Geriatric Karen Bullies Youthful Female Employee For Her Looks

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Emmy Pratt • Writer and Editor
Apr 2, 2023 3:30 PM EDT

It's been a while since I've dealt with 100% genuine mean girl bullies. As you grow older, you're a lot less likely to run into unashamedly cruel women who want to take you down a notch. A lot of the mean girls from middle school and high school grow up, learn the error of their ways, and become better people than they were when they were 14 years old. Others change strategies and are rude in more cunning and subtle ways. After all, clever manipulation pays off better than overt insults and bullying. However, there is a rare group of women who continues to childishly bully people throughout their lives and gets away with it. Whether it be because of charisma, power, or just not getting reprimanded, they continue with these mean charades for decades of their lives. For those who encounter such bullies, three roads diverge. Do you just ignore them, stand up to them, or get revenge? 

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  • 01
    Font - r/antiwork u/PopNo5397 • 22h Should I get revenge on my coworker or just leave There's this coworker who I hold a big grudge against. She's 55 and I'm 28. I'm the typical timid, quiet girl and she's the literal opposite.
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    Font - She has made degrading comments about me, gossips, and rolls my eyes whenever I ask her anything. I've vented with my boss and even he says she's a bitter person. She always dresses up (with high heels and all) and puts on a lot of makeup even on Sundays. She says she doesn't let her husband see her without it. I don't wear any and she's told me I should do it because ladies should always look their best. I told her my husband loved how I looked like this to which she replied "Ewww how ug
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    Font - She gets off by everyone telling her how good she looks and is super flirty with all the male staff. She even started talking to a guard that this other girl said she liked. She also already told everyone the story of how her previous boss "wanted her" over his wife because she was all natural. Once I also had the decency to cover for her 6 weeks while she was out for surgery (fyi nobody wants to cover ME) and she told everyone she had to return early to work "to clean up the mess I was m
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    Font - I can write a book with everything she's done to me, how often she would bully me and made me cry. It's just fkd up because she could be my mother and my mom would never act like this highschooler. Management won't do anything everyone's used to the toxicity in my department they even give warnings to new girls. I'm about to quit so I want ideas on how I can get my revenge or if I should just gtfoh and forget about it.
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    Rectangle - Darlin_Nixxi. 22h Don't let that bitch live rent-free in your mind. Don't let her obvious hang-ups become your issue. Reply 1.5k
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    Font - jarena009 21h I second this. Report her to your manager and hers, and/or HR if they don't do anything. If management/HR fail to act on your appeals, then seek employment elsewhere. The best revenge is living well. 4432 432
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    Font - PopNo5397 OP • 19h The best revenge is living well I like this 4294
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    Rectangle - Efficient Collar_330 - 17h The best revenge is living well... after you've duct taped a thawed bass beneath her desk. 172
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    Font - DANGERSCONE • 19h Anarcho-Syndicalist Also, if it helps, try and understand that this person likely has a very low self esteem if they need to constantly bolster themselves at the cost of others. I suspect you are a target because you are a threat (either your pretty or younger that the others in the workplace).
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    Font - If you want be petty you can simply reveal this fact in a polite manner, but you should be aware that this is literal stooping to her level in that you're hurting her to make yourself feel better. Best to treat her the same way you would a street preacher and avoid where possible and when not possible just nod and smile.
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    Font - edit: a few people are saying she's a narcissist. I'm no professional, but the narcissists I've known don't work this way. They tend to want to bring people in rather than push them away. They are gods gift to man and want you to hear about their day, invite themselves to your after work events, etc. They start annoyingly and only get horrible when things don't go the way they want. 459
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    Font - PopNo5397 OP • 19h Yeah I'm the youngest in that department but not in the company. it's unfair to get treated like literal shit just for being younger if that's the case. (I think I'm okay but not that pretty). I was nothing but nice to her since the beginning. Most ironic thing she's ever said when there was drama: "I don't understand it here sometimes. In my other company all us girls used to get along!" Yeahhh righhtttttttttt ... 422 22
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    Font - DANGERSCONE. 18h Anarcho-Syndicalist So while there's not much you can do to address this directly with her and you bosses don't seem to care, this seems to be affecting you a lot in a place you spend more of your time (work) so you need to deal with this. My recommendation is this: if its a bigger company go directly to HR (corporate or local) with anything you have documented. This will be acted on because it can become a legal issue for the company. Or if it's a small org and the owner
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    Font - Mostly Harmless90 22h Sounds like a narcissist to be honest and you can never win with these type of people. I know it's hard to be around people like that but you may have to switch jobs or talk with HR about it but you higher ups usually don't help much. Reply 243
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    Font - PopNo5397 OP. 22h I was thinking of my husband passing off as a customer and telling her something thatd kill her ego (without being rude) but idk what. 139
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    Font - Most Attitude_9153 • 22h The problem with narcissism is that people with this personality are totally immune to criticism. Literally the only thing that can be done is to separate yourself from them. There will never be comeuppance that will satisfy you. Even if you get the better of them you're courting disaster, these people are not above blowing up your life.
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    Font - I'm a rando on the internet, but please heed this advise. I was married to a narcissist for several years. Just make a silent exit, offer no explanations to her. Forgo all future contact. It's the only way. ... 173 173
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    Human body - TrishMansfield • 22h Listen to THIS rando!! This is the unvarnished truth. Trust me, I know! 38
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    Font - PopNo5397 OP • 22h I was thinking more like bringing my husband and brother (she would totally flirt with them) and have them ask her something along the lines of: "excuse me ma'am, I'm looking for the attractive lady that works here. I saw her Walking the other time, she's so pretty" (which would be me) This would totally bother her. But yeah, idk if she's even worth thinking about. I should probably just gtfoh and not look back. 40
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    Rectangle - Vagrant123 22h ● Narcissists will always find a way to turn their negative feelings onto you. It's better to just skip out. 40
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    Font - strvgglecity 20h Just go whole hog and have him say "excuse me sir" ... 50
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    Font - REDDIT_ROC0408 - 19h Or "Hey. You look great for someone in their 60's" ... 23
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    Font - Antman19820G - 19h Or even 70's 10
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    Font - Beatrice0. 18h "Oh wow, where did you have to go to get all your work done?" Gesture vaguely at lady's face and torso. 49 9 ↓
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    Rectangle - LOL PopNo5397 OP • 20h 418
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    Font - Spontaneous Nubs • 20h The unwelcome comments about your body and appearance may be sexual harassment. Start making a time and date document Reply 175
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    Font - MN-goldengirl. 20h I saw a therapist about a similar situation. She gave me this tool: when the person says negative things to you, ask them: "What have I ever said to make you think it's okay for you to talk to me that way?" It puts the onus on them to explain their own bad behavior. Continue asking her this question every time she's inappropriate. ... Reply 50
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    Font - Chanchito171.7h Amazing. I hope I can remember this for the next time my shit coworker accosts me
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    Font - 21h DM me her name, I will seduce her over a year or two, I will break her marriage using her ego and need for affirmation. I will provide proof to her husband so she gets nothing in a divorce from him. I will print and post her nudes at your office. OneBanArmy. All for free. This is my 2023 charitable act, there will be no more charitable acts until 2024. Reply 273
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    Rectangle - Kzivir. 20h You probably get good Karma until 2025 for that man. 434
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