Men Share Sacred Marriage Advice Based on Personal Experience

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    Font - Posted by u/soul_sucker_23f 13 hours ago Married Men, what are the unspoken rules for successful marriage? For me it's care, care and care
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    Font - bradx90 13 hr. ago A big thing is, when you have problems, attack the problem, not each other. Respect, flexibility, and loving your partner more than you ever have yourself are essential. 4.6k Reply Share
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    Font - PM_Georgia_Okeefe 14 hr. ago I always say you want to make sure it's a 60/40 relationship, where each person is trying to be the 60. 2.1k Reply Share
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    Font - (D Specialist_Program94 · 14 hr. ago Learn to separate their changes from yours. A time will come when your spouse will start to annoy the st out of you, and your first instinct will be to become frustrated at how much they've changed.
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    Font - But you changed too. And these two new people who are light years different than the kids that got married all those years ago will have to find common ground.
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    Font - j1akey 14 hr. ago edited 6 hr. age ● • Don't go out of your way to do things that make your partners life harder. • If something is bothering you then talk about it right now or as soon as is reasonable. Don't sit on it for a month then bring it up in an argument later.
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    Font - • If you say something that could be taken as rude or sarcastic toward your partner then apologize for it when you realize what you did (if you realized it in the first place). • S x is important.
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    Font - • "small" things matter. Doing chores without being asked or told for example. • Learn to manage your money. This is super important. Learning to talk about money without introducing all kinds of emotions is even more important.
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    Font - • Don't get lazy. Always be trying to improve and grow as a person. Getting a partner is just the beginning. Then you have to be good enough to be worth keeping. • Have your own life / hobbies / interests. It's good to have common interests but have your own things too that you can do without them. You need time apart and your own s t going on.
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    Rectangle - EntropyHouse 11 hr. ago ● Sarcastic humor has to be balanced with sincere compliments. If you're not good at the latter, throttle back on the former.
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    Font - bluewing99 13 hr. ago Don't marry someone thinking you're going to change them. If you had trouble getting along before marriage don't get married.
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    Font - A Eastern_Let9725. 14 hr. ago Laugh as much as possible together, even at each other's own expense sometimes. Know each other's vulnerabilities and never ever ever use them against each other.
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    Font - Fred Chocula 13 hr. ago ● Keep having fun together. Go out and do things together. Never stop dating and don't take your partner for granted.
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    Font - hujambo11 14 hr. ago Trick question. Marriages depend on good communication. If you're leaving any rules "unspoken," you're setting yourself up for failure.
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    Font - ProbablyLongComment 14 hr. ago Choose your battles. • No two people agree 100% of the time, and being able to evaluate how much weight a disagreement should have is an undervalued skill. Many adults I know treat all conflicts with the same intensity, which is a very chaotic way to live.
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    Font - That said, it's easy to slip into a pattern of one person getting their way most/all of the time, because that person overreacts, and the other is trying to keep the peace. This quickly leads to a very toxic and one-sided dynamic, which is an untenable model for a relationship. When this happens, both people are equally at fault: the aggressor is causing the imbalance, and the defender is enabling them by cowering.
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    Font - Balancing these two things is not easy. Giving in because most things "aren't a big deal" seems to make sense in the moment, but when you look back, it's a trail of aggression and giving in that led to a wreck of a marriage. Unfortunately, many people equate a "successful" marriage with a long-lasting one, and don't prioritize a happy and peaceful marriage over stacking anniversaries.

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