‘I’d rather be a happy spinster than miserable and married’ : Woman Pressures Younger Cousin To Get Married, Later Turns Out She's Unhappy In Her Own Marriage

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    Font - Posted by u/CrabLactose 17 hours ago I'm happy that my cousin is not doing well in her marriage.
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    Font - My cousin is your typical social butterfly. She had a friendly personality and generally fun to be around with. She married early right after highschool. Now at 26 she had 2 wonderful kids. I like hanging out with her myself, but she had a nasty habit of forcing me to find a partner and marry. You know the typical family pressure stuff.
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    Font - Our usual banter would be like "Get married or you'll be an old spinster and no one will like you". I would reply with "I don't want to be like you who cannot go out to have fun anymore"
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    Font - But it starts to get stressful when everytime we see each other in family events, she would bring up the marriage topic in front of the whole family, then they will start to gang up on me. I'm only 25 years old btw.
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    Font - Since she is close with my brother as they are the same age, she tells him almost anything. I was badmouthing her husband to my brother then the conversation led him to spilled some tea about their marriage.
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    Font - while she was Apparently preaching on how wonderful marriage life is to me, she herself almost got divorced several times because her husband is incompetent and a junkie. She even ran out of the house several times. I don't feel compassion for her, but I do for her children. I don't know why I feel happy about her misfortune but I do.
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    Font - SpicyHashbrowns 16 hr. ago My cousin whom I am very close to completely settled. She told me that word for word. The dude doesn't even take the garbage out. He's never mowed the lawn. She does it ALL. 4 1.3k Reply Share
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    Font - CrabLactose My cousin's husband don't even drive. Not 'can't drive' but 'won't drive'. AT ALL. There's no trauma or anything just him being weird. She had to drive even when she was 9 months pregnant and her stomach was touching the steering wheel. OP 16 hr. ago ●
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    Font - Much-Recording9444 9 hr. ago Misery likes company. She's secretly jealous of you and wants you to be in the same sinking ship as her
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    Font - SugarsBoogers 15 hr. ago ● Doesn't settling usually imply the person has SOME redeeming qualities, just not everything?
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    Font - Juicyy56 - 6 hr. ago · edited 12 min. ago This is my sisters situation. She settled for the first guy who showed interest in her. We all warned her not to have a second baby with this bloke, but she goes and does it anyway.
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    Font - Their second child has health issues, so it's twice as worse now. None of us like him, but there's nothing we can do, so we just let it go. I'm still hoping she'll wake up.
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    Font - rainbowstar96 · 14 hr. ago I'd rather be a happy old spinster than in a miserable marriage! Maybe your cousin is just projecting? Misery loves company after all. She sees you enjoying your 20's while she is trapped in a horrible existence and wants you to get married so you can be unhappy just like her! Or
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    Font - at the very least try to tear you down with her comments. It's sad really. And even sadder when you consider the fact that you'd probably even be there for her (?) and be a friend to provide strength and support if she wasn't being so ridiculously childish. I probably wouldn't feel bad either.

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