'[She] threatened to breakup with me': Teen boyfriend loses his V-card then immediately posts a video online blowing out the candles on a "virginity cake"

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Jesse Kessenheimer • Writer and Editor
Apr 28, 2023 7:00 PM EDT

Losing your virginity is a big deal. When you're in high school especially, losing your V-card can be particularly traumatizing because of the implications that come with it. As a female, you're questioned in every way. Are you a floozy? Is she putting out now? Was that her first time? When you're a high school boy, it's all high fives and back pats, congratulating a job well done. That double standard has been this way as long as humanity has existed. 

One high school boy, an 18 year old, played a dangerous game in celebrating the loss of his innocence. After having relations with his girlfriend of 8 months, he finally became the last of his friend group to enter the domaine of manhood. To celebrate, they bought him a frosted cake with "Virginity" written on the front with a huge red X slashing through it– hilarious to a group of hootin' and hollerin' teenaged boys. Things went south when a video of him blowing out the candles of his V-cake got posted in an online story, letting everyone know that his cat was out of its bag. 

The teen's girlfriend saw the story and was furious. 

Obviously since everyone knew they were a couple, this implicated her as well. Naturally, the whole thing blew up in his face and now the Internet is up in arms about their relationship. She threatened to break up with him after being publicly shamed; she hated that all of their friends knew about their intimate relationship. The boyfriend immediately took the video down once she called him out on it and made her threats. 

She eventually came around though, because the cake itself was actually pretty funny. For her it was more about sharing the details of their physical relationship than it was having the world know that they were doing it. She was a pretty good sport for what could have been a disastrous end to a beautiful beginning. 

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    Photograph - AITA For Posting A Virginity Cake VIRGIN
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    Font - I (18M) have been dating my girlfriend (18F) for almost 8 months now. Last week, we slept together for the first time. A day later, when hanging out with some of my friends, I told them that we had slept together (my friends always made fun of me for being a virgin, as I was the last in the group to have sox).
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    Font - Yesterday, my friends came to my house with a small ShopRite cake that had a horribly written 'Virgin' with a big red X over it. They were all recording and laughing. I thought it was really funny and they all took a video of me blowing out a candle on the cake as they all clapped.
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    Font - I asked one of my friends to send me the video and I posted it to my private story on Snapchat (this story has my gf, her two best friends who I'm also friends with, the four guys in my friend group, along with 2 other people who I'm friends with at school).
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    Font - About two hours of my story being up, my gf texted me that was an "immature asshole" because I made a joke of an important step in our relationship and told multiple people and has threatened to break up with me.
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    Font - I took the story down and said that it was just a joke and that I didn't mean to upset her. She left me on delivered. My friend texted me asking why I took the story down and I said it was because it made my gf unhappy. My friend said she's overreacting and that I'm not an asshole.
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    Font - UPDATE 1: To clear up some misconceptions; my gf was not a virgin previously (only I was), so it was not a 'me taking her virginity!' type of thing. The reason we waited 8 months was completely on me. I was really nervous in the beginning and she respected that. Yes, I did want to lose my virginity, but I did want to wait.
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    Font - Also, I showed my gf this post and she also wants to finish reading through everything before we talk and told me to learn and read the replies, so I will and have. I know I'm an idiot and that I f'ed up, I will continue to read these comments and learn. Further clarification, I did post this to a private story with a few friends, not to a bunch of strangers like a lot of you have said.
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    Font - Update 2 (It's a long one!): We talked and I apologized. She said she thought the cake was funny, didn't care too much about the post, she just felt embarrassed/upset/etc. because she thought (based off of my friends' reactions) that I had gone into detail about us having sex when telling my friends. I assured her that I did not, all I said was that I had sex and it was amazing.
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    Font - She did say that she is still worried I might tell my friends the specifics of everything we do and that she'd prefer if we kept everything PG for a while, which I'm okay with (obviously). She did also say, as a lot of you pointed out, that she was worried my friends might look at her differently (which a lot of you taught me may happen due to gender differences)
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    Font - I assured her they would not since they don't care about that type of thing and that if they ever did, I would immediately stop hanging out with them. She was also just surprised since I'm a bit more private when it comes to relationships and so it just caught her off guard.
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    Font - Aside from that though, she didn't mind that I told my friends (as long as I don't go into the specifics) because she was going to tell hers when they next hang out. She was basically just caught off guard, preferred that she was made aware of who would see the video (aka who's on my private story), and was worried about what my friends would say, so she panicked and got upset with me.
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    Font - She does find the cake funny and says she wishes her friends would do dumb stuff like that sometimes, so maybe I'll get her a cake (if I do, I'll post a pick of it on here). To sum it up, she was upset bc she was caught off guard and was worried what my friends would think of her.
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    Font - We are on good terms though! So, yes, still dating! We talked about boundaries/communication and I feel a lot better and so does she. Also, I love my gf. I appreciated a lot of the advice and everyone explaining to me how my gf probably feels and how I can work to communicate better.
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    Font - I also posted the cake without thinking, I just thought it was a funny joke (ik I should've checked with my gf first and I will from now on, I promise), but I never did it with the intent to flex. I love that I had sex, but I love it because I had it with someone I love and deeply trust; not because I'm trying to tally up girls.
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    Font - I know many of you have said that I'm a horrible bf, but I made a mistake. I apologized, sought out advice, listened and learned through even the meanest of replies, and know not to repeat my actions. AND AGAIN - I DID NOT POST THE VIDEO FOR ANYONE OTHER THAN MY FRIEND GROUP TO SEE. Many of you have implied otherwise, but that's just not true.
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    Rectangle - dell828. YTA. Sure, it's your virginity but if everybody knows who your girlfriend is it's kind of outing her too. You embarrassed your girlfriend. Just remember, men get celebrated for s women get called Hes.
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    Human body - threelizards Men get cakes and impromptu parties, women get degraded and dehumanised.
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    Rectangle - MJNMercer. To play devil's advocate here adult men 100% joke and brag about their s life all the time. It's incredibly common. While i don't completely agree with ops actions he told a few friends and took it down when his girlfriend said she was upset about it.
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    Font - OkKnowledge9045 Well... He's not a grown man... He's still wrong, and needs to learn from this so that he doesn't repeat it when he is a grown man, but it sounds like that's exactly what he's doing.
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    Font - asakadeva This. Your girlfriend respected your wishes and waited 8 months for this intimate moment, and then you went right ahead and plastered it on the internet?
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    Font - bitchlasagna222. Yeah maybe them making the cake was funny to OP, but it didn't need to be posted or discussed outside of that group.
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    Font - TheCrawlingBacillus YTA. Rule number one of having any sort of class is you don't kiss and tell. This wasn't a one night stand, this was a special moment with your partner and you made a joke out of it. If you're going to be taking adult actions, you need to behave like an adult.
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