'I charge him $400 a month': Husband Who Dumped Wife Now Pays Her $400 Monthly So She Won’t File for Divorce

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Eleonora Bader
Jun 24, 2023 7:00 PM EDT

Divorce is a nasty process that can leave you an emotional wreck… and it's not too kind to your bank account, either. In this case, a woman who we'll call OP took to Reddit to share the petty revenge she took on her ex-husband, who left her high and dry but backtracked when he realized that he would have to pay loads in insurance. He didn't want her back, per see; he just wanted her insurance.

During the time that he left, OP was an absolute wreck, as aforementioned. She was crying every night, sometimes on the bathroom floor. So suffice to say she wasn't exactly keen on giving him what he wanted… unless of course, it entailed her getting something she wanted. OP found a way to get her ex-husband to pay her $400 every month, which she then used for a vacation to Spain. Scroll down to read exactly how she did it.

For more, here is a woman who asked Redditors if she was a Bridezilla for asking her fiance to uninvite one of the groomsmen to their upcoming wedding because he had cheated on his wife.

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  • 01
    Font - Posted by u/wintry_mixxx 17 hours ago 80002 Husband who dumped me now pays me not to file for divorce
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    Font - My husband of 25 years decided he wanted to split up. I unsuccessfully begged him to change his mind, and spent a lot of nights crying on the bathroom floor.
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    Font - One thing to note is that I carried the health insurance for the family. He is self-employed. When he wouldn't change his mind, we filed for legal separation and he moved out. In the meantime, I got a BANGIN' new job that covers
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  • 04
    Font - 100% of the health and dental insurance premiums for the entire family, with a $100 deductible. Sweeeeet. He is still allowed to be on my insurance, since we are legally separated rather than divorced, and it costs me nothing to have
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  • 05
    Font - him on my insurance. But I am petty as hell. So I charge him $400 a month for something that costs me $0. He of course is welcome to get insurance on his own in the marketplace, which would probably cost at least 2x that amount for an equivalent policy. I make sure he knows it
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  • 06
    Font - costs me nothing, nada, zip to have him on my insurance, and that his $400/month payment is funding my upcoming trip to Spain. If you have a legal separation, getting a divorce in my state is just a matter of filing a form and
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  • 07
    Font - paying $60. If I did that, he couldn't be on my insurance anymore. So he is basically paying me $400 a month not to file for divorce, after not wanting to be married anymore. I love it.
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    Font - Edited to respond to comments: This approach was approved my my family law attorney, my estate attorney, his attorney, my health insurance company, and my employer. So if you know better than all those parties combined, have at it.
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  • 09
    Font - I reported the income to the IRS. People who say things like "But what about alimony?" clearly don't understand how any of this works. I can't look at comments anymore, just too many.
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    Font - wolfie379 +2.17 hr. ago Don't know about your jurisdiction's laws, but be sure to update your will. In many jurisdictions, if you don't have a will (and any will you had before marriage is voided when you marry), everything goes to your spouse on your death. Reply Share 3.8k ...
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    Font - wintry_mixxx OP 17 hr. ago Oh, that is the FIRST thing I did. Reply Share 4.8k ... TootsNYC +1 - 16 hr. ago Life insurance as well. Legal spouse has serious protections in many states.
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    Font - supershinythings +3 15 hr. ago A friend of mine is the beneficiary of her husband's life insurance. And he's REQUIRED to keep paying the premiums.
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    Font - Since it's a payroll deduction he doesn't have to actually DO anything, but it was what the divorce decree granted her after over 20 years of marriage. And she didn't have to give it up when she remarried either. 513 Reply Share
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    Font - Spamacus66 17 hr. ago You know every year it seems to me that insurance only gets more expensive doesn't it?............ 4947 Reply Share
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    Font - wintry_mixxx OP 16 hr. ago You are very right, it's amazing how fast those costs can climb! 675 Reply Share
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    Font - ThatWhich Lurks 782 17 hr. ago Amazing. A+ pettiness and I hope you enjoy Spain 985 Reply Share
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  • 17
    Font - maywellflower 15 hr. ago . Pettiness so costly that it might as well be nuclear revenge due to no matter what choice OP's ex makes, he is fu ked - At least that costiness is paying for trip to Spain for OP. ↑ 124 Reply Share
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    Font - mamaoliver 16 hr. ago Another thought, double check your retirement, if you have one. Spouses are entitled to some of that fund as well. 235 Reply Share
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    Font - kosmonaut5 - 15 hr. ago This is absolutely tragic that the USA ppl have insurance attached to their jobs. I hear that people could be forced to stay in bad/ab sive relationships to keep health insurance.
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    Product - Yay for a trip to Spain though. 174 Reply Share Oldbroad56 13 hr. ago Yes, and those people are usually women. 65 Reply Share
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    Font - Hot_Aside_4637. 16 hr. ago The lack of Universal Healthcare in the U.S. has finally found a good purpose. 368 Reply Share
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    Font - Fzero45 15 hr. ago Your insurance pays 100% of all dental procedures? I have never heard of this in the states. ↑ 36 Reply Share
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    Font - JunkerPilot 15 hr. ago Where's the petty revenge? It was his choice to leave you. It was his idea to stay on your insurance. Now he gets to live like he's single and he gets a great deal on insurance? How is this not a win for him? It's all things he wants and asked for.
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    Font - You wanted him, it hurt when he left, and now he kicks you change under the table to get one heck of a deal without being in your life in any other shape or form.
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    Font - Wouldn't it stick it to him more if you did divorce and he was forced to pay double on his own? It would be the first thing mentioned that you choose and he didn't want. ↑ 61 Reply Share
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    Font - SiriFlo 13 hr. ago This is also my take on things. I don't see how people applauding her think she's getting any sort of 'revenge' at all?
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    Font - The guy didn't want to stick with her anymore, decided it was convenient to leave without taking any legal action to still enjoy benefits that were in his interest and moved on to live his life from the sound of it.
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