Exhausted Wife Loses Her Marbles In Front Of The In Laws Because They Showed Up To Dinner Unannounced And Overstayed Their Welcome (Relatable)

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elina lee
Jan 20, 2023 2:00 PM EST

We don't know about you guys, but we personally hate entertaining. There, we said it - we hate having people over at our home. Just something about running around like a tornado and serving people that doesn't spark any interest in us whatsoever. It's not only the serving and the cooking, though. We're also incredible control freaks that like things neat and tidy at all times of the day. We know, condolences for our hubby lol. 

But can you blame us? We like our space the way we like it. And usually, if guests are involved, chaos is not far behind. Especially, if the guests bring their kids - then that's a whole other nightmare. Welp, today we're presenting you with a story of a wife that lost her marbles in front of her in-laws. 'Why?' you may be wondering. She too, is not the biggest fan of having people over - especially when the people are rude and inconsiderate! 

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    Smile - Posted by u/Living-Artichoke-315 4 days ago AITA for causing a scene when my husband's family showed up for dinner again
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    Font - This evening, I made a scene in front of my husband's family while they ate dinner at our house.
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    The tea is piping hot. Does everyone have their mugs ready? 

  • 03
    Font - My husband's family came over for dinner the second time this week. They were also over last week and the week before. Typically, I am not consulted on these visits, I am just informed of them, sometimes with little or no notice at all. The visit two weeks ago had 30 people (this one I had lots of notice). Last week was 15. During these previous visits, I feel I was a good and welcoming host. I made food, cleaned up, made conversation, etc.
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    Font - This afternoon, I was exhausted and not feeling well after a really busy work week and sleep issues. My husband and I have a young daughter who also came home from daycare coughing. We've been dealing with boughts of sickness plus some really big transitions in the last few weeks.
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    Font - Around 3pm, my husband informed me that family members were coming over (6 in total). I told him I wasn't feeling well and was upset he didn't ask me about it before confirming. I was also upset because we had only had one dinner together this week. The previous night he had been at a work dinner and was over at his dad's earlier in the week, plus we'd already had the family.
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    We hate when our hubby tells us guests are coming over with no notice in advance. Don't you understand that we need time to mentally prepare for all of this??? SO inconsiderate 

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    Font - He initially disregarded me and left the room, but he later apologized and reassured me that next week would be quiet and we would spend time together and I could just be upstairs tonight and not have to worry about cleaning anything up. Plus dinner was taken care of already.
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    Font - I had an early dinner with my daughter and put her to bed at 7, which is when his family showed up. I stayed upstairs in bed initially but went down and briefly explained I was not feeling well and our daughter was sleeping.
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    Font - However, there was a lot of noise with kids running around who woke up my daughter, so I went down again around 9. At this point, my husband was slurring his words drunk because when he gets together with his dad, they drink.
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    Font - When I realized he was slurring his words, I lost it. I asked him to stop drinking, in front of his family, because he would be grumpy and hungover the next day. I told him I was tired of it and tired of cleaning up after everyone. Honestly, I can't remember everything I said because I was raging but I do know that I didn't swear or yell, though I was raising my voice. I told him that his behavior was unhealthy and that it was not okay. I basically had a heated argument with him in front
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    Font - But they also knew I was sick yet stayed until after 10pm while the kids ran around making noise. They stayed late earlier in the week too and at that time didn't offer any help.
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    Font - My husband and his dad are both passed out now. The other family and kids have left. I'm embarrassed that I lost my composure, but I am also just so fed up. I feel knots in my gut and guilt for not holding it in. But I feel like I've been holding a lot in and I couldn't contain it any longer.
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    Font - Fit Sandwich 9551 4 days ago . Partassipant [3] It sounds like OP is in a very patriarchal culture where men don't cook or clean or consult their wives and she possibly might not have the freedom to leave to go to a hotel. Making a scene might be her only way of pushing back. I was in a marriage like this. It sucks. OP, NTA, but eventually you're going to have to leave. You can't raise your daughter surrounded by sexist, misogynistic drunks.
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    Font - 000-Hotaru_Tomoe Colo-rectal Surgeon [42] . 4 days ago If 30 people show up unannounced at my door, I redirect them to the nearest food delivery.
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    Font - stephaniecaseys . 4 days ago NTA. The next time this happens, write down the pizza number and put some paper plates and napkins on the table with some red solo cups and a big black garbage bag. Minimize their desire to want to come to your house and they'll stop coming. Also stop stocking alcohol. If your husband wants it, make him buy it. Soon enough he'll be too lazy.
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    Human body - Textlover 4 days ago · It also crossed my mind that he might like his family coming over for the excuse to drink.
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    Font - WTFISWRONGW-ME 4 days ago Yea I'd be putting something in the meals to make them not want to return ever... over salt. Like a crazy amount. Do they hate cilantro? Well you just love it, has to be in every meal There's a high pitched noise maker that will aggravate the kids but the adults likely won't be able to hear it.. Make your house as unpleasant as possible for them.
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    Font - Legal Enthusiasm7748 4 days ago Chocolate laxative in the brownies. ●
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