'I wanted to keep the pregnancy private': Bride Demands Dressmaker Tailor New Wedding Dress for Free Due to Being Pregnant, Despite Knowing of Pregnancy Beforehand

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    Font - Posted by u/Ok-Problem116 19 hours ago AITA for charging my pregnant cousin for a new wedding dress after she told me about her pregnancy last minute?
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    Font - I 29f own a bridal shop. My cousin Lucy 27f is getting married in 2 months and I designed and tailored her wedding dress as a gift. She paid me for the materials. It will take another week to finish the dress, and I constantly update
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    Font - Lucy on the status of her dress and asked if she is happy at every stage and if she had any more ideas. She would make the odd comment, but never anything major. The dress in total took me just over 4 months.
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    Font - Last weekend, her and her fiance hosted a family dinner, and at the end, Lucy announced she was pregnant. At the dinner, I congratulated her and her fiance. She came to my store with my aunt that week for her final fitting.
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    Font - I again mentioned the pregnancy and asked how far along she was. She was 12 weeks along and told me how hard to keep the pregnancy a secret. I told her the dress wouldn't fit her at 20ish weeks during the wedding and she
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    Font - said she knew and asked me to retailor the dress to fit her new proportions as she would showing heavily at the wedding. I told her I can't do that due to the intricate beading that I will have to carefully remove and reattach. I told her she might as well get a new dress
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    Font - as it would be easier for me to start from scratch and essentially I was just making her a second wedding dress. She agreed and then I gave her the invoice for a new dress. I gave her a breakdown and charged her for materials, tailoring, labour and
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    Font - overtime (still with a discount). I will have to work outside my hours to make her the new dress on time as I have a busy schedule with existing clients that pay full price. I told her if she had told me about her pregnancy from the second
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    Font - she had found out, I might've been able to adjust the dress then, but it is complete now. She said her fiance wanted to keep it private, which I understand, but I wouldn't have told anyone, and I only needed to know for the dress purposes.
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    Font - She called me TA for not understanding where she is coming from and said she will only pay for materials. I refused to back down, and told her that this close to the wedding she will struggle to finalize a new dress she likes and
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    Font - get it tailored in time as she will be pregnant. I also refused to give her the dress sketch, as it was my design and I didn't want her to replicate my work elsewhere. She left angry with her mom who later called me up to say Lucy is upset
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    Font - about not having a dress this close to the wedding and that I am being cruel because this stress is not good for the baby.
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    Font - Odd Task8211. 19 hr. ago. edited 17 hr. ago Certified Proctologist [28] NTA. She knew she was pregnant and didn't tell you. You are under no obligation to foot the bill. Sucks that it will cost her money, but actions have consequences. edited to correct autocorrect error.
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    Font - Silver Plated Lining. 16 hr. ago 2 I was the bride in this situation, and the person who was working on my dress was a very good friend of my brother. Not someone I would usually tell that I would be 11 weeks pregnant at the wedding.
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    Font - However, I knew that for her job to be done well (and for my dress to fit me), she needed to know. I told her, and also told her that it wasn't public info just yet. She made my dress fit me and didn't tell anyone. OP is NTA, but the bride sure is. 46.6k Reply Share
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    Font - Mobius_ 19 hr. ago NTA. this sub is filled with brides who seem to think their family members in a serious profession will work for free and with limited information because family. guarantee she would not have tried to pull this with a bridal shop where she wasn't related.
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    Font - ladystetson 19 hr. ago Certified Proctologist [26] ΝΤΑ. you gave her a free wedding dress. I think it's fine to say "i don't have time and resources to make a completely new wedding dress for free".
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    Font - But, I would give her the dress that you made and give her the option to go to someone else to get it tailored, if she's stuck on that. That way you don't have to deal with her anymore and she can pin the failure/frustration of the dress on someone else.
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    Font - above all, i just encourage you to try to find a peaceful resolution here. avoiding drama has its own value. Not saying do work for free, but have a meeting with her, her mother and her fiance and really try to find a resolution - and help them to understand your limitations and all the work you've done out of kindness up to this point.
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    Font - MaybeAWalrus. 19 hr. ago Commander in Cheeks [203] NTA. You understand where she is coming from, obviously, but she doesn't seem to understand where YOU are coming from. Making a second dress is expensive, both in money and time. Reply Share 423

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