Parents Leave Daughter’s Wedding After Noticing She Refused to Wear the Gown That Her Estranged Step-Sister Had Made for Her

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Sienna Varady
Apr 2, 2024 9:00 AM EDT

Family should come first at all times. But what would you do if your sister decided to design your wedding gown? In other words, the dress that you have been dreaming of since you were a little girl will now be in the hands of an aspiring seamstress…

The story below is an account of a frustrated bride. The Original Poster (OP) tells the story of how her step-sister asked to design her wedding gown. OP was first hesitant to agree because the sister is by no means a trained wedding dress designer. However, after giving it some thought, OP decided to respect her family's wishes and allowed her step-sister to design the dress. Having said that, the sisters painstakingly examined every single element related to the outfit for months in order to make sure OP was happy. Therefore, you can only imagine how shocked OP was when she saw 'her' wedding gown in person and found that it was significantly different from the one they had ultimately settled for.

In light of this, be sure to read the story below if you're interested in learning the specifics of what happened and whether or not OP wore the gown to her wedding! When you're through, don't forget to take a look at these 27 relationship memes for lovestruck ladies preparing for a romantic night out!

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  • 01
    I was hesitant at first, as I'd been excited about picking out my own dress. I agreed because I didn't know Zoey well (my father had only been dating her mother for two years) and I thought this could be a nice opportunity to bond. Also, I'd seen some of her work (she'd made a couple ball gowns in college), and she seemed honestly good.
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  • 02
    AITA for not wearing the wedding dress my stepsister handmade for me?
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  • 03
    I (25F) got married two weeks ago. My now- husband (27M) and I paid for most of the wedding, but my father covered a few costs for us. My father's girlfriend "Stella" has a daughter, "Zoey" (21F), who is finishing her degree in fashion. She wants to get into the wedding dress industry once she graduates. When I started planning my wedding, she offered to design and make my dress.
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  • 04
    I was hesitant at first, as I'd been excited about picking out my own dress. I agreed because I didn't know Zoey well (my father had only been dating her mother for two years) and I thought this could be a nice opportunity to bond. Also, I'd seen some of her work (she'd made a couple ball gowns in college), and she seemed honestly good.
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  • 05
    We met up a few times to discuss our ideas. During those, I realized our styles were drastically different, but we still managed to agree on a design. I gave Zoey my measurements and asked her to update me. She didn't. Whenever I asked her how she was doing, she'd say she would send me progress pictures when she got home (she never did). It took her longer than expected to finish it, and I didn't get the dress until a month before my wedding.
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  • 06
    It looked nothing like the design we'd agreed on. It was the wrong color, the wrong style, everything. It looked exactly like the type of dress Zoey would want to wear, but I knew I'd never wear anything like it. I really did not like. that dress. When I tried it on, I found out it was also about 3 sizes too big. Though I knew I could probably have it altered, I truly did not want to wear that dress on my wedding day.
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  • 07
    I called Zoey and told her I wouldn't wear the dress. I said it looked lovely, but not the style we'd agreed on, and I thought it would be best for me to find a different dress. I offered to pay her for her work (she'd made the dress for free), but she declined and hung up on me. I went to a retail bridal store with my maid of honor, and we found a beautiful gown that didn't need much altering. It looked exactly like what I wanted.
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  • 08
    Fast forward to my wedding, I walked down the aisle in the dress I bought. Zoey seemed to be on the verge of tears during the ceremony, and Stella gave me dirty looks throughout the reception. When I approached them a while later, they were both short with me. My father, Stella and Zoey left less than an hour into the reception. My father and Stella called me the next day and told me off for how I'd treated Zoey. This had
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  • 09
    been her first time making a wedding dress and had been excited to see me wearing it. They said it was in Iting of me to not wear the dress she'd put so much effort into. I tried to explain why I hadn't worn the dress, but they're both insisting the dress was beautiful and I could have s ked it up. My husband and my younger sister (not Zoey) are on my side. I've been feeling guilty about this since I decided not to wear the dress. AITA?
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  • 10
    Popular-Jaguar-3803 · 18 hr. ago Partassipant [1] NTA. Zoey disrespected you by ignoring your wants. As a designer, she needs to listen to her clients. Plus her making the dress way too big means she isn't that great at it. Give the dress back to Zoey, and let her know that you appreciated the effort, but this was not the dress you wanted and the two of you agreed to. That you
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  • 11
    are sure she will find someone to appreciate the dress. As for her mom and your dad. Let them know that Zoey needs to listen to her clients. And that though you appreciate Zoey's efforts, it was not what you wanted and that as a client you don't need to it up. And that they should
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  • 12
    have learned to accept that people have a right to make their own choices. Especially regarding wedding dresses. Honestly wondering if Zoey did this on purpose to get attention during your wedding.
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  • 13
    ThrwayStepSisDress OP. 18 hr. ago I don't think she did this for attention. I think she got carried away and made the dress she wanted instead of the one we'd agreed on.
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    Popular-Jaguar-3803 · 18 hr. ago Partassipant [1] Sorry, but look at it how we see it. She knew that you would not be wearing the dress, because you are told her a month before and explained why. She had time to accept this and she knew.
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  • 15
    You walk down the aisle and she tears up. So her mom asks her why. She then tells her mom that you did not wear the dress she made for you. And whatever else she wanted to throw in. Now her at you. Because of mom is
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  • 16
    her mom would have been offended, they would never had shown up at your wedding or had addressed the issue before the wedding. You were played.
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    many_hobbies_gal · 18 hr. ago Professor Emeritass [71] NTA the thing about being a designer, especially a bridal designer is listening to the bride and what sort of dress they see themselves in. You likely didn't get any progress photos because she knew this was her style, not yours. It was your day
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    and your desires should have been honored. She never prepared you for the fact it was nothing like you wanted. She made your day all about her. Your father should have had your back.
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  • 19
    Diremirebee 18 hr. ago NTA, This could be a good learning opportunity for her but instead they're coddling her. If she wants to go into this industry, she needs to know how to work in it. You were being far nicer than she deserved in all honesty, leaving dress updates until a MONTH beforehand is cutting it incredibly
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  • 20
    close, this is why people start their hunts MANY months beforehand - almost a full year. Getting adjustments takes time, and you were lucky to find a dress that you like and that fits on such short notice. She could have majorly compromised your wedding.
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  • 21
    Honestly, I think you need to be pretty blunt with her about this because if this is how she's going to treat clients in future then she's going to struggle a lot. H I, show her this comment section.
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    Blobfish Blues 18 hr. ago Partassipant [2] NTA I'd go so far as say your father is a bigger here than Zoey was. Yes, she needs to learn to give her clients what they want, and accept criticism. Your father though takes the prize because not only did he not stand
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    up for you when his girlfriend and stepdaughter started giving you st, he gave you no opportunity to explain your side before agreeing with them and trying to make you the bad guy for not wanting to wear an ill fitting dress that wasn't even your style.
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    He's never going to stick up for you, even if he does hear the "truth" about things, he's still likely to never admit he was an a in this situation.
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