'If you think I'm the only one mad and upset with you two, think again': Entitled aunt returns Christmas card and pens a scathing note telling her nephew and his wife that they should "be ashamed"

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Remy Millisky • Writer and Editor
Nov 16, 2023 11:00 AM EST

Some people get really hung up on thank-you cards. Plenty of folks place a high value on gift-giving, and for some reason, they are also very insistent on receiving a thank-you note. 

Thanking the gift-giver as you open their present should be enough, right? When you can look the person in the eyes and genuinely appreciate their thoughtfulness and chat about the gift, that seems like it should be sufficient. But some people believe that if you don't send a physical thank-you card as soon as possible, you're being incredibly impolite. 

When I give a gift, I don't really care what happens after the fact, because the present was for the other person. If I start demanding a thank-you card, that would make me feel selfish, as if I'm putting attention on myself instead of the birthday boy or girl, or the wedding couple. It's as if some people give a gift, and then want a special reward for doing so. Nope! No need to weaponize manners… Just give your gift with no expectations, and you'll probably feel a lot better about the outcome, whether you get a thank you card or not. 

This aunt was so upset over not receiving a thank-you card from three years ago (!!) that she wrote a scathing letter to her nephew and his wife. Her handwriting is quite hard to read, so check out the transcriptions of the letter. Then, this teacher brought in a Halloween themed dish that was perfectly edible, but due to the way it looked, no one would eat it! 

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    Married 3. years and 4.00 -gat de 'My husband's aunt mailed us back our Christmas card that we sent her...' We You. a fel сот think I'm the only one. with you theve think un сем
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    My husband's aunt mailed us back our Christmas card that we sent her and added this lovely note to the back of it. We mailed her the thank you card that she wanted. It includes a $100 check with the memo "Stick it up your ".. using her own words. She'll still receive Christmas cards each year :)
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    In the first portion of the note, the aunt writes:

    please don't send one any more christmas ards. You have been Married 3 years and I still have never gat A thank you card from both of you. disent you 700.00 was not at your weddings did not eat. If MIUM AL PAPER DNP
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    "Please don't send me any more christmas cards. You have been married 3 years and I still have never got a thank you card from both of you. I sent you $100.00, was not at your wedding, did not eat." (continued below)

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    Continuing on in the worst cursive ever plus a smeary pen, the aunt writes:

    P You think I'm the only one. Malt I upset with you two think again there is a lot of relatives up ist. you two should be ashormed of your andres you couldn't send a thank Card But have the nerve to senda hristeys card wor go JVJ Wr
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    "If you think I'm the only one mad and upset with you two think again. There is a lot of relatives upset. You two should be ashamed of yourselves. You couldn't send a thank you card but have the nerve to send a christmas card. Stick it up your a--."

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    Followers were baffled, and many found the whole thing pretty hilarious

    Downsen Branches She wants a thank you for not showing up to the wedding?
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    dracosdracos Thank you for not being at the wedding
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    Creamysense "I received your thank you card in response to our Christmas card. I couldn't understand the handwriting but I really appreciate the gesture.!"
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    ReallyAlexRider Almost the exact same thing happened to us. Every birthday and Christmas my wife's aunt and uncle send us a birthday and Christmas card with a $25 traveller's check. We always thank them in person and give them birthday cards too. Once we gave them a gift and they said not to because it negates the money they gave us. Last year the Christmas card they sent me said "Merry Christmas.
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    Hopefully we actual get a thank you card for the first time in two years" Her uncle loves silly puns, so I sent them this card The card has a bottle of wine on it and says "Thank you So Much, I am Eternally Grapeful" I wrote "I heard through the grapevine you were wineing about me not thanking you. When I found out I had made such an egregious error, I was white with fear and red with anger. It kept me up at night, itching at me like a moscato bite. So I hope this card leaves you in good spirits
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    Now excuse me, I need a Napa. PS See you in 2 more years" Her uncle found it funny but her aunt called my mother in law about how and ungrateful I am and how it wasn't funny.
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    Johncamp28 I kind of agree with your husbands aunt. When I go to a wedding I literally give a gift, quit my job and sit by the mailbox waiting for the thank you card....wife gets annoyed like "come inside, you need to shave, you smell, stop ping on the lawn" but scr w her. I need that thank you card
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    SirArthurDime I've never understood the whole thank you card after a wedding thing. I get that it's a polite thing to do but I've never recieved one and thought "wow thery really did appreciate it". It usually ends up in the trash within a minute of opening it and if it was never sent I wouldn't even notice. Could never imagine actually being upset about it.
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    Saccarappa33 Terrible cursive.
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    Fa1c0n3 God I hope you thanked her for not attending the wedding. She would have for sure ruined the day.
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    danger-apple I mean if she's just that you didn't thank her in writing then this is nuts. But if you never actually thanked her at all, then yeah I'd think it was if I gave someone $100 and they didn't say thanks. That said, I can't imagine stewing over it for three years and then blowing up. I'd just use your bathroom and steal $100 of your boujiest products like a normal person. (jk obv)
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    D WilyDeject The moment they (the aunt) said "stick it up your " they lost any high ground in this conflict. If you're upset about not receiving a thank you note, address it appropriately or not at all.
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    confidelight There is WAY too many rules for what is social acceptable regarding weddings and it drives me nuts. I think I'll just elope and not tell anyone
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    GoosenChan My mother guilts me constantly about thank you cards to the point that I can't stand them. She's asked where her thank you card was when she got a gift for our first born. Had me write and mail her one even though I thanked her in person and again over the phone. Her friends sent us a gift as well to which I sent them a thank you card. They ended up getting us another small gift right after to which my mother insisted I send another thank you card. I'm not ungrateful, I
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    just think that's excessive. I'm a grown woman. If I know you well enough for me to call or text you thanks that should suffice. A thank you card should be a pleasant surprise not an expectation.
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