horrible for doing so. Even food and other essentials. Therapy has helped but it’s not a cure. OP, you’re an asshole of you don’t start standing up against your husband to protect your daughter.” said u/mikeymoozerheck.
“Exactly. Her child is skimping on FOOD because of these comments. The OP is here asking AITA for being mad about it. No, OP. YTA for allowing your child to be mentally abused.” said u/Educational_Earth_62.
“Yes to both. We have separate accounts and one shared account for bills and other shared expenses. He’s tried multiple times to combine accounts entirely, but I have said no.” said OP.
“You do realize that his anger at your daughter is because he has no access to your money and you are willing to share it with your daughter, right? He isn't concerned about money in general, he is concerned about YOUR money. This man sees your daughter as a mooch simply because she is a minor with a part time job…Your husband is a petty jealous greedy asshole. You really need to talk to your daughter about how she is dealing with this jerk commenting on her life like he should have any say at all.” said u/PaganCHICK720.
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