'YTA and made it clear to everyone there': Satisfying response to entitled mom's Reddit AITA post puts her in her place

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    Hair - Posted by u/Massive-Pack-8369 13 hours ago 632 AITA for telling my SIL I don't need her parenting advice as she clearly doesn't know what she's doing?
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    Font - I (36f) have a beautiful baby boy (10 months) who was christened last Saturday. My twin and his wife (41f) flew in for the christening with my nieces (7,5 f). They live in another state and I paid for their flights because they live with a modest income and she is a stay at home mom. The day before the christening, when they arrived, my son was crying and we tried his usual self-soothing techniques but he wouldn't stop. My SIL said, we should just give him his pacifier. I told her we don'
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    Font - Over the next few days, it was a similar rodeo. Baby cry and we would use self-soothing techniques and SIL would mention how pacifiers would soothe him. Well, after the christening, upon her suggestion once again to give my crying son a pacifier, I snapped and in a room full of friends and family, I said, I would never take parenting advice from a 41 year old woman that still lives with on her parent's property, cannot hold down a job so she's a “stay at home mom", that my retired parents
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    Font - Well - obviously the room was silent and she ran off crying and she and my brother left. They only came back that evening but she nor my brother said anything to me. They left the next day to the airport. My brother said I have to apologize and it was unfair of me to throw their finances in their faces. While I apologized for that, I said I would not apologize for telling her the fact about my nieces situation and I told him that on multiple occasions both I and my husband (he's a pediatr
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    Human body - Now my parents are telling me to apologize again. Naturally my friends are on my side. So internet, AITA?
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    Font - Edit: 1. To those saying I'm a bad parent because my son is constantly crying. He's teething and we have various self soothing techniques we use including self soothing music, his Sophie (classic teething toy), his soothing support stuffie, etc. 2. Brother and SIL asked husband and I (pediatrician and surgeon) for medical advice regarding 5 year old niece still using pacifiers. We warned them on multiple occasions about the negative effects of pacifiers on kids her age. They just failed t
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    Font - 3. I do not have a temper, I was very stressed. However I will be reaching out to SIL in a few days to speak with her directly and apologize for my hurtful outburst. 4. The comments about the finances, yes, I am upset because my brother is upset about their finances and wants her to get a job to help burden the load (his words). He's in grad school after a layoff to get a better opportunity for his family. He wishes she would help. She stopped working 6 months into her first pregnancy and
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    Font - Anti-Charm-Quark - 12 hr. ago 6 More 6 Asshole Aficionado [10] YTA. & You could have said, "thank you for the suggestion but we choose not to use pacifiers and I expect you to respect our parenting choices even if you make other choices." Instead you dropped a nuclear bomb destroying this woman's entire life. Frankly, no apology is ever going to repair that kind of a contemptuous string of insults. If you intended to sever that relationship, mission accomplished.
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    Font - Intermountain-Gal 11 hr. ago Partassipant [1] If I could afford it I'd give you an award. You are so right. . OP, you used a nuclear bomb to kill a fly. YTA
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    Font - leese216 11 hr. ago Gave one for you. Completely agree. And to add insult to Injury, not only did he say all of that out loud to her face, but IN A ROOM FULL OF PEOPLE. I feel like this goes far deeper than just parenting advice.
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    Font - araquinar 10 hr. ago Right? OP can apologize to SIL all she wants but everybody heard her. There's no coming back from that.
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    Font - UruquianLilac 7 hr. ago She very obviously resents her, her parenting choices, her life choices, and her financial dependency and have never found an outlet to express her frustrations. So they just burst out here because there was an alibi with the SIL sticking her nose where she shouldn't have.
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    Font - stilettopanda. 2 hr. ago Oh you can feel the self satisfied smugness all over the post. These two seem like every awful stay at home mom trope and every awful know it all mom trope the rolled into a nasty little package of hate and resentment. They both suck, but op is a pompous asshole. She's just gonna fuck her kid up in the opposite way and hamstring the kid by micromanaging every little detail until it can't live in the world as a functioning human being. Luckily mommy and daddy have
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    Font - cakivalue 10 hr. ago Deep sea creatures could smell the resentment oozing off OP for her SIL like whoa SIL was a pesky fly and OP burnt the village to the ground
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    Font - Bastyboys 6 hr. ago . The asteroid that killed the dinosaurs would have swerved to avoid the cringe of being in that room.
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    Font - CandyLand Kiddo. 4 hr. ago The entire family dynamic sounds toxic. As a mother of a teething child, no self- soothing "techniques" help with teething except chewing on stuff, Tylenol and sleep. A stuffed animal isn't going to help a teething baby unless it has massaging chewy limbs And being in pain in a weird family event where there's probably high stress and animosity - I'll never understand why people do these things to their young kids with an audience
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    Font - Altruistic_Rabbit_21 4 hr. ago OP stands on a higher pedestal than her SIL and brother. She acts like everything she does is perfect and SIL is wrong in every scenario. She should take a look at herself and stop judging everyone else's parenting techniques, and stop being an AH.
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    Font - DoYou HaveAnyIdea16 7 hr. ago Partassipant [4] The edit says she's a surgeon! Can you just imagine what her bedside manner is like! I would have expected much better self control from a surgeon. And better judgment. You would think a couple of highly educated people whose jobs are to help people, wouldn't have to come to reddit for advice. YTA
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    Font - Curious-One4595 - 4 hr. ago Certified Proctologist [21] Yes private apology first, public apology after. YTA. Limited pacifier use for babies doesn't harm and has some situational benefits. There's a lot of room between no pacifier and pacifier at 5 years old. For someone with an advanced degree who makes life and death decisions, OP seems woefully bad at everyday logic, like knowing what traits are relevant to one's parenting ability and what traits are not. "Poor people are bad parents"
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    Font - TasteofPaste 9 hr. ago . OP doesn't say if she gives her 10month old any medicine for teething?!!! My baby was teething and giving him painkillers made him calm right down! You'd think during an actual Christening it would be useful to give a teething baby some pain relief? No, just cry it out and self soothe! That's so cruel. Baby doesn't even know why he's hurting. But we already know OP is cruel because of everything she said. OP is in the running for asshole of the year.
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    Font - ZoomMC 10 hr. ago Partassipant [2] She also cant come back from showing her contempt of her SIL by blaming her for all the financial problems, like her angel of a twin brother couldn't possibly also be responsible for the financial situation they are in.
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    Font - dazechong 10 hr. ago Partassipant [1] . There are some things in the OP's post that is interesting to me, just based on the way she described things, like her distain for her brother and her sister-in-law's family, their financial situation, etc. I clicked on this post thinking I'm going to find another enabler parent with horrible, spoiled children, but there's no mention of that. It almost seems like she's lording over her sister-in-law because she's better off. And let's be honest. If
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    Font - LittleBananaSquirrel 8 hr. ago The vibe I got was "My husband and I are so much better than you, how dare this pond scum think she could possibly have any worthy advice for me! I'M A SURGEON, MY HUSBAND IS A PEDIATRICIAN, doesn't she know who she's talking to?" Super fcking gross

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