'I did not think I was the entitled one here': Dinner guest tells host she's being 'unappreciative of their traditions' because she won't eat mayo

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    Font - AITA for "disrespecting a family recipe" and calling someone entitled for policing my food? Not the A-hole TLDR: My family hosted a dinner with some family friends and one got really upset at my meal of choice. I felt I was justified at the time, but since my family hates conflict, I am wondering if I may be TA.
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    Font - BG: I (24f) moved out of home for school at 18 and have been living abroad on my own ever since, cooking my own food. I don't believe I am a picky eater, but I do avoid certain foods (most meat, mayo, vinegar). If I am invited somewhere and I don't like the food or some of the ingredients I will smile and eat anyways, but I avoid those foods if I can choose. My mother knows about it, so when she cooks, she usually will set aside a small portion for me before adding mayo or vinegar.
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    Font - One of the side dishes of yesterday's meal was a potato salad typical of my region. Basically potato puree with small pieces of veggies and seafood mixed in mayo. Mayo is a key element of the recipe, which is why I never order that dish, but my mother usually sets aside a portion before adding the mayo. Usually, she will set aside a big portion so that other people feel welcome to eat the alternative, no mayo version if they want (dinners here are always potluck style), but this time she
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    Font - that had no mayo yet, not more than three or four spoons. So when we served dinner, I just took the plate for myself. We have eaten with everyone invited yesterday countless times and I can't remember any time any of them ate the no-mayo version. I ate the same main as everyone else.
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    Font - One of the family friends noticed my plate was different. She asked me if I didn't think the potato salad was great? I agreed. Then why did my plate look different, and why hadn't I been served from the same dish as the others? I told her mine had no mayo. Did I have any intolerance? No ma'am, I just don't like mayo. But potato salad without mayo is just potato puree! Maybe, ma'am, I enjoy potato puree.
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    Font - At this time she started insisting I try the real recipe and see how good it is. I told her I grew up with it, I knew it was good and I was happy everyone enjoyed it, I just preferred my version. I admit I was a bit short, I didn't see my meal choice warranted so much attention. My family hates conflict and was trying to steer the conversation somewhere else, but this person went on a rant about how young people are entitled and unappreciative of their traditions. I looked her dead in the
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    Font - Complete silence. She was visibly annoyed but let my mother change the topic. I believe I was on my right to tell her she was out of line, but my poor grandpa looked dismayed at the tension, and it probably would have been easier if I had taken a small portion with mayo and politely agreed. So AITA?
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    Font - ApocolypseJoe A: Aficionado [19] NTA It's one thing to ask a question about why you had a different side dish out of curiosity, but she doubled down and was trying to berate you for it. In your own home. That will always make her the as
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    Font - setomonkey NTA and I'll never understand why people insist on sticking their noses into someone else's choices when it doesn't affect them. Why does this person care how you like your food or what you don't like to eat?
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    Font - Llyris_silken NTA she sounds insufferable. If you had taken a small bite she would have gone on and on about how she had fixed your taste in potato salad. She was just looking for someone to pick on. With friends like these....
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    Font - JegHaderStatistik. Pooperintendant [61] NTA what a weird thing to be so upset about... 898 Reply Share dinoleftthechat OP. Agreed, although I wasn't surprised because it's not the first time she has been judgy about my food. We had some disagreements when I was a teenager and saw her more often. E.g., when I would just eat sides because
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    Font - I didn't feel like eating meat, she would comment on how the meat was great and insist I had to try it, but I usually held firm and her daughter or son would tell her to leave me alone. This time it was only her and her husband.
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    Font - Awesome_5ammy. NTA, you were honest... she could have left it alone easily and everything would have been fine.
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    Font - Plumbus-Grab-816. NTA. As a fellow mayo hater I salute you. And good for you because I probably wouldn't have been as kind to being badgered into eating salty egg slop.
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    Font - HurricaneBells NTA. She is a guest in your home and should act like it. It's absolutely none of her business.
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    Font - Parasamgate Aficionado [11]| NTA.So much NTA. You did great. You established reasonable boundaries, and only were as firm as you needed to be to let agro- auntie know you didn't need her commentary on what you eat. A: Congratulations on putting that overstepping old person in their place.
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    Font - This idea of no conflict is a tool of social control the older people in your family use to keep everyone in line, since they are the ones that are determining what is acceptable, and if you don't like it, well that means you are the problem for having ideas and starting conflict. That won't work on you anymore now. You changed that story by letting know auntie you are an adult, you are your own person, and you have made the decision that works for you. Thank you for your concern, but no.
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    Font - Imagine being such a judgmental person that you say that young people are entitled for wanting one scoop less of mayo in the food they eat than someone else. This hurts her not at all, but she wanted to...put you in your place? Complain about your whole generation too? She sounds sad and small. You did great. Everyone knew it too. But they didn't know how to respond when you didn't just go along with agro- auntie so they all got silent. Keep it up! If you were my daughter I would be so pr
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    Font - EXP B thr-oh-noes NTA. You're entitled to eat the foods you like and avoid those you dislike. Next time you see that family member, ask them which type of food they absolutely disgust and then ensure it is served at the next pot luck. When you notice they don't have any on their plate, start speaking loudly about how entitled and rude they are. 44 Reply Share dinoleftthechat OP. That's so petty, I love it!
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    Font - Kasparian Pooperintendant [56] NTA. That lady needs to mind her business. If I would have been your mother, I'd have asked her to leave once she kept on nagging about it. People need to learn how to behave in other people's homes.
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    Font - wrestlingmama_87. NTA - you explained (when really you didn't have to) and she chose to preach about "entitlement". Her own fault she got a response she didn't like.

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