Fresh Off The Press: Flighty Fiancé Cancels Wedding With Negligent Girlfriend After She Messes Up And Has To Take His Dog To The Hospital In AITA Reddit Thread

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Apr 9, 2023 3:00 PM EDT

One of our worst fears is getting a call from the person who is in charge of watching our dog when we're away. It almost never happens, but when it does, you fear the worst. And in this specific scenario, the fiancee was right to be afraid. He gets a call from his partner at 5 AM saying that the dog is very sick. Apparently, while having a party at their house, the girlfriend/fiancée left out chocolate and alcohol, and the dog went to town and got very sick from his midnight munchies.

After being infuriated by the partner's negligence, the author of this AITA decides to cancel their wedding. He says 'I can't even look at her in the eyes' after this. We would be mad too, but would you cancel your wedding over it? Luckily, the dog is okay, but is that an excuse for such a big mistake? What would you do?

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  • 01
    Font - Me (28M) and fiancee (27F) have been together for 4 years, engaged for 6 months. I also have a 7 year-old lab mix who is the greatest dog in existence. On Saturday, fiancee had a bachelorette party at home. I stayed with my parents but I left the dog with her because she likes having him there. However, I made sure to tell her to put the dog in our bedroom once the party gets going.
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  • 02
    Font - 5am on Sunday I get a frantic call that something's wrong with the dog. She was drunk, so I told her to get a taxi and go to the emergency vet clinic. When I got there, she looked like she hadn't stopped crying for hours and she couldn't even speak. Two of her friends were there so they told me my dog is alive but not well. I felt sorry for her for an entire 10 minutes while waiting for the doctor. But then, the doctor told me my dog ingested large amounts of alcohol and chocolate edibles
    via u/mydogismygod0

    We're not joking, we have literal nightmares about this sometimes - about something happening to our dog when we're not there. It's terrifying! We would be furious - FURIOUS - if this happened to our dog. We know it was a mistake, but still.

  • 03
    Font - When we got home, I told my fiancee to pack and get out of my house and my life. I told her to tell her guests the wedding is off, and I'll tell mine. She was shocked, but she took her things and left. 2 hours later, I get bombarded by messages on Messenger, Whatsapp, by her sisters, brother, brother's wife, her mom, her friends, telling me that I am insane to do this to her after 4 years. They started off defending her, but it quickly turned into insulting me. The logical thing for me to
    via u/mydogismygod0

    They're right, the dog didn't die, but still. It's a big mistake to make. And he even requested that they put the dog in the room when the party started. So not only did she make a mistake, she didn't listen to his ONE request.

  • 04
    Font - My sister was appalled that I cancelled the wedding "over that?!" and even my best man said I might have overreacted. Yes, our relationship has had ups and downs, but it's mostly worked fine. But I am so disgusted at my fiancee that I can't even imagine looking her in the eye, let alone spending my whole life with her. She isn't fucking 17, she is 27! By the way, this is not the first dumb thing she has done. She likes to text while driving, she always leaves stuff on the electric stove (
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  • 05
    Font - I'm 99% sure I will stand by my decision. But am I really an asshole? Literally nobody is on my side and I have no idea what to think. Edit: Posting here kind of triggered me to conclude this isn't about the dog at all. She is negligent and irresponsible and I don't want to stick around and possibly see our child die in a car accident some day because she was texting or she forgot to put his seat belt on. I'd rather be an asshole now than spend years of my life worrying every time our chi
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  • 06
    Font - . sanfordclark · 4 yr. ago · edited 4 yr. ago 2 3 Partassipant [1] She clearly doesn't mean that much to you, so yeah, leave over this. I have a cat whom I adore beyond reason and if my current BF accidentally hurt him, I'd be pissed and upset but your dog isn't dead. If he's more important than your woman, that relationship is doomed. I've been in a relationship where I would have chosen my cat over them. That is not a good relationship.
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  • 07
    Font - Blackstar1401. 4 yr. ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [37] It sounds like OP is also concerned about a series of careless and dangerous carelessness. Would you say the same if it was a child?
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  • 08
    Font - _Diskreet_ 4 yr. ago Partassipant [1] ESH - and reading through your replies to most people it seems you've got a lot of issues with your partners behaviour, and you were possibly looking for a good enough reason in your head to end it. I hazard a guess that if everything you've listed has been getting to you over time, that the marriage would not have lasted long after that.
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  • 09
    Font - UncleOgre 4 yr. ago Asshole Enthusiast [6] S 3 NTA. That level of carelessness could lead to death. What would people say if she had done the same thing with a kid around? It's pretty obvious how you feel, getting out now seems like a better option than having this fester until the divorce.
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  • 10
    Font - Gumgums66 4 yr. ago 3 Colo-rectal Surgeon [43] NTA You asked her to do one thing. Put the dog away. I saw a comment where you said they kept him out because they wanted to pet him and stuff. This is what makes her TA. She deliberately ignored what you asked of her after she asked for the dog to stay there, and then she neglected to watch the dog or put the dog away later when they started drinking. It's neglect of an animal.
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  • 11
    Font - It's really pissing me off that everyone is giving off 'it's just a dog' vibes. Like wtf. This wouldn't of happened if the dog was put away like she was asked. It wasn't an accident or a mistake because she left the dog out on purpose for entertainment. I think this is a legitimate reason for not marrying her. It's not like they could get married and be happy and laugh about it in the future like 'do you remember on you hen party when my dog almost died due to your stupidity? Hahahahahaha
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  • 12
    Font - cdjuw28bs. 4 yr. ago 3 Asshole Enthusiast [3] ESH. She sucks for being careless and irresponsible, texting and driving, leaving things on the burner, etc. But you know she is a super careless person, continued to date her, and left your dog with her. Leaving a dog with a careless person is just as irresponsible. Though, not having this trust and compatibility just clarifies you two shouldn't be together.
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  • 13
    Font - LordPyhton 4 yr. ago edited 4 yr. ago 2 3 3 YTA. . She messed up by not doing as you said but it wasn't only on her. You say she is a careless person and you give a bunch of examples, then isn't it your job to take care of your dog and not leave it in a dangerous situation with her know her carelessness?
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  • 14
    Font - I'll be honest though, given how you mention other minor things she does/did, it seems to me you were already looking for any reason to bail on the wedding. You were getting cold feet and are using this as an excuse to get out of a years long relationship and marriage commitment. She made a mistake and had already been crying for hours, as you mention, so she didn't do it deliberately. I'd even understand if she hadn't shown remorse at her mistake or something.
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  • 15
    Font - There is a reason why all those around you are saying you are over reacting, even your mun and your best friends. I don't think you are overreacting though, I think you are just using this as an excuse to bail, knowingly or unknowingly, because you have cold feet.
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  • 16
    Font - Literally_-_Literary 4 yr. ago. edited 4 yr. ago Agreed. YTA OP. (But see edit) You didn't make any attempt to work on the problems you saw in the relationship before this happened. Marriage is a commitment to act as a team - you left your teammate out of the loop, gave her no opportunity to fix her negative/worrying behaviours, then went for the nuclear option when she continued to behave in the way you'd already observed.
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  • 17
    Font - It's almost as though you waited for her to do something that would give you an excuse to leave without feeling like you were at fault. You describe her crying so much she can't speak so dispassionately - everyone around you seems to have more empathy for her than you, and you're supposed to be her life partner. She was irresponsible. She was genuinely sorry. It wasn't her intention to harm the dog, she loves the dog and the dog is going to be ok! This definitely seems to be more about yo
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  • 18
    Font - AsterFlauros 4 yr. ago 2 Partassipant [3] NTA. I don't understand the people saying, "But it's just an accident!" She went against clear, easy instructions by OP and should have enough common sense to keep that stuff in a safe area in the first place. She also has a history of questionable decisions. What if this was their child in the ER? OP, block her family and take a break from talking to yours. You don't have to forgive her just because your dog lived this time. And you don't have to
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  • 19
    Font - greggles32 4 yr. ago YTA as it is a massive over reaction. However, you seem to have bigger issues. You say you're not holding on, but you clearly are.
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  • 20
    Font - [deleted] 4 yr. ago ESH but you are on the verge of being TA. She should have listened and put the dog away but you should have taken the dog with you from what sounds like a fairly not-dog friendly environment. I would never leave either of my cats in that type of environment. . . It sounds like a mistake and you are going nuclear over a mistake.
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  • 21
    Font - BooksNapsSnacks • 4 yr. ago YTA You should still call off the wedding. Clearly you're not that into her.
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  • 22
    Font - MF_Wings 4 yr. ago I completely agree, sounds like the guy was looking for a reason to bail and this is a convenient excuse.
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  • 23
    Font - [deleted] 4 yr. ago NTA overall, but dude, you spent 4 years together. You were ready to get married and you hadn't done any sort of reflection on what her, your, future was gonna look like? I'm gonna say very slightly YTA for dropping all this on her, and everyone, all at once when it should have been something discussed earlier.
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  • 24
    Font - AITA for cancelling my wedding because fiancee almost got my dog killed?
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