'I eventually snapped': Nitpicking aunt relentlessly terrorizes the bride-to-be; heroic bride stands up for herself and threatens to uninvite her

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    Font - Posted by u/throwraweddingmil 2 days agoş AITA for telling my MIL if she said one more thing about my wedding, she'd be uninvited? I Not the A Okay so I (26f) am Indian and my fiance (26m) is white, that never really caused problems for us and we've been together for four years.
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    Font - My MIL (46f) and I aren't particularly close but it's never caused the blow ups I've seen on subreddits like these and other places. I decided to include MIL in my wedding planning as a nice gesture
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    Organism - and thought she could help out a little. Colin and I already decided that our wedding was going to have the elements of a traditional indian wedding beforehand. MIL endlessly critiqued everything
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    Font - I've said was going to be in the wedding such as me wearing a red lehenga choli because white was the symbol of holy matrimony, how clunky my wedding jewelry was, the designs of the table cloths, the
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    Font - flowers in our arrangements, how many people from my side of the family were attending, etc. I tried to hold out for Colin's sake but I eventually snapped when my
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    Font - MIL told me that my curly hair was unruly" and unfit for a wedding since I decided to not straighten it for the wedding when I invited her and my sister Saira (23f) to look at possible hairstyles. 11
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    Font - I told MIL that if she said one more thing about the wedding, she'd invited and that clearly p sed her off because she got up and left straight away to complain to her husband about it.
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    Font - Hour laters, I got texts from my FIL talking about how disrespectful I was to threaten his wife from being uninvited from her own son's wedding and I should apologize immediately.
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    Font - Both Colin and Saira said that MIL was pushing it with what she said and my reaction was understandable, but I keep getting texts from my FIL and MIL shaming me over it.
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    Font - EDIT: I feel like I should add my MIL seemingly hated that Colin was going to be wearing a sherwani and I was going to have my matha patti on.
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    Font - Gypsyheartwanderer 2 days ago Partassipant [2] Your hair is too curly and unruly? Your red lehenga choli is unsuitable because it isn't white?! Your FMIL is being extremely disrespectful of your culture
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    Font - HRProf2020 2 days ago NTA at all. In fact, you're my hero for managing to bite your tongue for so long! And major props that you have a guy who's standing up to his parents on this- there are too many posts on here where that's not the case.
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    Font - MIL clearly has a vision for her son's wedding and that doesn't include a bride with curly hair or different cultural traditions. You did a wonderful thing by inviting her to be a part of the planning and she's blown that up.
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    Font - SirLostit 2 days ago Also, Indian brides traditionally wear red... white is for a widow who is in mourning. Different cultures have different things. it would be very weird for an Indian bride to wear white to her wedding.
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    Rectangle - ParsimoniousSalad 2 days ago His Holiness the I NTA. Colin needs to take over communication with his parents and make it clear that her backing off is HIS desire too.
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    Font - Cocoasneeze 2 days ago Supreme Court Jus ΝΤΑ Drop her from all wedding prep with you. Put her on a complete info diet, and let your fiance handle her from now on.
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    Font - readerdl22 2 days ago This is the way. I don't understand why OP continued to involve FMIL in the wedding planning when she was being such a pill, it's easy to just stop communicating with her about it.
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    Font - CynicallyCyn 2 days ago Yep my mother-in-law thought my wedding was hers. She didn't like my colors, she didn't like my locations, she didn't like my guest list, etc. etc. etc. So, I canceled the formal wedding.
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    Font - My husband and I got on a plane and went to Jamaica for three weeks and got married there. It was fantastic! After a few months mother-in-law threw a cocktail party for her friends, and that was enough for her.
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    Font - tango421 2 days ago Partassipant [1] | This is the way. Honestly, you don't need the extra stress especially on the home stretch. ΝΤΑ
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