'He showed me texts between him and my son's therapist': 14-year-old's therapist sends private info to evil stepdad

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    Font - AITA for reporting my son's therapist for sharing private information with his stepdad? Not the A-hole My m36 son's (14) dog passed away recently. I signed him up with a therapist because his dog's death has literally left him unable to speak. He's been in therapy for 2 weeks now. 2 days ago, My son called crying saying his stepdad punished him by taking his bicycle and selling it for no reason. I was livid. I went to have a word with his stepdad and he told me that there WAS a reason and
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    Font - I was floored at this. I had an argument with him an asked how the hell he knew and told him to prove that my son said all that. He showed me texts betwen him and my son's therapist. So basically...the therapist had been giving out private info about a bunch of stuff my son talked about in therapy. I was even more floored. I went straight to that therapist and we had a huge argument. I told him I was going to report him after he defended himself saying the reason he gave my son's stepdad
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    Font - My son's mom called after she found out about the report and she she blew up at me on the phobe calling me a controlling shole for what I did. I ignored her calls after that but my own wife thought I made a hasty decision and that the real problem was with my son's stepdad not the therapist. was I in the wrong for reporting him?
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    Rectangle - MilkBoiNuts 21 hr. ago 333 . Partsipant [1] Hey. I'm a therapist. What this therapist did was against the law. Your son was not in danger of hurting himself or someone else. There was nothing helpful that could have come of the therapist telling step dad this info. NTA. 22.2k Reply Share
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    Font - Dramatic-but-Aware. 19 hr. ago [1]] I would also like to add that even if the son was at risk, the kid has both a mom and a dad, there is no reason to tell the step dad and not the parents. 8.3k Reply
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    Font - logynnrosie. 19 hr. ago agreed. my stepmom would not be the person my therapist would contact should there be something going on with me 2.5k Reply
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    Font - BelkiraHoTep 16 hr. ago Partassipant [4] But the therapist felt bad for the stepdad! Does no one care that the stepdad a parent, too, and he has feeeeeeelings?? /s NTA, OP. I hope that therapist has their license yanked, and you may want to look at adjusting the custody agreement if your boy's stepdad lashes out like this. Your wife is right that the stepdad is a part of the problem. Your report wasn't hasty, it was the right decision. 2.3k Reply
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    Font - Anseranas 15 hr. ago . I guarantee the therapist is/was a stepdad. The projection is strong. Not only does the therapist require sanction, there's a high chance that a new therapist will be having to disentangle the harmful input of original therapist. Poor kid has betrayal coming at him left right and centre.
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    Font - prosemortem 14 hr. ago Partassipant [1] right? all i could think is this kid will NEVER feel safe talking with someone again
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    Font - Curious- One4595 . 11 hr. ago Exactly. The stepdad punished the kid for things he said in therapy! That is hugely damaging! NTA. 258 Reply
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    Font - illegitimate_Racco on . 13 hr. ago There is an undercurrent of step-dad abusing the dog and possibly the boy. Hope you were able to record that conversation. But even if not custody should be re-evaluated. 373 Reply S
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    Font - Justwatching451. 15 hr. ago Step dad's feelings hurt so bad he took a bike away from a young man. My bike was like my car is today. 4313 Reply
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    Font - Crow_Wife 3 Partassipant [2] Also a therapist: is there a release of information to share with step dad? If not, that's a violation in itself. Just because he is married to his mother, it does not make him a legal guardian. Bio dad still has his rights so kiddo was not adopted etc. OP, if you want to post the state and their credential I will personally give you the information for the licensing board associated with them to file a complaint. 19 hr. ago edited 5 hr. ago S2
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    Font - ETA: unsure if OP has a mediator or lawyer, however--you can shoot this concern over to them (or throw it back to court if you have the means). Your child was grieving in what was supposed to be a safe space, step dad received information he should not have and acted punitively towards your son with mom supporting him which (from what you have written) impacted your son emotionally (as it would any kid because that is not okay behavior). It is also state dependent, however, in terms of cu
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    Font - Sylvurphlame · 13 hr. ago Asshole Enthusiast [8] Minor children don't enjoy the same property rights as adults, unfortunate in this case. If OP bought the bike, then it could be considered theft of OP's property. But if stepdad (unlikely) bought the bike or mom bought the bike, then it could be considered they just disposed of their property. To me the red flag for this house hold is that the kids' own mother isn't openly pissed at stepdad for selling the bike. I can't think of a good rea

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