'He has no right to treat me like this over chicken alfredo': Married couple has wild argument over chicken alfredo

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Mar 26, 2023 2:00 PM EDT

Our guess is this was about much more than delicious pasta. This married couple seemed to have a good thing going with their routine: Dad would take the kids to school in the morning and would do his own laundry (he works as a mechanic), while Mom takes on the majority of household duties in addition to her job as a waitress. They seemed to be in a consistent routine until the past couple of weeks when the Redditor's husband started shirking his responsibilities. 

 

By the time the family sat down for their weekly chicken alfredo dinner, the husband went on a tirade, which caused the Redditor to retaliate as well, all in front of the kids. Folks in the comments seem to think that all signs are pointing to the husband either having major troubles at work or potentially even having an affair. Keep scrolling below and feel free to comment what you think about the future of this couple. For more stories like this, here's one about a Karen's gardening revenge.

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    Font - AITA for blowing up on my husband over chicken alfredo? I (38F) am married to my husband (42M) we've been together since our early twenties and have three small children (all under 10) He's a mechanic and works anywhere from 60 to 80 hours a week, while I work as a hostess 3 days a week at a restaurant while the kids are at school. I do the majority of the housework and childcare and I don't mind as I understand he has a hard job and works a lot. He gets the kids on the bus every morning
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    Font - Over the last 2 months, he's completely stopped helping. He dumps his clothes on the laundry room floor, his half of the bedroom is a mess, he leaves cans and wrappers all over the living room and he's even stopped getting the kids up which has upset them as they love their mornings with dad. He's also been coming home hours later than usual. I've been letting it slide as he seems very stressed out, but a few days ago he snapped at me for being a wife" for letting his clothes go unwashed.
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    Font - Last night I made chicken alfredo, we have it about once a week because the kids love it and no one's ever complained. Well, he bi and moaned through 1 the whole dinner. Said that since I'm not taking care of the house I should at least put a good meal on the table, that I've just been letting the whole family go to and I should be ashamed of myself for treating him and his children like that. Called me a bad wife and mother in front of our children. I told the children to go to their roo
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    Font - I feel bad now, as I shouldn't have reacted like that, especially because I know he's just stressed from work, but it all just kind of built up and came out at once. I just want to know if I was wrong for freaking out on him like that.
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    Font - Purple_Kiwi5476 - 17 hr. ago NTA, OP, I sincerely hope I'm mistaken, but your DH may be having an affair and setting you up to be "the bad wife and mother" to justify his behavior. That's what happened to me. Reply Share 24.5k
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    Font - Hot-Painting-8541 17 hr. ago This or he was fired and can't make himself admit it. Reply Share 9.7k
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    Font - Castilian_eggs 13 hr. ago . All I ask of him is to do his laundry as his clothes are covered in oil and grime Presuming his clothes are dirtied due to his job, I would be shocked if he was dirtying his clothes just to hide his unemployment. Not impossible, but definitely bone-headed. 4.2k Reply Share
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    Font - Special-Attitude-242 · 17 hr. ago S NTA. But it sounds like something has changed for your husband. Could he possibly be depressed or burnt out? 6.4k Reply Share
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    Font - Crayshack 17 hr. ago He works 60-80 hour weeks. I'd be surprised if he wasn't burnt out. I've worked a 60-hour week a few times and it is brutal. The most I worked in one week was 70 and I was in no condition to do 40 the next week let alone another 70. I can't imagine how bad an 80-hour week would be. 2.3k Reply Share
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    Font - SigSauerPower320 NAVY 17 hr. ago I've been known to pull a few... a FEW weeks in a row of 70 plus hours. It's difficult and most people aren't capable of it. I'm not making excuses for the guy, but to work an average of 70 hours a week and also be helping around the house is a lot. 586 Reply Share
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    Font - Inner-Show-1172 17 hr. ago Oh, OP, I'm sorry. Something is awry, and it's not you. Couples counseling now, but keep a watch on your money and protect your kids. Sounds like your husband is checking out. NTA. 4.2k Reply Share
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    Font - alfredoblowupTA OP. 14 hr. ago We have separate accounts and a joint account for bills that we both transfer to. I don't make much at my job but I do have savings from an inheritance I got a few years ago. 2.1k Reply Share
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    Font - theassholethrowawa. 17 hr. ago Info: In the past two months, have you attempted to find out why your partner changed ao drastically? 1.6k Reply Share
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    Font - alfredoblowupTA OP. 17 hr. ago I have asked him, but he tends to brush me off and says he doesn't want to think about work. I do know they recently lost an employee and the work load has gotten bigger for everyone but he's had coworkers quit in the past and never behaved like this 1.6k Reply Share
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    Font - mutualbuttsqueezin 17 hr. ago NTA and I'm side eyeing him suddenly staying out hours later than usual. 1.5k Reply Share
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    Font - ThotsforTater Tots 17 hr. ago NTA. This much of a shift in his behavior makes it seem like something else is going on with him. 4675 Reply Share
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    Font - coolkidfresh 17 hr. ago ΝΤΑ Stressed or not, you're not supposed to be disrespectful to your mate, let alone in front of the children. He's out of line and you were only reacting to his rudeness 661 Reply Share
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    Font - RickGrimesSays 17 hr. ago I honestly hope he's just burnt out and not having an affair even when I doubt that. Once he comes back, sit down with him and have a talk. Good luck, oh and NTA. T315 Reply Share
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