'When Katie finds this out she kinda loses it': Bi woman accused by best friend's jealous girlfriend of trying to steal him away

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    Facial expression - "I got an angry text from Katie saying that thanks to me Ben has broken up with her and that it was all my fault."
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    Font - AITA for not telling my best friends girlfriend that I'm Bisexual? Not the A-hole Fake names for privacy reasons! So I (23F) have been best friends with Ben (24M) for about 5 years as we both went to the same university. I have been dating Lea (23F) for 3 years. As the title says i am bisexual, however i never have been and never will be attracted to Ben as he just isn't my type, and he's never had any feelings for me either, in fact he was the one who introduced me to Lea.
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    Font - About a year ago Ben started dating Katie (23F). The first few times we hung out as a group Lea wasn't present and the whole time Katie would either be staring daggers at me or just being hostile. She was rude to all the girls in our friend group but especially me most likely as I'm the closest to him. Ben was getting irritated by it and admitted to being close to ending it but she became fine as soon as i introduced her to Lea.
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    Font - I always assumed she felt less threatened cause i was in a relationship but i realise now its because she must have just assumed i was a lesbian. Since that point Katie was a lot nicer to me and even tried to be friends. I was nice to her for Ben's sake but i've honestly never liked her because of when we first met
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    Font - Skip to now about 10 months later, we're all in a bar and the topic of celebrity crushes comes up. I mentioned a female as my main one but then another girl (call her Jenny) in our group says how she thinks someone is hot and Katie starts disagreeing. Katie was being kinda hostile so most of us girls and even a few of the guys started agreeing with Jenny. My response to this was "I mean I wouldn't kick him out of bed". Katie responds with "Yeah well you're a lesbian so its not like your o
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    Font - When Katie finds this out she kinda loses it. She starts accusing me of misleading her into making her trust me not to go after "her man", and that I had probably been trying to get into his pants this whole time. She tells me to leave and looks for backup but no one gives it and after many more very personal insults about my looks etc Ben makes her leave with him.
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    Font - I was pretty unphased by this and ngl we all laughed about it after they were gone. We were still at the bar about 2 hours later when I got an angry text from Katie saying that thanks to me Ben has broken up with her and that it was all my fault. No one but Katie thinks that i'm the hole and i know i had no obligation to tell her but i feel guilty for being the cause of their break up and no doubt my best friends sadness, and even guiltier for thinking good riddance. So AITA?
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    Font - headfulloffairies 1 day ago NTA, you didn't end that relationship, her insecurity did. What did she expect? For him to never talk to another girl ever again? 2.6k Reply Share
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    Rectangle - _WeissCream_. 1 day ago He'd probably only be allowed to talk to the lesbians by the looks of it ↑ 739 Reply Share
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    Font - _mmiggs 1 day ago Pooperintendant [53] NTA. You never told Katie you were a lesbian. She assumed this. And she's clearly an AH you've been friends with Ben for five years, and haven't dated him over that five year period. Regardless of whether you currently are in a relationship or not, you're probably not interested in Ben. And Katie gets bonus AH points for not thinking that men and women can be friends. 844 Reply Share
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    Font - pawsplay36 21 hr. ago Since bisexuals can be attracted to men or women, Katie would logically assume OP was never allowed to have friends of any kind. 293 Reply Share
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    Font - Disastrous_Ask_5664 1 day ago Obviously YTA - why weren't you wearing your "bisexual as f*ck" T- shirt? Did you not wear your "hang on folks, I'll bang all of you eventually" badge? You didn't even introduce yourself properly. Remember the standard bisexual greeting is as follows "Hi, (bisexual) my name (bisexual) is (bisexual) u/Throwaway0908076 (bisexual) im Bens (bisexual bisexual) best friend (bisexual)" Honestly - what did you think was gonna happen!! 317 Reply Share
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    Font - Throwaway0908076 OP - 1 day ago . Im so sorry for letting down all the bisexuals like this. I accept this judgement 4 271 Reply Share
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    Font - Immediate_Refuse_918 1 day ago NTA-she was jealous, cruel, and nasty. She got herself dumped. Also your sexuality is YOUR business. You never told her you're a lesbian, she decided to assume.
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    Font - I had a friend (f) who was with a girl for two years. I, like Katie, thought she was a lesbian. After they broke up she started dating a dude. My brain went "oh, guess she's not a lesbian" and that was literally it. No conversation about it. No accusations. No insults. Just me realizing I made a wrong assumption and moving on.
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    Font - elderoriens 1 day ago ΝΤΑ Katie's jealousy ended her relationship, not you. 135 Reply Share

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