Entitled sister is banned from family beach holiday after demanding care for her children: 'She asked if they could go and I said no'

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    Posted by u/LOQUESEAPLIS 5 hours ago AITA for not inviting sister's family to the beach on easter holiday? Hi everyone! I'm eager to read your responses because I feel like I'm taking crazy pills. A bit of background, my (34F) sister (37F) is my mom's favorite, no way around it. She got married really young and her husband is fine but a bit clueless, he works hard and provides a nice life but lifting a finger for the kids would be beyond him lol. So my mom always instilled the "we gotta help
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    her out" mentality, and I poured my heart and soul into helping her raise her kids for years. And I mean it. Sadly, she then thought it was my responsibility and even left me with her kids HOURS AFTER MY C SECTION. Even now she throws full tantrums that ruin family vacations if I dont wanna look after her kids, but the general consensus in my family is: why couldnt you just take them? they really dont see the problem.
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    I mean, I would still make the effort of helping out if she had ever been even a bit nice to my kids - shes indifferent at most and downright at times. Which brings me to the present situation. My husband's family has a beach house and for years we would go there with my entire family to spend holidays - easter, xmas, new years and the like. However there is always something with her - I bring the food for everyone but shell bring some snacks for her kids ONLY. My son asked for a yogurt one time
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    time I asked for a bit of cheese for my daughter and she said no. That sort of thing. She'll bring a bag of pool noodles and from the dollar store for her kids only - my kids arent allowed to touch them or use them and she acts so annoyed if they even ask about them - for the record my kids are 5 and 3 YO. So this week we're going to the beach house and I havent invited her. She asked if they could go and I said no. So she wrote to my husband thinking he'd
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    override me and say yes of course. He didnt even reply to her message. Now shes boohooing to anyone who'll listen about how bad I am and pracically it's my fault her family won't get a vacation. AITA for not inviting her? I feel terrible for her kids but I just cant stand her being so effing to my kids in my face in my house.
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    OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the aaole: AITA? Im not inviting my sister's family to our holiday home because to my toddlers. But I feel she's bad for her children.
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    Lunar-Eclipse0204 · 5 hr. ago Pooperintendant [55] NTA and don't feel bad for her kids because in teh long run they are going to grow up to be just like her. this is what I would send her: You aren't invited for many reasons: 1) You don't seem to want to treat my children with respect, 2) You seem to think that you get free daycare from me while I am also trying to enjoy time with my kids and family, 3) You can't seem to help out beyond what you think is the bare minimum. I am also no longer hel
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    lilies117 · 5 hr. ago . NTA at all. Let her read this after it gets a few more comments so she sees that her behaviour is disgusting. I cannot believe she left you with her kids after you had a csection! I hope this boundary helps you to get brave enough to speak up from the start from now on. There is a great book about boundaries -- hopefully someone knows the title and author for you. It escapes me at this time. 445 Reply Share
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    Sweet-Interview5620 5 hr. ago • Be prepared for her to try and turn up and your mum make a big scene of her kids expected to come you can't break their hearts and turn them away now. Make sure everyone knows they will be thrown out if they try and bring her or her kids. 373 Reply Share
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    TheGoldDragonHylan 5 hr. ago • Honey, cut the cord. Don't involve your sister, grey rock your family. NTA, about this, of course, but get some distance, if only to protect your kids. 258 Reply Share • • •
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    ReviewOk929. 5 hr. ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [41] NTA - After years of treating you that way she really does not deserve to be invited or much of anything really. Surprised you put up with it for so long. 180 Reply Share
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    Horse_Beef678 · 4 hr. ago NTA. Being taken advantage of will continue forever (and get worse) if you don't take a stand. Good for you. I'd politely offer her the reason why they are not invited and won't be invited, but don't let her bait you into an argument. Honestly, I doubt the feedback will land at all she sounds kind of terrible haha. I've dealt with this kind of behavior and it's usually based in entitlement and complete lack of self awareness, which makes correcting bad habits very much

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