'None of my business': Son ignores dad's chores after dad tells him 'it's your responsibility'

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    Font - I Teach My Lazy Dad a lesson SOC Cast: Me My dad My sister Story: I'm 17 and I do my share if chores around the house. Have been doing for years. They involve taking out the trash, mopping the whole house,etc.
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    Font - One evening I was mopping the dining room and the living area(common room), when it started raining lightly. My dad was outside and called me to take down the clothes from the Clothesline outside that was left to dry.
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    Font - Since I was busy i called my sister to do it. Note that the clothes were not mine at all. They belonged to my mom, my sister and my dad. I had left my mom's and sister's clothes to dry. Not my usual chore, just helping.
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    Font - My sister is mostly a lovely person and goes out to do it. Then my dad yells at her and tells her that it's raining. It's barely raining. Just a few drops here and there.
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    Font - So I go outside and he's sitting there FIDGETING on his ipad. I'm kind of p sed off and this convo follows Me: Could you please do it this once? I'm actually mopping the floor.
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    Font - Dad: No Me: Why not? You're simply sitting here and I'm doing something else.
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    Font - Dad: Coz i dont want to(yes he said that). You left them out to dry so it's your responsibility. Me: those are not even my clothes. Dad: So... None of my business.
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    Font - I quit trying and went to do it. Thats when i noticed: his clothes were also there. Cue the malicious compliance: He said it was my responsibility because I left the clothes out to dry, but i didn't leave his clothes out.
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    Font - So i took down my sister's and mom's clothes and let his clothes remain. He was so immersed in his ipad he didn't notice.
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    Human body - Conclusion: All of his pants were there and they got wet. Its rainy season where i live so good luck with drying those pants.
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    Font - Although I don't regret it, my mom said what I did was very wrong. AITA?
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    Font - Edit: This happened today. I'm not able to see some comments but by now I'm pretty convinced that I was being a total b thole. What do I do now? He's giving me the silent treatment now. Update : i tried apologizing after a lot of you told me to and he rejected it.
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    Font - Update 2: It's okay he'll cool down at some point. I got this really negative dm from a very entitled parent but I don't know how to post it. Any help?
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    Font - Zoreb1 +2 I am reading the criticism. They tend to ignore that you were busy with an existing chore while your father wasn't. Your sister agreed to take in the clothing but (I am inferring) your father wouldn't let her because it was raining. It is all on your dad. The goal is to get the clothing in before they got soaked and he refused to allow that to be done. It is more petty revenge but he deserved it.
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    Font - Alphaguitarist OP. My sister is 10 and she might've caught a cold. She doesn't have the best immunity
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    Font - Tank_Girl_Gritty_235. ETA: OMG I KNOW WE'RE NOT ON r/aita NTA. I hate parents who treat their kids like servants. Contributing to house work is one thing, but acting like you owe them for being born and raised is absolute bulls 2.7k Reply Share Alphaguitarist OP. Thank you. I got another comment saying I was also wrong. And the thing is I don't even get an allowance
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    Font - securitysix +1 What do I do now? He's giving me the silent treatment now. Enjoy the peace and quiet? 121 Reply Share Alphaguitarist OP Yeah but things are kinda tense.
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    Font - ReflectingPond I wouldn't have treated you like your dad did, so my kids wouldn't have felt they needed to obey the "letter of the law" in order to get me back. If you were TA, he started it. Then to reject your apology? What is he, 2? I also don't like the whole favoritism angle: why is it too rainy for her, but not for YOU? Does he generally treat you as less than your sister? And your mom says YOU were wrong?
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    Font - I don't know what your family dynamic is normally like, but in my house we treat each other respectfully, and value each other evenly. You might look around at your friends' families, maybe do some research, see if your family dynamic really is healthy. I'd give my spouse a huge lecture if he dared treat our older child as less than the younger (or vice versa).
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    Font - Chupapinta Sometimes you have to decide if you want to make a point, or it you want to be the adult in the the situation. You = 75% adult. Him = 1% (he noticed the rain.)
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    Font - Alphaguitarist OP 50 % of me now feels that i did the wrong thing
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    Font - SEDA Innerestin Hey, OP, You're getting a lot of feedback here. I just want to add a few things: I admire the way you see both sides of your parents. It's obvious to me that you love them but you don't like what your dad does. You're not ranting about what bad people they are. That's maturity. I'm sad that you're dad is/seems childish and immature. I wish we all had perfect parents, but the imperfect ones teach us a lot. I think you're learning how to be mature from your dad.
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    Font - I'm guessing that your dad has learned to be entitled from his culture. This is just one instance, and as you say, he's not like this all the time. However, entitled people make life worse for other people. I think you're going to learn to be a better person and father from him. You, you're 17. Good job on reflecting on this and asking for others' opinion. I hope your father also reflects on this, or is at least more careful in the future. Parents can grow too.
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    Font - Good luck to all of you. I hope your sister's health gets better. I hope you all experience more consideration and appreciation for each other.
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    Font - lopjoegel Time for Dad to realize you are pretty near an adult. He should try to be one too. 67 Reply Share Alphaguitarist OP. He can be pretty childish in some cases.
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    Font - suziequzie1 I've learned this: if someone is giving you the silent treatment, enjoy the silence. Better than them cussing you out or nagging or sniping insults at you. 22 Reply Share Alphaguitarist OP. You're right. I tried to apologize and he snapped at me

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