Entitled mother expects to 'still be friends' with the nanny after firing her on the spot for taking 6 days off for a medical emergency: 'Sorry honey... Blocked'

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Elna McHilderson • Managing Editor
Mar 24, 2024 1:00 PM EDT

"Sorry honey. You don't get to fire someone during one of the most traumatic moments of their lives and expect them to stay friends with you. Nor will I come running back when you realize you now have no childcare."

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  • The way some parents treat the people they hire to care for their children is mindboggling. You are paying them not only so you can have time away from parenting for a little, but also to help raise your kids. Their actions are just as impressionable to your kiddos as yours are. So why are Karen moms and dads just throwing these professional child caretakers around like nothing? 

    A recent nanny, @spongebo*bfancypants on Reddit, posted that she got fired on the spot after having to take only 6 days off for a medical emergency. For some reason, it didn't occur to the parents employing her that she was a human too and she was going through a very traumatic event in her life. They instead took this as an opportunity to fire her. The most insane part is that the entitled mother still had the audacity to text her saying she was upset about firing her too and that she still wanted to be “friends.” 

    WOW. Some people… Read the entire situation below! 

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    T "Sorry honey. You don't get to fire someone during one of the most traumatic moments of their lives and expect them to stay friends with you."
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    Entitled boss fires me, still wants to "be friends".
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    It's even worse than the title tbh. I've been this family's nanny for 3+ years. Youngest child is only 6. I took 6 days off (at their insistance) because I was having a miscarriage. The day before I was due to return, I got told "We've actually managed without you so could you just work tomorrow then we don't need you any more. But we can still be friends and meet up".
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    I worked that day. Picked up my stuff. Dropped off their keys. By the time I'd driven home she'd blown up my phone with messages saying "I'm upset TOO, you know!" I blocked her number. Now she's harassing my husband.
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    Sorry honey. You don't get to fire someone during one of the most traumatic moments of their lives and expect them to stay friends with you. Nor will I come running back when you realise you now have no childcare.
    via Spongeboobfancypants
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    • Jackalopeisa2nicorn 1 day ago What do you bet they start calling you to come back the minute their kid gets sick or difficult? No, your former employer knew she was being horrible and she's trying to make herself feel better by still offering friendship as the lady tries to wrench the knife she stabbed you with out of your spine. I am so sorry for your loss. ((virtual hug!))
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    . measaqueen · 1 day ago It's funny when people don't realize how good of a deal they are getting because they have been a customer for so long that as a courtesy their rates have been grandfathered in. After they fire you they are no longer a customer and when they come back they are now getting in at the going rate and service amenities. "What do you mean it's triple what you were charging me before? How is it that all those extra services I was getting for free are no longer available / are a
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    • paulrenaud 23 hr. ago When your ex boss said friends what she really meant was we might need you in the future and I'm saying the word friend so I can still call you when I need you
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    • RubyNotTawny · 23 hr. ago I am so sorry for your loss. My guess is that now that you're "friends" they'll expect you to watch the kids for free. Please don't fall into that trap. (Doesn't sound like you will, so stay strong.)
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    • Jaded-Berry-2086 1 day ago Sounds like they saw you as an employee first and a human second. It's a harsh reminder that, at the end of the day, work is work. Good on you for not sticking around for more emotional manipulation. "Friends" don't do that to each other.
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    CleanCartographer798 1 day ago It always seems crazy to me how some people treat the people that they leave their children with. It seems like this should be an important relationship but always seems to be disrespectful and penny pinching. Sad, really.
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    writesmith 1 day ago . Here's an interesting little factoid: In my business, sometimes I create unnecessary paid jobs or projects for people. Why? Because they're friends, and it came to my attention they need the money, or the responsibility, the distraction, or whatever. Just giving them a dignified option. And more often than not, they didn't ask in the first place. Being friends, one just becomes aware of what hurdles your friends are facing, or what they may need that could be helpful with
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    . Spongeboobfancypants OP 1 day ago Thank you. I never expected this job to last forever. Circumstances change, kids grow etc. I don't need their charity. But I always assumed that when the time came, we'd know and prepare. I would reduce my hours, and perhaps work until the end of that school term. At least some sort of notice period. They aren't struggling financially. This was just a kick in the teeth for no reason.
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    Vegetable-Cod-2340 1 day ago Nope, I get separating business from personal, but the delivery was wildly insensitive and their actions after didn't help. I'm so sorry for your loss op, but I wouldn't call you entitled for expecting better from someone that themselves considered you their friend.
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    1nfamous_outcome 18 hr. ago . Hey OP! My girlfriend had a very similar situation happen right at a year ago. She had been with her nanny family since 18. She's 24 now, and was 23 last year when they let her go. She raised both kids pretty much. And believe it or not, she had a great relationship with the parents. To our surprise, they suddenly just told her they no longer could afford her. Where this gets tricky is the husband had just helped us move into a new home 3 weeks prior. And the mom ha
    via 1nfamous_outcome
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    They'd been searching for an au pair for months we found out. And had found one already while all this was happening. They didn't have the decency to tell us, even though they already knew, when we had just purchased a home. Even though she'd been with them for so long and literally raised their kids. She would've even been willing to take a pay decrease. They were paying her 50k salaried, and she loved them. So she would've helped them out. Fortunately she found a new nanny family within the we
    via 1nfamous_outcome
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    The wife said this was "Great for us because we have decided that we don't like having an au pair. Someone else living with us for a year has been an inconvenience". And my girlfriend. quickly explained that she was offered a position elsewhere as a house manager for 85k. Ya know, insinuating that she was absolutely not going to pass it up. And this lady was livid. Saying how they invited her into their home all of those years and now she isn't willing to sacrifice. something of hers to help the
    via 1nfamous_outcome
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    My point is, it's not uncommon with these nanny families. Especially ones that pay the big bucks. They think your world revolves around them and act as if you don't have a life outside of their family. They will be beyond nice to your face at all times but the second something changes, 9/10 times they do not care about you.
    via 1nfamous_outcome

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