Bride Tries To Forcefully Set Up Best Friend With Creepy Guy By Seating Her Next To Him At The Wedding

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    Font - r/AmItheAsshole. Posted by u/These Difference2777 19 hours ago AITA for telling my friend she overstepped with who she sat me next to at her wedding?
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    Font - I recently travelled out to my Childhood Best friends wedding, as it's far away she and her husband were hosting me at their home. It's lovely of them and I did a lot to help around the house and with setting up their reception in thanks. A few weeks prior to my going up to stay for the wedding my friend tried to introduce me to a friend of her and her husband, adding the two of us onto a group chat, he'd apparently seen pictures of me and was interested. I'm currently single so was down
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    Font - I put that behind me without a second thought and the wedding was beautiful but then the reception came. It was a formal sit down reception with set seating and I found i'd been sat beside the guy from before. I wasn't about to kick up a scene though so figured i'd just get through the reception. He was worse than the group chat though and constantly in my space, trying to touch me which I kept rebuffing forcefully and when I took my phone out during a lull while people were dancing to te
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    Font - The next morning after I cooked breakfast for my friend and her husband as thanks for hosting me I told her that she shouldn't have sat me next to him and she'd overstepped, that she knew I didn't feel comfortable with him. She got defensive and told me she'd thought that it'd be easier to get along with him in person than on a message, when I asked why she hadn't given me a headsup then she had no answer and instead told me I was being very ungrateful and they were putting me up for the
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    Font - I know a wedding is a lot of pressure and it's down to the bride and groom to make choices but is it really too much to ask to not be sat next to someone in a set up when you've stated he makes you uncomfortable?
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    Font - Ohcrumbcakes 14 hr. ago Asshole Enthusiast [5] ΝΤΑ She literally didn't do you a single favour. You only needed a place to stay to attend HER wedding. She was a match-making asshole.
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    Font - Tall-Negotiation6623 18 hr. ago NTA. And she is a shitty friend to do that to you. You told her he made you uncomfortable and she still did it. Even if the seating chart was already made she should have given you a heads up at least and if she truly was a friend she should have changed the seating. The fact that she told you she thought you would get along better in person makes me think she did it deliberately and then she just sucks. I learned the hard way that a friend who doesn't resp
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    Font - Vivid-Wasabi5180 17 hr. ago Partassipant [1] NTA. She knew you didn't like him and she did what she wanted anyway. Then she doubled down on her AH behavior by dismissing your complaint about how she shouldn't have sat him next to you. THEN she tripled down on her AH behavior by holding her hosting you over your head. She may have been your best friend with you two were kids, but she is an AH, majorly, in a big way.
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    Font - Empyrean_M 18 hr. ago ΝΤΑ Your friend knew he made you uncomfortable and still purposefully sat you next to him, and the guy himself had no respect for boundaries. The friend was an AH for basically dismissing the fact the guy was crossing boundaries and excusing it as his personality. You also didn't make a scene at the wedding and handled it well than most people.
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    Font - takethisdayofmine. 18 hr. ago NTA. Her ability to have good judgment and thinking best for you has been voided after that act. Don't take any future "help" from her regarding relationships and dating. Move on and enjoy your own journey for yourself without her help. NTA because she was unwilling to hear your reasons in how that guy was a wrong choice, but she doubled down on it.
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    Font - LadyF16 19 hr. ago Partassipant [3] NTA. But chances are, the seating chart was set by the time you told her you were uncomfortable. That sort of thing is done once RSVPSS come in. Once you told her you weren't into him, it's clear she was counting on you just powering through and being polite for the sake of the event.
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    Font - Throwaway-2587 19 hr. ago Asshole Aficionado [13] NTA. She dismissed the boundaries you tried to set, much like the guy did. You didn't cause a scene at the wedding and tried to have a conversation afterwards instead, which I think was the most graceful option to take. However with her response, I wonder if she deserved the grace. I hope she'll come around and apologise but I doubt it.

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