‘You left when I needed you most’: Husband Abandons Wife at Hospital While She’s Giving Birth to Their Twins Because the First Baby Born Is a Girl

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elina lee
Jul 7, 2023 1:00 PM EDT

People love to preach about parenting, traditional family values, and whatnot but when it comes down to it, a lot of these preachers end up being the biggest hypocrites on earth. They'll preach about how important it is to spend quality time with your children, but they themselves are absent parents, who prioritize their careers first. They'll advocate for traditional family values, emphasizing the importance of stable and loving home environments, yet their personal lives will be filled with nothing but sins, infidelity, and neglect. 

Welp, today we're bringing you a story of exactly just that. The highlight is on a father who basically abandoned his wife during birth because the baby that came out was not the gender that he was expecting. Can you guys believe that?! We don't know, something about this just rubs us the wrong way. If you're going to be disappointed that your kid will be a certain gender, how about you don't have kids ???? 

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  • 01
    Font - So for three generations of our family, we have had somebody carry on the name of my great grandfather. However, despite the facts my dad, uncle, and aunts having 3 boys and 2 girls between them all, so far all of us have either been suffering with fertility issues or have only had daughters.
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    Font - Don't get me wrong- my wife and I already have a daughter and I love her very much. However, given that the other relatives are either planning to adopt daughters from parents who could not raise them, committing to being childfree, or saying they are happy with the three girls they have, I felt a lot of pressure on me to be the one that has a son.
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    Font - So much pressure that when we found out my wife was carrying twins we saw it as a blessing from a higher spirit. However, given our finances (I'm a firefighter and my wife is a CNA for a nursing home), the " one child and done" would have been better for us.
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  • 04
    Font - We contemplated stopping but my great uncle (who is obsessed about how many kids people have) was all like "Well Nelson Peltz had 10 kids- more kids make you find ways of making more money." And other relatives chiming in saying people with more kids make more money.
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    Font - We were so nervous about the gender that we did not want to know until birth. But that did not stop relatives from coming in with a bunch of old wives' tales saying based on my wife's symptoms the babies were the same gender for sure.
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    Font - So flash forward to the day of the birth. The first baby was born Sunday at 11:20AM. I hear the baby crying and then silence from the previously chatty relatives. Finally somebody, and I forget who, tells me it's a healthy girl and I should be proud.
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    Font - I was so upset because of the relatives put in my mind that if the first one was a girl, the second one would be too. And I hate to say it, I was having stress over adding twins to the house.
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    Font - I made my excuses and walked out. I went out to the car and cried and then drove to the nearby cafe to get a coffee to calm myself down. Before I got there I got a call from my mom saying I had a son.
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    Font - I turned around the car and sped back to the hospital. However, when I got to my wife's room a nurse came out and said in a rather smug tone- " Sir- your wife is asking that you not be admitted inside." I tried to tell her that I wanted to be with my wife but she just gave me a " You don't scare me." type eye roll.
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    Font - My wife banned me from her room for the next day and finally this morning she said I could come hold my twins. She pointedly made me acknowledge our daughter first ( as if a baby understands English) and then let me hold my son. I could not stand it anymore and told her that throwing a grouchy nurse on me and then what she did just then was petty and I cannot believe her.
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    Font - She got mad and said that she was naming our son the name I wanted and then threw me out again. AITA for going away to collect my emotions, and feeling I'm entitled to my kids?
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    Font - Foxlikebox 17 hr. ago W YTA holy sł. t? You abandoned your wife while she was giving birth, first of all. And second of all, you need to seek help for your views on baby girls vs baby boys. You literally broke down and cried at the prospect of having two daughters, but sped back when you found out the second was a boy?
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    Font - wilkergobucks 16 hr. ago Yes yes yes. And quit saying that your relatives put anything in your mind. You are obviously over concerned with the gender of your kid - work on that or you will have parenting/marital issues in the future...
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    Font - Venice2seeYou 7 hr. ago YTA OP He already does have marital issues, he abandoned his wife in childbirth. F him, I would leave the hospital upon discharge and go anywhere he is not!
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    Font - neon31 14 hr. ago I'm a father of two, and I'm trying to look at it at from the lens of the wife. For richer and for poorer, in sickness and in health, till death do us part. Those are marriage vows. Mr. B :ch-a s McCoward just noped outta there when he didn't see a son.
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    Font - Here are the wrongs I see: 1. You never abandon your wife who is giving birth. NEVER. 2. I'm a man, I acknowledge that men have emotions (I'm a sensitive person myself). This isn't even a situation where you need to man up because this is supposedly a joyous occassion. But if the situation calls for it? MAN TF UP.
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    Font - Proud_Ad_8830 17 hr. ago YTA and the fact you don't see what you did was cruel, selfish and wrong to both your wife and your kids makes you more of an AH 5.5k Reply Share
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    Font - AV TotallyWonder Woman. 16 hr. ago I always say that if you'd be disappointed that your kid would be a certain gender, then you shouldn't have kids. His daughters will never be good enough in his eyes. 1.2k Reply Share
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