Aunt okays nephew's outrageous wedding outfit and overrules his mother's wishes

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    Font - 2 Posted by u/trincolls AITA for "overruling" my sister by approving my nephew's outfit for my wedding? A hole My fiance (M27) and I (F27) are getting married in early April. We are planning a big wedding with the help of both of our parents' financing. We invited all of our friends and family, including our siblings and their kids. My fiance and I are very excited for our wedding. When it comes to the dress code, me and my fiance are very laid back, we just want people to dress up in eit
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    Font - I have many siblings, and many nieces and nephews. My oldest sister and her husband (F40 and M40) have 6 kids (F15, M14, M13, F11, M7, and F3). I still live close to all of my siblings, so me and my fiance have a close relationship with them and know they are excited for our wedding. My 13 year old nephew is a good kid, has great grades and is the athlete of the family. As with most middle school boys, dressing up in a suit isn't exactly his favorite thing to do, and about a month ago, my
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    Font - About a week after, I got a text from my nephew asking what he thought of his outfit idea, he wanted to go with a sports theme, he wanted to wear a normal dress shirt and pants, but for his blazer have his favorite NFL team on it, a lacrosse tie and baseball cufflinks. He found all of this online and sent links. He told us his mom said no and then asked my opinion on it, I showed it to my fiance and we both agreed it was acceptable and we would love to see him in it if that's what made hi
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    Font - We went out to lunch and my nephew and sister was explaining how his friends recommended it and how he wanted to express his love for sports, after explaining to him that this isn't normal wedding attire, but fiance and I wanted people to be creative, my sister agreed to buy it, and just got all the stuff in the mail and he loves it. My sister is still upset at me for trying to "overrule" her parenting, and when talking to one of our other siblings (M38) he agreed with her that I overstep
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    Font - edited 5 hr. ago <<He told us his mom said no>> RB1327 YTA. This is classic kid behaviour, running to another resource (Mom vs Dad, parents vs grandparents, etc.) when you've already been given your answer. Your response at most should have been "Well, let me touch base with your mother about it." And even that might be crossing the line for her, depending on your history with the kids here. As for the lunch, you also took a page out of your nephew's book by resorting to the other childis
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    Font - o da-karebear Teeny tiny YTA. As a mom I just saw $$$. Something like a suit is something I would want to buy my son for multiple occasions. The cufflinks and lacrosse tie I would be okay with. The NFL suit jacket I would have said no to as well. Although it is perfectly acceptable for your wedding, it would not be the case for a funeral or say a confirmation at church. My sister and I are very close to eachothers kids as well. They get away with a lot when they are with an aunt. The only
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    Font - UsuallyWrite2 Asshole Enthusiast [5] Gentle YTA. You got played and you undermined your sister. I get that you're fine with the outfit but he asked his parent, they said no, so he triangulated and went to you. Kids often do this between their parents to try to get their way. Mom says no so they go to Dad or visa versa. Parents have to be aligned and support each other. Else it sets up a pretty manipulative dynamic. I'd apologize to your sister. You did undermine her trying to get kid to w
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    Font - SpiritualCatch6757. Partassipant [1] Unfortunately, YTA. And I thank you for making this mistake so I don't in the future. Your sister's approval is just as important as your approval of his outfit. I had to read your response carefully to fully understand why your sister was upset. And yes, I would be upset if I said no to my son and my sibling overrules me. 188 Reply Share

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