‘PhD studies is not a job' : Entitled Sister Sabotages Brother's Relationship After His Girlfriend Refuses to Babysit and Spend Time With the Family

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elina lee
May 2, 2023 1:00 PM EDT

If there's one thing we absolutely cannot stand in this world - it's entitlement. Listen, we don't care how old you are, how rich you are, or how high you are up on the corporate ladder - you have no right to judge others and especially feel like they owe you. No, but really. It boggles our brains how people could be so small-minded in order to believe that their way of living is the only way. 

On the one hand, it's quite amusing watching entitled people in their element. They're like grown-up babies who pout, cry, and scream whenever they don't get their way. The second-hand embarrassment is on another level. But on a serious note, if this describes your behavior - you should seriously consider cutting that $hit out. Or else you'll turn out like OP of today's story. 

The highlight is on an entitled sister who couldn't help but bud into her brother's love life. Why? Because she thought she knew best. Welp, little did she know that wasn't the case.  

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    Font - Posted by u/bluejaycakes 19 hours ago AITA for ruining my brother's relationship because i wanted his girlfriend to be more involved with our family?
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    Font - I (28f) always had a great relationship with my brother (38m) and the rest of my family. When my son (now 5) was born, they supported me through a lot, especially since my baby's father abandoned us.
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    Font - The problem started when he met his girlfriend (30s)in university. At the start, i was truly happy for him, especially since he'd talk to me about wanting to ask her out ever since he heard of her from her classmates. what i didn't like is that she didn't care much to keep contact with us, even after being together for well over a year. she was always too busy to meet our family.
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    Font - He told me she was an amazing cook, was kind, brilliant, etc. and he wanted to marry her and travel with her back to her country once she finished her phd. He'd always talk to us about how lucky he was to be dating her (she's a judge) and how her government was financing her. I'll admit, knowing a childless woman wasn't working and was paid more money than me, on top of having her rent and other things covered, stung a little, but it had nothing to do with my dislike of her.
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    "I'll admit, knowing a childless woman wasn't working and was paid more money than me, on top of having her rent and other things covered, stung a little, but it had nothing to do with my dislike of her."

    Everything is starting to make sense now

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    Font - I wanted her to be more involved in our family, but there was always an excuse as to why she couldn't meet us for dinners, etc. She'd be studying, helping someone from abroad (which i don't really believe, what could she be doing for anyone being miles away?), and on the rare occasions she was free, she was either travelling to see her family, hosting friends or wanted to be alone. I didn't
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    Ever thought about the fact that maybe you're just not that of a great company? 

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    Font - buy that she didn't have any time for us because she doesn't work and was always at home, but she stopped accepting my visits and refused anything to do with my son as well, which slowly distanced my brother. she wouldn't even babysit when my parents were out of town and i needed her to watch him so i could work. personally, i don't think she's as kind as my brother thought.
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    Font - My parents were on my side, brother wanted to be "neutral", but asked us to not "stress her out even more". A few days ago, me and my parents went to her house to talk things out with them both. We were upset, but tried our best to explain why her distance and refusal to help was unacceptable since she doesn't work and has free time, i told her
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    Font - i wished she'd be more caring and she got increasingly angrier, but said nothing. Then she turned to my brother and asked him if he agreed, but he said he didn't want to take sides. She said that this was "another example of why she felt so resistant to the idea of getting into a relationship", that "she couldn't
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    Font - take it anymore and felt better being alone" and then broke up with him. I was shocked, none of us expected this and my brother immediately tried to backtrack, but she told all of us to leave her house immediately and to not go back.
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    Font - Now i'm feeling guilty and my brother won't speak to us because i ruined his relationship and she's irreducible. She isn't bothering to listen to anyone in our family and I'm afraid there's no way to fix this. AITA or did she overreact?
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    Font - Icy_Hovercraft_6379 · 18 hr. ago Partassipant [3] YTA. Not her responsibility to watch your child(ren) or be there for your whims/amusement. And be honest with yourself: the fact that she is childless and does have free time bothers you. You are not entitled to her time. Keep repeating that to yourself until it gets through to you. 13.3k Reply Share
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    Font - Icy_Hovercraft_6379 18 hr. ago Partassipant [3] Also wanted to add that she does work if she's a judge. ●
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    Font - Alaudawrites 17 hr. ago She's doing a PhD as well, which is a full-time job. ↑ 5.1k Reply Share
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    Font - Minimalist12345678 11 hr. ago Yeah... "She's a PhD student and a judge, but she doesn't have kids, how can she be busy"? My god... The combination of entitlement and profound ignorance is quite staggering. 1.7k Reply Share
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    Font - Stairowl 14 hr. ago If she's "always helping someone abroad" then she probably is working is some form of mentoring/consultant role for someone within the legal system of her country.
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    Font - TaterMA 13 hr. ago Girlfriend was smart enough to ditch OPs brother. When he decided to remain neutral he ended his own relationship. OPs family should come with a warning
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